Inappropriate weight room dude

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea I would complain to the hotel. What did you say to him when he “corrected” you?

OP never described being "corrected". He merely made a suggestion to both OP and her DD providing options to try, but did not "correct". Also the title of the thread is misleading - what she described is not at all inappropriate. I opened the thread thinking I was going to read something really alarming.

OP here. I disagree. I think it's inappropriate for an older man to be watching the women at a gym (even if he works there) and approaching them with "pointers" -- in my DD's case telling her to leave one machine and try a different one.

I say this as someone who has been in the weight room of my gym for years, surrounded by mostly guys, and never had this experience.

Also, it's just insulting to think that I, an adult woman, can't handle the barbell I am holding and need someone to come along and give me a tip. If I had been struggling, then it might make sense.

As a female who used to work in a gym, it was our job to ensure everybody was working out safely — hence, why he was watching you. I’ve been on the flip-side of this argument — I assisted a gentleman who was trying to bench press too much weight (it was collapsing on him) and after I lifted the weight off of him, he got angry and kicked me.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you just want to brag. The man did nothing wrong and I can't believe some people are suggesting you complain to management about him. It's his livelihood and it sounds like he was just doing his job. Seriously ridiculous to complain about this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he works there, he has an obligation to minizimize the gym's liability by calling out anything that's even potentially unsafe. So if you hurt yourself, they can say "We warned you."

He may or may not have been biased in his call-outs, you can't know. It's better to go through life giving the benefit of the doubt to people than being mad all the time.

This is absolutely NOT how gyms operate.

DP: So gyms are NOT concerned about minimizing liability?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like you just want to brag. The man did nothing wrong and I can't believe some people are suggesting you complain to management about him. It's his livelihood and it sounds like he was just doing his job. Seriously ridiculous to complain about this.

Do you actually work out at a gym? From your comment, my guess is no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea I would complain to the hotel. What did you say to him when he “corrected” you?

OP never described being "corrected". He merely made a suggestion to both OP and her DD providing options to try, but did not "correct". Also the title of the thread is misleading - what she described is not at all inappropriate. I opened the thread thinking I was going to read something really alarming.

OP here. I disagree. I think it's inappropriate for an older man to be watching the women at a gym (even if he works there) and approaching them with "pointers" -- in my DD's case telling her to leave one machine and try a different one.

I say this as someone who has been in the weight room of my gym for years, surrounded by mostly guys, and never had this experience.

Also, it's just insulting to think that I, an adult woman, can't handle the barbell I am holding and need someone to come along and give me a tip. If I had been struggling, then it might make sense.

As a female who used to work in a gym, it was our job to ensure everybody was working out safely — hence, why he was watching you. I’ve been on the flip-side of this argument — I assisted a gentleman who was trying to bench press too much weight (it was collapsing on him) and after I lifted the weight off of him, he got angry and kicked me.

Did you tell people in the middle of working out to use a more effective machine? Did you interrupt sets of someone who could lift the weight? Besides she said warm and RDLs, OP was not going to collapse with weights on her body.

[Anonymous]

Karen gonna Karen. This is not the hill to die on. Move on with your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Karen gonna Karen. This is not the hill to die on. Move on with your life.

The choice isn't ignore or "die on a hill."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he works there, he has an obligation to minizimize the gym's liability by calling out anything that's even potentially unsafe. So if you hurt yourself, they can say "We warned you."

This. He works there. He's considerd an expert. He wasn't there to hit on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just a vent.

This has never happened to me before, but I am traveling, and was at the hotel gym doing my basic routine.

I am an older (52) slender woman, but I like to lift on the heavier side.

In the weight room, I grabbed a sixty pound barbell to warm up for RDLs and this older dude that works there (has a name tag) comes up to me in the middle of my set, motions for me to to take out my AirPods, and tells me that should I find the weight too heavy for my grip (I don't and I wasn't) I should try an over/under grip so I don't drop it.

I mean, WTH?!

He later approaches my 16 yo dd when she is on a machine and talks her into trying a different "more effective" machine.

Just gross.

The guy works there. He is trying to help. You are reading way too much into this.

I heard about that later, if I had seen it I would have flipped.

Meanwhile, this dude has nothing to say to any of the guys in the gym.

I am tempted to say something to hotel management.

Vent over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Complain. At best, he's a mansplainer. At worst, he's a creep.

Mansplaining, for sure. Some men think they know better than women what they should do and how they should do it. They feel a responsibility to teach you proper methods. Poor little silly girl, he's only trying to help. /s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he works there, he has an obligation to minizimize the gym's liability by calling out anything that's even potentially unsafe. So if you hurt yourself, they can say "We warned you."

He may or may not have been biased in his call-outs, you can't know. It's better to go through life giving the benefit of the doubt to people than being mad all the time.

This is absolutely NOT how gyms operate.

Yeah. I’ve belonged to some gym or another for 30 years and not once have I seen an employee supervising form and safety for the floor in general. It’s always a dude who thinks he knows more than the women lifting who offer unsolicited advice- and usually bad advice at that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yea I would complain to the hotel. What did you say to him when he “corrected” you?

OP never described being "corrected". He merely made a suggestion to both OP and her DD providing options to try, but did not "correct". Also the title of the thread is misleading - what she described is not at all inappropriate. I opened the thread thinking I was going to read something really alarming.

OP here. I disagree. I think it's inappropriate for an older man to be watching the women at a gym (even if he works there) and approaching them with "pointers" -- in my DD's case telling her to leave one machine and try a different one.

I say this as someone who has been in the weight room of my gym for years, surrounded by mostly guys, and never had this experience.

Also, it's just insulting to think that I, an adult woman, can't handle the barbell I am holding and need someone to come along and give me a tip. If I had been struggling, then it might make sense.

Whoa....you are very defensive OP. You need to chill out, you finding this entire interaction as gross and insulting says a lot about your insecurities.

Dude, read the room. Stop mansplaining to op how she should feel and definitely don't do it out in the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Complain. At best, he's a mansplainer. At worst, he's a creep.

Mansplaining, for sure. Some men think they know better than women what they should do and how they should do it. They feel a responsibility to teach you proper methods. Poor little silly girl, he's only trying to help. /s

But it's not limited to men. Women are chiming in [wrongly] thinking it's okay too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he works there, he has an obligation to minizimize the gym's liability by calling out anything that's even potentially unsafe. So if you hurt yourself, they can say "We warned you."

He may or may not have been biased in his call-outs, you can't know. It's better to go through life giving the benefit of the doubt to people than being mad all the time.

This is absolutely NOT how gyms operate.

DP: So gyms are NOT concerned about minimizing liability?

Yes, gyms want to minimize liability. Having an under-trained employee tell people to change their workout routines is much more likely to increase claims of liability.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he works there, he has an obligation to minizimize the gym's liability by calling out anything that's even potentially unsafe. So if you hurt yourself, they can say "We warned you."

He may or may not have been biased in his call-outs, you can't know. It's better to go through life giving the benefit of the doubt to people than being mad all the time.

This is absolutely NOT how gyms operate.

DP: So gyms are NOT concerned about minimizing liability?

Yes, gyms want to minimize liability. Having an under-trained employee tell people to change their workout routines is much more likely to increase claims of liability.

Wait. How do you know this employee is "under-trained"? Now you're making some big assumptions so slant the discussion in your direction.