Is this forum comprised mostly of Gen x people who are new parents?
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Anonymous
DP here. I had my kids when I was 36 and 39, so I will be in my 50s with teenagers. This is a rude question, but I will answer it for you because I think its surprising that you don't realize that people can have different life goals than you. Was that on purpose? Well, no. Because I never prioritized getting married/having kids. I never planned my dream wedding when I was a young girl, never babysat when I was in high school. I didn't even really think about settling down until I was in my late 20s/early 30s. I went to college, worked, went to grad school, grew my career, had friends, traveled, did stuff, lived on my own, blah blah. I enjoyed my life. I had boyfriends but wasn't in a place where I wanted to get married/have kids. In my friend group in DC/Arlington, that was not abnormal at all. In my early 30s, when I decided I wanted to settle down, I started dating different types of men who were more serious than those I dated previously. Found a good one, got engaged, got married, was pregnant within a year and was a first-time mom at 36. In retrospect I wish I had started a year or two earlier so that I could have had 3 kids vs 2. But in that scenario, I wouldn't have the husband and kids I do now, and I wouldn't trade them for the world. |
Anonymous
| I'm a young Gen X-er (46)with 2nd and 4th graders - most of the people I know who use this website are 5-10 years younger than me. |
Anonymous
That's pretty normal around here you freak. Not all of us wanted babies in our 20s, I was too busy traveling the world, making tons of money, and partying. Very happy with my life choices. |
Anonymous
It is not normal anywhere and you know it. As does the other pp. You were all late to mature and get your lives in order. Now you are like fish out of water here. Having kids in late 20s and early 30s is the norm for educated women. But sure whatever you say, you know you regret it. |
Anonymous
| I'm an older millennial who had my only at 26. They are 14 now. The youngest Gen-Xers are about 42, right? The oldest millennials having babies are "old parents" now. |
Anonymous
+1 It’s normal in educated areas. |
Anonymous
| 55 with 13 and 18 yr olds. I was happy to wait to have kids. Nothing “wrong” with that. |
Anonymous
| 49 year old gen Xer (1973) with a 7 year old and a 10 year old. Husband is 50. Married late at 36 then Infertility needed help twice. |
Anonymous
same |
Anonymous
You sound kinda unhappy. |
Anonymous
PP is brunch-deprived. |
Anonymous
Weird pedantic flex when you get the GenX dates wrong. You're not late GenX at 50, at all. 50, kids 19 + 17 |
Anonymous
I meant late as in one of the last. To me, early gen x are the oldest, and late are the youngest, tail end. |
Anonymous
GenX is 1965-1981, so you and I are squarely in the middle. Neither early or late. |