When you didn’t “do enough” as a host

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Anonymous wrote:Ignore your sisters and the posters criticizing your menu— as long as no one was hungry no one is entitled to a particular kind of meal, good grief I’ve never heard anything more gluttonous.

Had your sister been drinking heavily? If not, I would tell her if it comes up again that she is not required to accept an invitation next year.

I always leave hungry during a meal of heavy apps. I’m 50- do you think I’m going to spend the night filling up on bruschetta or something like that?

If you’re 50 I assume by now someone has told you that you eat politely at your hosts house, say thank you graciously, and depart. You can get takeout on your way home if there is something about bruschetta that a 50 year old cannot safely due to their advanced age or other dietary conditions. The 50 y/os in my life are either much healthier than you or much more polite, not sure which.

There are two issues -- as a guest whether you say anything (obviously no) and now whether in this anon forum people can give their views on appetizer dinners (yes, of course we can, and I don't like it). "Heavy apps" is not actually a dinner. You folks must have the most disordered eating. The only people I know who actually think this is a dinner have very unhealthy eating patterns.

Can you explain how you are unable to eat a filling amount of food from a heavy app spread? I think we are all baffled.

I'd nibble to be polite and then stop on the way home. Frozen items, cheese and crackers isn't particularly healthy.

What would you normally eat for a holiday meal that would also be "healthy?" Just because its home made, doesn't mean it's healthy.

We made tenderloin, Greek salad, fattoush, rice dish, green beans/mushrooms, roasted potatoes, roasted veg, kibbeh, etc., plus apps when guests arrive and dessert. There’s a huge difference between making a meal and serving “heavy apps”, the latter not supposed to be your main dish. While I don’t expect Xmas to be healthy, I do expect real food most times

That's a lot of carbs and I don't eat red meat as a protein. It's easy to tear apart and criticize any meal. While your food is real, it's not health food.

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Anonymous wrote:Ignore your sisters and the posters criticizing your menu— as long as no one was hungry no one is entitled to a particular kind of meal, good grief I’ve never heard anything more gluttonous.

Had your sister been drinking heavily? If not, I would tell her if it comes up again that she is not required to accept an invitation next year.

I always leave hungry during a meal of heavy apps. I’m 50- do you think I’m going to spend the night filling up on bruschetta or something like that?

If you’re 50 I assume by now someone has told you that you eat politely at your hosts house, say thank you graciously, and depart. You can get takeout on your way home if there is something about bruschetta that a 50 year old cannot safely due to their advanced age or other dietary conditions. The 50 y/os in my life are either much healthier than you or much more polite, not sure which.

There are two issues -- as a guest whether you say anything (obviously no) and now whether in this anon forum people can give their views on appetizer dinners (yes, of course we can, and I don't like it). "Heavy apps" is not actually a dinner. You folks must have the most disordered eating. The only people I know who actually think this is a dinner have very unhealthy eating patterns.

Can you explain how you are unable to eat a filling amount of food from a heavy app spread? I think we are all baffled.

I'd nibble to be polite and then stop on the way home. Frozen items, cheese and crackers isn't particularly healthy.

What would you normally eat for a holiday meal that would also be "healthy?" Just because its home made, doesn't mean it's healthy.

We made tenderloin, Greek salad, fattoush, rice dish, green beans/mushrooms, roasted potatoes, roasted veg, kibbeh, etc., plus apps when guests arrive and dessert. There’s a huge difference between making a meal and serving “heavy apps”, the latter not supposed to be your main dish. While I don’t expect Xmas to be healthy, I do expect real food most times

That sounds fantastic. Even though it may be things people still eat at normal times!

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Anonymous wrote:Ignore your sisters and the posters criticizing your menu— as long as no one was hungry no one is entitled to a particular kind of meal, good grief I’ve never heard anything more gluttonous.

Had your sister been drinking heavily? If not, I would tell her if it comes up again that she is not required to accept an invitation next year.

I always leave hungry during a meal of heavy apps. I’m 50- do you think I’m going to spend the night filling up on bruschetta or something like that?

If you’re 50 I assume by now someone has told you that you eat politely at your hosts house, say thank you graciously, and depart. You can get takeout on your way home if there is something about bruschetta that a 50 year old cannot safely due to their advanced age or other dietary conditions. The 50 y/os in my life are either much healthier than you or much more polite, not sure which.

There are two issues -- as a guest whether you say anything (obviously no) and now whether in this anon forum people can give their views on appetizer dinners (yes, of course we can, and I don't like it). "Heavy apps" is not actually a dinner. You folks must have the most disordered eating. The only people I know who actually think this is a dinner have very unhealthy eating patterns.

Can you explain how you are unable to eat a filling amount of food from a heavy app spread? I think we are all baffled.

I'd nibble to be polite and then stop on the way home. Frozen items, cheese and crackers isn't particularly healthy.

What would you normally eat for a holiday meal that would also be "healthy?" Just because its home made, doesn't mean it's healthy.

You’ve never had a full serving of lean protein and lots of vegetables at a holiday meal? Your question itself is telling about your eating habits.

No, because I eat that every other meal. All things in moderation. You sound like you have an eating disorder.

No, I know that my mood is best when I ate like that. It’s actually pretty normal and healthy.

But it's not a holiday meal.

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Anonymous wrote:Ignore your sisters and the posters criticizing your menu— as long as no one was hungry no one is entitled to a particular kind of meal, good grief I’ve never heard anything more gluttonous.

Had your sister been drinking heavily? If not, I would tell her if it comes up again that she is not required to accept an invitation next year.

I always leave hungry during a meal of heavy apps. I’m 50- do you think I’m going to spend the night filling up on bruschetta or something like that?

If you’re 50 I assume by now someone has told you that you eat politely at your hosts house, say thank you graciously, and depart. You can get takeout on your way home if there is something about bruschetta that a 50 year old cannot safely due to their advanced age or other dietary conditions. The 50 y/os in my life are either much healthier than you or much more polite, not sure which.

There are two issues -- as a guest whether you say anything (obviously no) and now whether in this anon forum people can give their views on appetizer dinners (yes, of course we can, and I don't like it). "Heavy apps" is not actually a dinner. You folks must have the most disordered eating. The only people I know who actually think this is a dinner have very unhealthy eating patterns.

Can you explain how you are unable to eat a filling amount of food from a heavy app spread? I think we are all baffled.

I'd nibble to be polite and then stop on the way home. Frozen items, cheese and crackers isn't particularly healthy.

What would you normally eat for a holiday meal that would also be "healthy?" Just because its home made, doesn't mean it's healthy.

We made tenderloin, Greek salad, fattoush, rice dish, green beans/mushrooms, roasted potatoes, roasted veg, kibbeh, etc., plus apps when guests arrive and dessert. There’s a huge difference between making a meal and serving “heavy apps”, the latter not supposed to be your main dish. While I don’t expect Xmas to be healthy, I do expect real food most times

That's a lot of carbs and I don't eat red meat as a protein. It's easy to tear apart and criticize any meal. While your food is real, it's not health food.

lol. There’s 2 carbs. And it’s incredibly healthy and hearty. 1000x better than the pigs in blanket, Trader Joe’s/Costco apps that some lazy hosts are serving. If you cannot cook an actual meal, don’t host. This isn’t a college dorm

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Anonymous wrote:Ignore your sisters and the posters criticizing your menu— as long as no one was hungry no one is entitled to a particular kind of meal, good grief I’ve never heard anything more gluttonous.

Had your sister been drinking heavily? If not, I would tell her if it comes up again that she is not required to accept an invitation next year.

I always leave hungry during a meal of heavy apps. I’m 50- do you think I’m going to spend the night filling up on bruschetta or something like that?

If you’re 50 I assume by now someone has told you that you eat politely at your hosts house, say thank you graciously, and depart. You can get takeout on your way home if there is something about bruschetta that a 50 year old cannot safely due to their advanced age or other dietary conditions. The 50 y/os in my life are either much healthier than you or much more polite, not sure which.

There are two issues -- as a guest whether you say anything (obviously no) and now whether in this anon forum people can give their views on appetizer dinners (yes, of course we can, and I don't like it). "Heavy apps" is not actually a dinner. You folks must have the most disordered eating. The only people I know who actually think this is a dinner have very unhealthy eating patterns.

Can you explain how you are unable to eat a filling amount of food from a heavy app spread? I think we are all baffled.

I'd nibble to be polite and then stop on the way home. Frozen items, cheese and crackers isn't particularly healthy.

What would you normally eat for a holiday meal that would also be "healthy?" Just because its home made, doesn't mean it's healthy.

We made tenderloin, Greek salad, fattoush, rice dish, green beans/mushrooms, roasted potatoes, roasted veg, kibbeh, etc., plus apps when guests arrive and dessert. There’s a huge difference between making a meal and serving “heavy apps”, the latter not supposed to be your main dish. While I don’t expect Xmas to be healthy, I do expect real food most times

That's a lot of carbs and I don't eat red meat as a protein. It's easy to tear apart and criticize any meal. While your food is real, it's not health food.

Too many carbs? That’s the complaint from appetizer people? Are you serious?

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Anonymous wrote:Ignore your sisters and the posters criticizing your menu— as long as no one was hungry no one is entitled to a particular kind of meal, good grief I’ve never heard anything more gluttonous.

Had your sister been drinking heavily? If not, I would tell her if it comes up again that she is not required to accept an invitation next year.

I always leave hungry during a meal of heavy apps. I’m 50- do you think I’m going to spend the night filling up on bruschetta or something like that?

If you’re 50 I assume by now someone has told you that you eat politely at your hosts house, say thank you graciously, and depart. You can get takeout on your way home if there is something about bruschetta that a 50 year old cannot safely due to their advanced age or other dietary conditions. The 50 y/os in my life are either much healthier than you or much more polite, not sure which.

There are two issues -- as a guest whether you say anything (obviously no) and now whether in this anon forum people can give their views on appetizer dinners (yes, of course we can, and I don't like it). "Heavy apps" is not actually a dinner. You folks must have the most disordered eating. The only people I know who actually think this is a dinner have very unhealthy eating patterns.

Can you explain how you are unable to eat a filling amount of food from a heavy app spread? I think we are all baffled.

I'd nibble to be polite and then stop on the way home. Frozen items, cheese and crackers isn't particularly healthy.

What would you normally eat for a holiday meal that would also be "healthy?" Just because its home made, doesn't mean it's healthy.

We made tenderloin, Greek salad, fattoush, rice dish, green beans/mushrooms, roasted potatoes, roasted veg, kibbeh, etc., plus apps when guests arrive and dessert. There’s a huge difference between making a meal and serving “heavy apps”, the latter not supposed to be your main dish. While I don’t expect Xmas to be healthy, I do expect real food most times

That's a lot of carbs and I don't eat red meat as a protein. It's easy to tear apart and criticize any meal. While your food is real, it's not health food.

Too many carbs? That’s the complaint from appetizer people? Are you serious?

The point is, it doesn't really matter what the host serves. Go, eat something, and then eat at home later if you must. But don't be a jerk.

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Anonymous wrote:Ignore your sisters and the posters criticizing your menu— as long as no one was hungry no one is entitled to a particular kind of meal, good grief I’ve never heard anything more gluttonous.

Had your sister been drinking heavily? If not, I would tell her if it comes up again that she is not required to accept an invitation next year.

I always leave hungry during a meal of heavy apps. I’m 50- do you think I’m going to spend the night filling up on bruschetta or something like that?

If you’re 50 I assume by now someone has told you that you eat politely at your hosts house, say thank you graciously, and depart. You can get takeout on your way home if there is something about bruschetta that a 50 year old cannot safely due to their advanced age or other dietary conditions. The 50 y/os in my life are either much healthier than you or much more polite, not sure which.

There are two issues -- as a guest whether you say anything (obviously no) and now whether in this anon forum people can give their views on appetizer dinners (yes, of course we can, and I don't like it). "Heavy apps" is not actually a dinner. You folks must have the most disordered eating. The only people I know who actually think this is a dinner have very unhealthy eating patterns.

Can you explain how you are unable to eat a filling amount of food from a heavy app spread? I think we are all baffled.

I'd nibble to be polite and then stop on the way home. Frozen items, cheese and crackers isn't particularly healthy.

What would you normally eat for a holiday meal that would also be "healthy?" Just because its home made, doesn't mean it's healthy.

You’ve never had a full serving of lean protein and lots of vegetables at a holiday meal? Your question itself is telling about your eating habits.

No, because I eat that every other meal. All things in moderation. You sound like you have an eating disorder.

No, I know that my mood is best when I ate like that. It’s actually pretty normal and healthy.

But it's not a holiday meal.

So holiday meal means terrible food? Do you hear yourself? Make one or two extra fun dishes but don’t make it to so people are completely out of whack.

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Anonymous wrote:Ignore your sisters and the posters criticizing your menu— as long as no one was hungry no one is entitled to a particular kind of meal, good grief I’ve never heard anything more gluttonous.

Had your sister been drinking heavily? If not, I would tell her if it comes up again that she is not required to accept an invitation next year.

I always leave hungry during a meal of heavy apps. I’m 50- do you think I’m going to spend the night filling up on bruschetta or something like that?

If you’re 50 I assume by now someone has told you that you eat politely at your hosts house, say thank you graciously, and depart. You can get takeout on your way home if there is something about bruschetta that a 50 year old cannot safely due to their advanced age or other dietary conditions. The 50 y/os in my life are either much healthier than you or much more polite, not sure which.

There are two issues -- as a guest whether you say anything (obviously no) and now whether in this anon forum people can give their views on appetizer dinners (yes, of course we can, and I don't like it). "Heavy apps" is not actually a dinner. You folks must have the most disordered eating. The only people I know who actually think this is a dinner have very unhealthy eating patterns.

Can you explain how you are unable to eat a filling amount of food from a heavy app spread? I think we are all baffled.

I'd nibble to be polite and then stop on the way home. Frozen items, cheese and crackers isn't particularly healthy.

What would you normally eat for a holiday meal that would also be "healthy?" Just because its home made, doesn't mean it's healthy.

We made tenderloin, Greek salad, fattoush, rice dish, green beans/mushrooms, roasted potatoes, roasted veg, kibbeh, etc., plus apps when guests arrive and dessert. There’s a huge difference between making a meal and serving “heavy apps”, the latter not supposed to be your main dish. While I don’t expect Xmas to be healthy, I do expect real food most times

That's a lot of carbs and I don't eat red meat as a protein. It's easy to tear apart and criticize any meal. While your food is real, it's not health food.

Too many carbs? That’s the complaint from appetizer people? Are you serious?

The point is, it doesn't really matter what the host serves. Go, eat something, and then eat at home later if you must. But don't be a jerk.

Everyone here agrees no one should say anything and should be polite to the host. Here on this board, we give feedback.

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Anonymous wrote:Ignore your sisters and the posters criticizing your menu— as long as no one was hungry no one is entitled to a particular kind of meal, good grief I’ve never heard anything more gluttonous.

Had your sister been drinking heavily? If not, I would tell her if it comes up again that she is not required to accept an invitation next year.

I always leave hungry during a meal of heavy apps. I’m 50- do you think I’m going to spend the night filling up on bruschetta or something like that?

If you’re 50 I assume by now someone has told you that you eat politely at your hosts house, say thank you graciously, and depart. You can get takeout on your way home if there is something about bruschetta that a 50 year old cannot safely due to their advanced age or other dietary conditions. The 50 y/os in my life are either much healthier than you or much more polite, not sure which.

There are two issues -- as a guest whether you say anything (obviously no) and now whether in this anon forum people can give their views on appetizer dinners (yes, of course we can, and I don't like it). "Heavy apps" is not actually a dinner. You folks must have the most disordered eating. The only people I know who actually think this is a dinner have very unhealthy eating patterns.

Can you explain how you are unable to eat a filling amount of food from a heavy app spread? I think we are all baffled.

I'd nibble to be polite and then stop on the way home. Frozen items, cheese and crackers isn't particularly healthy.

What would you normally eat for a holiday meal that would also be "healthy?" Just because its home made, doesn't mean it's healthy.

You’ve never had a full serving of lean protein and lots of vegetables at a holiday meal? Your question itself is telling about your eating habits.

No, because I eat that every other meal. All things in moderation. You sound like you have an eating disorder.

No, I know that my mood is best when I ate like that. It’s actually pretty normal and healthy.

But it's not a holiday meal.

So holiday meal means terrible food? Do you hear yourself? Make one or two extra fun dishes but don’t make it to so people are completely out of whack.

Completely out of whack? How old are? Your advice doesn't apply to young healthy people who can eat a variety of things in moderation.

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Anonymous wrote:Ignore your sisters and the posters criticizing your menu— as long as no one was hungry no one is entitled to a particular kind of meal, good grief I’ve never heard anything more gluttonous.

Had your sister been drinking heavily? If not, I would tell her if it comes up again that she is not required to accept an invitation next year.

I always leave hungry during a meal of heavy apps. I’m 50- do you think I’m going to spend the night filling up on bruschetta or something like that?

If you’re 50 I assume by now someone has told you that you eat politely at your hosts house, say thank you graciously, and depart. You can get takeout on your way home if there is something about bruschetta that a 50 year old cannot safely due to their advanced age or other dietary conditions. The 50 y/os in my life are either much healthier than you or much more polite, not sure which.

There are two issues -- as a guest whether you say anything (obviously no) and now whether in this anon forum people can give their views on appetizer dinners (yes, of course we can, and I don't like it). "Heavy apps" is not actually a dinner. You folks must have the most disordered eating. The only people I know who actually think this is a dinner have very unhealthy eating patterns.

Can you explain how you are unable to eat a filling amount of food from a heavy app spread? I think we are all baffled.

I'd nibble to be polite and then stop on the way home. Frozen items, cheese and crackers isn't particularly healthy.

What would you normally eat for a holiday meal that would also be "healthy?" Just because its home made, doesn't mean it's healthy.

You’ve never had a full serving of lean protein and lots of vegetables at a holiday meal? Your question itself is telling about your eating habits.

No, because I eat that every other meal. All things in moderation. You sound like you have an eating disorder.

No, I know that my mood is best when I ate like that. It’s actually pretty normal and healthy.

But it's not a holiday meal.

So holiday meal means terrible food? Do you hear yourself? Make one or two extra fun dishes but don’t make it to so people are completely out of whack.

Completely out of whack? How old are? Your advice doesn't apply to young healthy people who can eat a variety of things in moderation.

Okay person who said healthy food can’t be holiday food. What a joke.

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Anonymous wrote:Ignore your sisters and the posters criticizing your menu— as long as no one was hungry no one is entitled to a particular kind of meal, good grief I’ve never heard anything more gluttonous.

Had your sister been drinking heavily? If not, I would tell her if it comes up again that she is not required to accept an invitation next year.

I always leave hungry during a meal of heavy apps. I’m 50- do you think I’m going to spend the night filling up on bruschetta or something like that?

If you’re 50 I assume by now someone has told you that you eat politely at your hosts house, say thank you graciously, and depart. You can get takeout on your way home if there is something about bruschetta that a 50 year old cannot safely due to their advanced age or other dietary conditions. The 50 y/os in my life are either much healthier than you or much more polite, not sure which.

There are two issues -- as a guest whether you say anything (obviously no) and now whether in this anon forum people can give their views on appetizer dinners (yes, of course we can, and I don't like it). "Heavy apps" is not actually a dinner. You folks must have the most disordered eating. The only people I know who actually think this is a dinner have very unhealthy eating patterns.

+1. It is a reflection of poor diet and unhealthy food culture. I think that’s the divide

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Ignore your sisters and the posters criticizing your menu— as long as no one was hungry no one is entitled to a particular kind of meal, good grief I’ve never heard anything more gluttonous.

Had your sister been drinking heavily? If not, I would tell her if it comes up again that she is not required to accept an invitation next year.

I always leave hungry during a meal of heavy apps. I’m 50- do you think I’m going to spend the night filling up on bruschetta or something like that?

If you’re 50 I assume by now someone has told you that you eat politely at your hosts house, say thank you graciously, and depart. You can get takeout on your way home if there is something about bruschetta that a 50 year old cannot safely due to their advanced age or other dietary conditions. The 50 y/os in my life are either much healthier than you or much more polite, not sure which.

There are two issues -- as a guest whether you say anything (obviously no) and now whether in this anon forum people can give their views on appetizer dinners (yes, of course we can, and I don't like it). "Heavy apps" is not actually a dinner. You folks must have the most disordered eating. The only people I know who actually think this is a dinner have very unhealthy eating patterns.

Can you explain how you are unable to eat a filling amount of food from a heavy app spread? I think we are all baffled.

I'd nibble to be polite and then stop on the way home. Frozen items, cheese and crackers isn't particularly healthy.

What would you normally eat for a holiday meal that would also be "healthy?" Just because its home made, doesn't mean it's healthy.

You’ve never had a full serving of lean protein and lots of vegetables at a holiday meal? Your question itself is telling about your eating habits.

No, because I eat that every other meal. All things in moderation. You sound like you have an eating disorder.

No, I know that my mood is best when I ate like that. It’s actually pretty normal and healthy.

But it's not a holiday meal.

So holiday meal means terrible food? Do you hear yourself? Make one or two extra fun dishes but don’t make it to so people are completely out of whack.

Completely out of whack? How old are? Your advice doesn't apply to young healthy people who can eat a variety of things in moderation.

Okay person who said healthy food can’t be holiday food. What a joke.

I said it's not a holiday meal. You would be disappointed with heavy apps, I would be disappointed with your lean protein and vegetables. That's everyday food. It's dinner, but certainly nothing special.

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Anonymous wrote:Ignore your sisters and the posters criticizing your menu— as long as no one was hungry no one is entitled to a particular kind of meal, good grief I’ve never heard anything more gluttonous.

Had your sister been drinking heavily? If not, I would tell her if it comes up again that she is not required to accept an invitation next year.

I always leave hungry during a meal of heavy apps. I’m 50- do you think I’m going to spend the night filling up on bruschetta or something like that?

If you’re 50 I assume by now someone has told you that you eat politely at your hosts house, say thank you graciously, and depart. You can get takeout on your way home if there is something about bruschetta that a 50 year old cannot safely due to their advanced age or other dietary conditions. The 50 y/os in my life are either much healthier than you or much more polite, not sure which.

There are two issues -- as a guest whether you say anything (obviously no) and now whether in this anon forum people can give their views on appetizer dinners (yes, of course we can, and I don't like it). "Heavy apps" is not actually a dinner. You folks must have the most disordered eating. The only people I know who actually think this is a dinner have very unhealthy eating patterns.

Can you explain how you are unable to eat a filling amount of food from a heavy app spread? I think we are all baffled.

I'd nibble to be polite and then stop on the way home. Frozen items, cheese and crackers isn't particularly healthy.

What would you normally eat for a holiday meal that would also be "healthy?" Just because its home made, doesn't mean it's healthy.

We made tenderloin, Greek salad, fattoush, rice dish, green beans/mushrooms, roasted potatoes, roasted veg, kibbeh, etc., plus apps when guests arrive and dessert. There’s a huge difference between making a meal and serving “heavy apps”, the latter not supposed to be your main dish. While I don’t expect Xmas to be healthy, I do expect real food most times

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We made roasted turkey with gravy, mixed greens salad with orange slices, green beans, mashed potatoes, cranberry sauce. We had cheese and crackers and mixed nuts and olives for light appetizers before dinner.

I would not be happy with heavy appetizers.

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Anonymous wrote:Ignore your sisters and the posters criticizing your menu— as long as no one was hungry no one is entitled to a particular kind of meal, good grief I’ve never heard anything more gluttonous.

Had your sister been drinking heavily? If not, I would tell her if it comes up again that she is not required to accept an invitation next year.

I always leave hungry during a meal of heavy apps. I’m 50- do you think I’m going to spend the night filling up on bruschetta or something like that?

If you’re 50 I assume by now someone has told you that you eat politely at your hosts house, say thank you graciously, and depart. You can get takeout on your way home if there is something about bruschetta that a 50 year old cannot safely due to their advanced age or other dietary conditions. The 50 y/os in my life are either much healthier than you or much more polite, not sure which.

There are two issues -- as a guest whether you say anything (obviously no) and now whether in this anon forum people can give their views on appetizer dinners (yes, of course we can, and I don't like it). "Heavy apps" is not actually a dinner. You folks must have the most disordered eating. The only people I know who actually think this is a dinner have very unhealthy eating patterns.

Can you explain how you are unable to eat a filling amount of food from a heavy app spread? I think we are all baffled.

I'd nibble to be polite and then stop on the way home. Frozen items, cheese and crackers isn't particularly healthy.

What would you normally eat for a holiday meal that would also be "healthy?" Just because its home made, doesn't mean it's healthy.

You’ve never had a full serving of lean protein and lots of vegetables at a holiday meal? Your question itself is telling about your eating habits.

No, because I eat that every other meal. All things in moderation. You sound like you have an eating disorder.

No, I know that my mood is best when I ate like that. It’s actually pretty normal and healthy.

But it's not a holiday meal.

Heavy apps are not a holiday meal.

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Anonymous wrote:Ignore your sisters and the posters criticizing your menu— as long as no one was hungry no one is entitled to a particular kind of meal, good grief I’ve never heard anything more gluttonous.

Had your sister been drinking heavily? If not, I would tell her if it comes up again that she is not required to accept an invitation next year.

I always leave hungry during a meal of heavy apps. I’m 50- do you think I’m going to spend the night filling up on bruschetta or something like that?

If you’re 50 I assume by now someone has told you that you eat politely at your hosts house, say thank you graciously, and depart. You can get takeout on your way home if there is something about bruschetta that a 50 year old cannot safely due to their advanced age or other dietary conditions. The 50 y/os in my life are either much healthier than you or much more polite, not sure which.

There are two issues -- as a guest whether you say anything (obviously no) and now whether in this anon forum people can give their views on appetizer dinners (yes, of course we can, and I don't like it). "Heavy apps" is not actually a dinner. You folks must have the most disordered eating. The only people I know who actually think this is a dinner have very unhealthy eating patterns.

Can you explain how you are unable to eat a filling amount of food from a heavy app spread? I think we are all baffled.

I'd nibble to be polite and then stop on the way home. Frozen items, cheese and crackers isn't particularly healthy.

What would you normally eat for a holiday meal that would also be "healthy?" Just because its home made, doesn't mean it's healthy.

You’ve never had a full serving of lean protein and lots of vegetables at a holiday meal? Your question itself is telling about your eating habits.

No, because I eat that every other meal. All things in moderation. You sound like you have an eating disorder.

No, I know that my mood is best when I ate like that. It’s actually pretty normal and healthy.

But it's not a holiday meal.

Heavy apps are not a holiday meal.

Neither is poached chicken and steamed vegetables. OP and PP don't serve holiday meals pleasing to crowds, apparently.