Getting so much crap for wanting a vacation house of our own- thoughts?

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Anonymous wrote:OP is naive in thinking that the cabin they but will be exclusively for the use of her own family.

Oh really? I mean, OP and DH will have one, maybe two sets of keys. They aren’t required to hand them over to anyone. What are OP’s parents going to do, break in?

OP has let herself be walked over all these years. Guaranteed the siblings are going to come barging in.

Sadly, there's some truth to this. We bought a vacation home near some family members, and the demand from other family members to use the house was truly eye-opening. They viewed it as part of the family compound and would not take a no for answer. We tried to set our boundaries, which was well worth our sanity, but it definitely strained the relationship and took years for it to return to normal.

Given OP's family history, it would not surprise me at all that her siblings will view their cabin as part of the family vacation hangout. I would have firm boundaries but also expect initial fallout.

That’s on you. That’s your choice and no one else’s. You’re acting like they are bad guys, but it’s you who is just a weakling. Sad.

Found the entitled family member.

That's exactly how my entitled family members acted: blaming us for having boundaries and couldn't even bother to be civil at family functions.

Like I said, OP, be firm, but also expect people to act really rudely.