Inappropriate weight room dude

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yea I would complain to the hotel. What did you say to him when he “corrected” you?

OP never described being "corrected". He merely made a suggestion to both OP and her DD providing options to try, but did not "correct". Also the title of the thread is misleading - what she described is not at all inappropriate. I opened the thread thinking I was going to read something really alarming.

OP here. I disagree. I think it's inappropriate for an older man to be watching the women at a gym (even if he works there) and approaching them with "pointers" -- in my DD's case telling her to leave one machine and try a different one.

I say this as someone who has been in the weight room of my gym for years, surrounded by mostly guys, and never had this experience.

Also, it's just insulting to think that I, an adult woman, can't handle the barbell I am holding and need someone to come along and give me a tip. If I had been struggling, then it might make sense.

Whoa....you are very defensive OP. You need to chill out, you finding this entire interaction as gross and insulting says a lot about your insecurities.

People like you have shut down women for ages. You chill out. It is inappropriate and very annoying. I would complain to management. Men need to learn how to act and we need to stop tolerating their weirdo behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus. For someone who lifts so much and is such a self proclaimed gym rat you sure seem dumbstruck by a very mild version of the most common gym annoyance out there. And it comes from both genders, in all disciplines, employee or not.

Many people who work out a ton or, god forbid, for a living are absolute zeroes with no social skills. They also are borderline spectrumy about wanting to tell you everything they know about working out.

Your example is utterly benign. “Oh I’m gonna complain to the hotel gym about a gym attendant giving me (safety) tips on working out.” Please.

Toughen up, muscles.

F off dumbbell. Men do this all the time. It can be a form of intimidation. Guys need to learn how to act because most of us aren't going to tolerate the typical male bs.

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Anonymous wrote:If he works there, he has an obligation to minizimize the gym's liability by calling out anything that's even potentially unsafe. So if you hurt yourself, they can say "We warned you."

He may or may not have been biased in his call-outs, you can't know. It's better to go through life giving the benefit of the doubt to people than being mad all the time.

This is absolutely NOT how gyms operate.

Yeah. I’ve belonged to some gym or another for 30 years and not once have I seen an employee supervising form and safety for the floor in general. It’s always a dude who thinks he knows more than the women lifting who offer unsolicited advice- and usually bad advice at that.

+100 So much this.

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Anonymous wrote:If he works there, he has an obligation to minizimize the gym's liability by calling out anything that's even potentially unsafe. So if you hurt yourself, they can say "We warned you."

He may or may not have been biased in his call-outs, you can't know. It's better to go through life giving the benefit of the doubt to people than being mad all the time.

This is absolutely NOT how gyms operate.

DP: So gyms are NOT concerned about minimizing liability?

Yes, gyms want to minimize liability. Having an under-trained employee tell people to change their workout routines is much more likely to increase claims of liability.

Wait. How do you know this employee is "under-trained"? Now you're making some big assumptions so slant the discussion in your direction.

Because his comments were dumb. Most of the posts on this thread really show that many of your don't take the "exercise" part too seriously.

You sound angry and insecure. Your comment makes no sense.

Most of the comments on this thread show that people don't lift weights at the gym. This is a subforum dedicated to diet and exercise; it's questionable whether the posters giving advice actually do that.

How are you able to make this assessment based on the comment that OP or PP is angry and insecure? The two are not related, at all. They're just not. Again, insecurity is showing.

How am I able to make the assessment that most people commenting don't lift heavy weights? Because they think it is ok to interrupt someone who is lifting with their heavy weights under control. If you actually lift anything reasonably heavy, you would understand that part of the issue,

Actually I DO lift heavy, 3 times a week. I've never experienced this, and I've been lifting for the better part of 25 years. OP (you) are extremely insecure. Just stop it already, you've complained enough.

Chezus. You've never been to my Lifetime gym.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Jesus. For someone who lifts so much and is such a self proclaimed gym rat you sure seem dumbstruck by a very mild version of the most common gym annoyance out there. And it comes from both genders, in all disciplines, employee or not.

Many people who work out a ton or, god forbid, for a living are absolute zeroes with no social skills. They also are borderline spectrumy about wanting to tell you everything they know about working out.

Your example is utterly benign. “Oh I’m gonna complain to the hotel gym about a gym attendant giving me (safety) tips on working out.” Please.

Toughen up, muscles.

F off dumbbell. Men do this all the time. It can be a form of intimidation. Guys need to learn how to act because most of us aren't going to tolerate the typical male bs.

LOL, ok there champ!

You should smile more.

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Ugh. He sounds like the kind of guy who insists women should smile more.

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I dont find this inappropriate at all. I think you may think too highly of yourself.

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In my gym the trainers will talk to the general public if they are using incorrect form.

They don't do this for minor situations but when bad form is being used.

Trainers who correct are both women and men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my gym the trainers will talk to the general public if they are using incorrect form.

They don't do this for minor situations but when bad form is being used.

Trainers who correct are both women and men.

I have experienced this too. I find it helpful.

[Anonymous]

I can see why you might be perturbed. Unsolicited advice from a man in a gym can be annoying. But he is an employee so that is different. And you did not see him talking to your daughter, so maybe he did speak to other males there. Idk seems like a nothing burger to me. But you were in work out mode and did not want anyone to talk to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can see why you might be perturbed. Unsolicited advice from a man in a gym can be annoying. But he is an employee so that is different. And you did not see him talking to your daughter, so maybe he did speak to other males there. Idk seems like a nothing burger to me. But you were in work out mode and did not want anyone to talk to you.

This. OP wants to make a thing out of nothing. I'm surprised she didn't try to flame a Twitter pitchfork army to ruin the employee's life.

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Anonymous wrote:Complain. At best, he's a mansplainer. At worst, he's a creep.

Mansplaining, for sure. Some men think they know better than women what they should do and how they should do it. They feel a responsibility to teach you proper methods. Poor little silly girl, he's only trying to help. /s

Yup. I f’ing hate mansplainers.

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Anonymous wrote:If he works there, he has an obligation to minizimize the gym's liability by calling out anything that's even potentially unsafe. So if you hurt yourself, they can say "We warned you."

He may or may not have been biased in his call-outs, you can't know. It's better to go through life giving the benefit of the doubt to people than being mad all the time.

This is absolutely NOT how gyms operate.

NP. I have literally never seen an employee in any hotel gym I’ve never been in and I spend a lot of time in hotel gyms. And if I did happen to run into an employee there, it certainly isn’t his/ her responsibility to “ keep me safe. Unless you are my personal trainer, what i do in the gym is none of your business.

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I don't knwo how some DCUMers walk out the door in the morning. They take offense at anything and everything.

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I've had people try to talk to me while lifting, and at first I got irritated and assumed it was because I was a woman. Now that I've been lifting for many years, I've realized that a lot of men who lift are looking for social interaction along with a workout. And women, in general, are friendly, so they think you'll be friendly in a gym. I used to just brush them off and ignore them. Now, I talk to a couple of them, just small talk. And I feel like if something happened to me in the gym, they would help me. So I guess what I'm saying is that they might be creeps, or we might be jaded. Either is possible.