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Anonymous
Nailed it. |
Anonymous
We'll soon find out. I expect this thread to disappear soon. |
Anonymous
OP here. I did go to school when my niece and nephew were in school. I have a masters in nursing and completed that when I was 27. I’m 35 now. |
Anonymous
+1. |
Anonymous
| Thug is a pretty loaded term and you might want to stop using it. |
Anonymous
OP here. Man you guys must be really white. An “ a** whopping” means a good spanking. That’s not beating or child abuse. |
Anonymous
I actually do think it can cause food anxiety and EDs. You don't want your kids to be scared of any foods -- there are no foods that can hurt them. Cooking and serving whole foods is great; talking as though other foods will hurt you and are harmful is very damaging. Not eating will actually hurt them, to the point of dying. Have definitely heard stories of teenagers in treatment for potentially fatal anorexia who refuse to eat cereal bc their parents told them it was harmful. Cereal will not hurt them. My husband was like this at every meal and I could see the anxiety he was causing and I finally found an article that led him to completely stop. I will try to find it. |
Anonymous
OP here. No. Thug means delinquent behavior and can be used for any race, age, or gender. |
Anonymous
OP here. Whiny people like you always |
Anonymous
OP here. Whiny people like you always try to silence others. |
Anonymous
Racist much? |
Anonymous
Stupid people need to be silenced. |
Anonymous
Nobody spanks 15 year olds, not even black people (ask me how I know!). You're not talking about a "spanking" when you threaten to send your husband to whoop a 15 year old's ass. But you win, I'm team obvious troll at this point - Worked sunup to sundown from 18-25 because the adult going to school was never home, but then got a masters in nursing by 27? 'Kay. |
Anonymous
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Okay, OP's replies are screaming troll, but since screen and food restrictions ARE a common preschool parenting topic, I'll bite.
We were much like OP with "clean" eating and screen time when our kids were young. There are positives and negatives, and as kids get older the equation shifts quickly. For positives, my kids have much different palates even now when it comes to sweets. They still prefer veggies, plain greek yogurt, etc., and find things like birthday cake too sweet to eat in excess. They also both turned into voracious readers and are great with entertaining themselves. Better than their friends, from what I can see. Who knows if it's nature vs. nurture (yes, we absolutely lucked into kids that had a conducive temperament to that kind of parenting!), but even if it's just luck of the draw, we also encouraged and trained that temperament by not letting screens become a default option when they were bored. Yes, I fully acknowledge this doesn't work with every kid and some kids just suck at independent play or will fight you to the death before eating veggies. Not speaking to or judging those parents! The negatives are big though. While my kids don't love sweets, we did notice that they were turning into those kids that binge goldfish and chips at parties. We always had a "an out of the house special occasion thing" for chips, doughnuts, ice cream, etc. But that wasn't working to teach them self regulation, so we lightened up. My DH tends to binge snacks and prefers not to keep them in the house, so we still don't buy big bags of stuff, but we make a point to get them occasionally and stop for snacks at the corner store more often instead of bringing "healthy" snacks from home. School food is also a big one. The crap they serve (especially at breakfast), is total processed junk, but if they want it, then great, not every meal has to be perfect. And as they've gotten older and are much busier with activities, we also started letting them watch TV and play ipad games after school. They're BUSY and their brains need the time to just check out and relax. But they're older and already have "good" habits, and if I say "that's enough TV" or "find something else to do," we don't have power struggles over turning off the screen. But the point is, it's easy to control preschoolers when you do control their entire world and it doesn't come across as controlling. If you keep that up as they get older, yes you're setting yourself up for unhealthy, sneaky behaviors and rebellion. And thinking of food as good or bad is a recipe for future disordered eating. So pay attention to your kids and adjust your approach as needed, and loosen the reigns as they get older. And give your kid a poptart in front of the TV from time to time, just maybe not every day. |
Anonymous
Afraid of opinions? Is that why your kids need safe spaces? |