Inappropriate weight room dude

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hotel gym? I would ignore and laugh about it.

I would tell this person to mind his own business.

[Anonymous]

This is common behavior. My teenage gym bro son gets older men interrupting him on form (his leg position on a chest press). He turns around and criticizes their form on something. He said if you give it back, they shut up.

[Anonymous]

He’s probably working there to try to sell personal training sessions and knows that women tend to be less sure of themselves in the weight room so targeted you and your daughter to receive his “help.”

Believe me, I know how it feels. I’m a 54 year old woman and when I went to REI recently for new hiking shoes the young male salesman first tried to steer me to “shoes that would be better for gravel trails.” I came close to taking him down explaining the type of hiking that I actually do and he backed down pretty quickly, but it’s annoying to constantly feel like you have to prove yourself, and the guys still don’t get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s probably working there to try to sell personal training sessions and knows that women tend to be less sure of themselves in the weight room so targeted you and your daughter to receive his “help.”

Believe me, I know how it feels. I’m a 54 year old woman and when I went to REI recently for new hiking shoes the young male salesman first tried to steer me to “shoes that would be better for gravel trails.” I came close to taking him down explaining the type of hiking that I actually do and he backed down pretty quickly, but it’s annoying to constantly feel like you have to prove yourself, and the guys still don’t get it.

Mmmm.....somehow I doubt this guy was trying to sell personal training sessions to a hotel guest who is from out of town. Also you need a thicker skin. You feeling the need to "take him down" says a lot about you.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure they aren’t hitting on you?

[Anonymous]

Funny, I was just reading a thread elsewhere about how men are avoiding women at the gym now. As in, not even looking up at them. One guy said how he was in a part of the gym with a handful of other dudes all working out and a woman walked in and they all immediately left and went elsewhere. It has become too risky to be within vicinity of any woman at the gym. You don't make eye contact, you don't speak with them, you steer clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Funny, I was just reading a thread elsewhere about how men are avoiding women at the gym now. As in, not even looking up at them. One guy said how he was in a part of the gym with a handful of other dudes all working out and a woman walked in and they all immediately left and went elsewhere. It has become too risky to be within vicinity of any woman at the gym. You don't make eye contact, you don't speak with them, you steer clear.

Men are so dumb if they can’t manage simple socially appropriate behavior. It’s risky if you’re an idiot I guess.

[Anonymous]

OP, you need to increase your “we’re not having this conversation” game; he should never have been able to talk to you for that long.

Agree he was way out of line but you have to get elbows out.

-50 F gym rat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny, I was just reading a thread elsewhere about how men are avoiding women at the gym now. As in, not even looking up at them. One guy said how he was in a part of the gym with a handful of other dudes all working out and a woman walked in and they all immediately left and went elsewhere. It has become too risky to be within vicinity of any woman at the gym. You don't make eye contact, you don't speak with them, you steer clear.

Men are so dumb if they can’t manage simple socially appropriate behavior. It’s risky if you’re an idiot I guess.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny, I was just reading a thread elsewhere about how men are avoiding women at the gym now. As in, not even looking up at them. One guy said how he was in a part of the gym with a handful of other dudes all working out and a woman walked in and they all immediately left and went elsewhere. It has become too risky to be within vicinity of any woman at the gym. You don't make eye contact, you don't speak with them, you steer clear.

Men are so dumb if they can’t manage simple socially appropriate behavior. It’s risky if you’re an idiot I guess.

DP sure. Women’s egos are too big and fragile. Best to avoid or minimize all interactions with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny, I was just reading a thread elsewhere about how men are avoiding women at the gym now. As in, not even looking up at them. One guy said how he was in a part of the gym with a handful of other dudes all working out and a woman walked in and they all immediately left and went elsewhere. It has become too risky to be within vicinity of any woman at the gym. You don't make eye contact, you don't speak with them, you steer clear.

Men are so dumb if they can’t manage simple socially appropriate behavior. It’s risky if you’re an idiot I guess.

DP sure. Women’s egos are too big and fragile. Best to avoid or minimize all interactions with them.

Blame the victim mentality. Is it really too much to ask men to be decent people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s probably working there to try to sell personal training sessions and knows that women tend to be less sure of themselves in the weight room so targeted you and your daughter to receive his “help.”

Believe me, I know how it feels. I’m a 54 year old woman and when I went to REI recently for new hiking shoes the young male salesman first tried to steer me to “shoes that would be better for gravel trails.” I came close to taking him down explaining the type of hiking that I actually do and he backed down pretty quickly, but it’s annoying to constantly feel like you have to prove yourself, and the guys still don’t get it.

Women can be just as bad. I had joined a gym and had a personal trainer who is a body builder. I'm overweight but strong. I did a lot of lifting with that trainer and have good form. I am all about form. I went in for a pilates session with a young woman and when she saw me lifting a few days later she was hysterical and actually grabbed me trying to stop me. She was certain I had no idea what I was doing and would hurt myself. She would not leave me alone and came back with her concern multiple times. I told my trainer about it and he spoke to her so she wouldn't do that again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve lifted weights for 30 years in everything from a basement grunge gym to military bases, country clubs, lifetime fitness, golds, and hotels not once have I seen an employee walk the floor and monitor form. This is weird and anyone who doesn’t understand either doesn’t lift or is a mainsplainer themselves.

Who said anything about this guy "walking the floor and monitoring"? Now you're making up stories. You don't need to walk the floor to see if someone is doing something incorrectly. Also had you read what OP said, she did not say he corrected her or her DD. There was no correcting going on, merely suggestions for OPTIONS.

Congrats on your many years of lifting weights in so many interesting and challenging environments.....

You don't interrupt someone mid-set with a "suggestion[] for OPTIONS." You will go to any length to defend this creeper; kind of shows how you are full of BS too.

Yes you do. That actually is this guys job. You do not wait until someone wraps up doing something wrong. You step in. OP is off and so are the people defending.

It isn’t his job, you absolute idiot. There is no random weights expert, no certified personal trainer, who works at any hotel gym at any level. It quite literally doesn’t exist. If you ever traveled anywhere, you’d know this, and this is precisely why the women who actually use weights understood instantly how unusual this interaction is and was. This is someone in janitorial services, end of, who was watching OP and her 16 year old. Your ignorance is amusing, and you’re so far gone that you don’t understand that that is all you’re showing.

There is nothing wrong with OP. And there is everything wrong with you.

People on this site always, always attack any woman who complains about anything. Op, the rest of us are fed up with you.

also I didn't mean fed up at op but fed up with the situation too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Funny, I was just reading a thread elsewhere about how men are avoiding women at the gym now. As in, not even looking up at them. One guy said how he was in a part of the gym with a handful of other dudes all working out and a woman walked in and they all immediately left and went elsewhere. It has become too risky to be within vicinity of any woman at the gym. You don't make eye contact, you don't speak with them, you steer clear.

Men are so dumb if they can’t manage simple socially appropriate behavior. It’s risky if you’re an idiot I guess.

DP sure. Women’s egos are too big and fragile. Best to avoid or minimize all interactions with them.

Blame the victim mentality. Is it really too much to ask men to be decent people?

Did you even read the original post back on page 1? There is no "victim" here, that is insulting to those of us who have actually been real victims of men's behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Funny, I was just reading a thread elsewhere about how men are avoiding women at the gym now. As in, not even looking up at them. One guy said how he was in a part of the gym with a handful of other dudes all working out and a woman walked in and they all immediately left and went elsewhere. It has become too risky to be within vicinity of any woman at the gym. You don't make eye contact, you don't speak with them, you steer clear.

The advent of youtubers, tik tokers, influencers and their need for subscribers makes adversarial content valuable. It started with women recording themselves working out and sharing videos when men harassed them. Men are learning so now the videos are of women screaming at men who seem to be innocently working out and she is hysterically screaming that a man looked at her.