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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just wanted to comment from another perspective.

I am 52 and never married - there are a variety of reasons why I have avoided marriage but one of the primary reasons was my realization from a very early age how rampant infidelity is at least among men- I cannot speak for women because I have never cheated in a committed relationship.

But as a pretty enough girl who was ‘built like a brick sh*thouse’ as my leering father used to say, I got hit on by men A LOT from age 14 until very recently when health issues caused a very significant weight gain. I can’t even remember all the times I was being hit on by married or committed men - I’m sure many who I thought were single were not. I only ever slept with one man I knew to be married - but only because I’d already slept with him a couple of times before he confessed his marital status and I very briefly faltered in my otherwise solid morality on the issue, but broke it off within weeks because I honestly could not sleep for thinking of his wife and children. This is doubtless because I saw my mother emotionally destroyed by my father’s repeated infidelity in their marriage.

Anyway so yeah, a lot of men are cheating. The stats vary so I don’t believe them I just trust my own experience. And I did not ever accept any of the proposals I got because I saw how this can destroy a woman’s psyche along with the family’s dynamic and I’d seen firsthand that the odds of a good sexy guy staying faithful were way too low for my liking, I am a risk averse person.

Oh I also forgot I spent a summer working weddings at a lovely Maine resort and I walked in on infidelity happening, on the wedding reception day, in closets and bathrooms alike.

In fairness once it was the bride doing a groomsman. [/quote]

It sounds like your dad's infidelity really did a number on you. This is tragic. In my observation people whose childhoods were scarred by their parents' infidelity later attract unfaithful people because they feel familiar with something about these individuals, and/or they expect it so they find it. Many many people do not give these guys the chance based on nightie more than a vibe picked up while dating. Men seem to have a sixth sense for women who are vulnerable to cheaters. [/quote]

Children of cheaters are more likely to cheat as well. [/quote]

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