I keep missing work due to illnesses (mine and kids)-will I get fired?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here again with a real time problem that illustrates this situation.

I’m scheduled to give an in person training to a group of 20 people on Thursday. This has been in the works for months and the SVP of my group is flying in to do it with me. The VP doesn’t know this subject well at all and I’m the subject matter expert. We already had to reschedule this training once.

The audience is in a group that is mandatory in person and they will not support a remote training.

I currently have a terrible cough. The kind where my whole body is involved and I cannot control the coughing fits, I’m
hacking up green phlegm, and I even pee myself every time I cough. I have a doc appointment this afternoon. I tested negative for covid at home.

The SVP has already given me a hard time in the past for a conference I had to miss due to Illness a few months ago. This VP is older and has no children, so he really doesn’t get it.

I have no idea what to do. I feel like I can’t cancel the training but going forward while hacking up a lung doesn’t feel right either.

So what do I do here?

Just go! You’re not going to be able to stay home everytime you have a cough.

This. Seriously, come on. It's not just a normal workday. It's a presentation with a VP who's FLYING IN. Take whatever meds the doctor gives you and ask for a prescription cough suppressant. Wear a pad. Problem solve instead of just throwing up your hands and saying "I can't."

[Anonymous]

FMLA is the answer here. Either for yourself or your kids. Your therapist or PCP could write it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes take a week off work and do a trial reset. Do the training first. But honestly op the more you respond, the more you just sound like a big drama queen. Your dh apparently can’t do anything. Your nanny can’t do anything. You couldn’t possibly send your dd for a sick/cold child visit to the doctor with a nanny because your dds SN are too nuanced (I’m the parent of a SN kid). You can’t sleep through the night. You need 1-2 full days off work per week to deal with your illness and sick child visits. You’re already so pumped full of cough medicine that you can’t imagine getting to Thursday.

I agree, things sounds f-ink dreadful right now. But either you address this now as the mental health crisis that it is. Or if you don’t think it’s a mental health crisis, you are just over the top. I think it’s a mental health crisis (which means the drama about Nannie’s and phlegm and useless DH are somewhat Bs - so you get healthy and get a new perspective on all those outside factors).

This. OP, get a grip.

[Anonymous]

I hope you’re feeling better OP. What did you decide about today?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hope you’re feeling better OP. What did you decide about today?

Op here. Thanks for checking. My doc had me test for covid again and that test ended up being positive, so we had to cancel the training. The timing was really unfortunate because the SVP had already flown in. I’m so demoralized, honestly. But it is what it is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hope you’re feeling better OP. What did you decide about today?

Op here. Thanks for checking. My doc had me test for covid again and that test ended up being positive, so we had to cancel the training. The timing was really unfortunate because the SVP had already flown in. I’m so demoralized, honestly. But it is what it is.

I’m sorry, I hope you’re resting.

Please do complete your FMLA paperwork. You need the time to properly recover.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hope you’re feeling better OP. What did you decide about today?

Op here. Thanks for checking. My doc had me test for covid again and that test ended up being positive, so we had to cancel the training. The timing was really unfortunate because the SVP had already flown in. I’m so demoralized, honestly. But it is what it is.

Well that was dumb to test. You likely sacrificed your career. You could have just dipped in and out of the training and stayed far away from others.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope you’re feeling better OP. What did you decide about today?

Op here. Thanks for checking. My doc had me test for covid again and that test ended up being positive, so we had to cancel the training. The timing was really unfortunate because the SVP had already flown in. I’m so demoralized, honestly. But it is what it is.

Well that was dumb to test. You likely sacrificed your career. You could have just dipped in and out of the training and stayed far away from others.

Yeah, maybe OP could have given the SVP COVID the week before Christmas, and the SVP would have a Christmas Carole-eque epiphany about guilting an employee into coming into work when they're visibly sick. The first row of people in the mandatory training session would also be thrilled.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I hope you’re feeling better OP. What did you decide about today?

Op here. Thanks for checking. My doc had me test for covid again and that test ended up being positive, so we had to cancel the training. The timing was really unfortunate because the SVP had already flown in. I’m so demoralized, honestly. But it is what it is.

I'm sorry, OP. You're in a difficult position. I'm glad you went to the doctor and while I'm not happy you have COVID, I think that diagnosis makes calling out/rescheduling a more understandable decision. It shouldn't, because sick is sick, but some folks will always think workers should sacrifice all for their careers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope you’re feeling better OP. What did you decide about today?

Op here. Thanks for checking. My doc had me test for covid again and that test ended up being positive, so we had to cancel the training. The timing was really unfortunate because the SVP had already flown in. I’m so demoralized, honestly. But it is what it is.

Well that was dumb to test. You likely sacrificed your career. You could have just dipped in and out of the training and stayed far away from others.

Op here. I’m leading the training. I’m the SME on this. There isn’t some way I could “dip in and out of the training” that I’m giving. I also have had a fever and a relentless cough and chills. I wouldn’t have been able to hide how sick I am.

I think the situation sucks but can’t see how this costs me my career.

[Anonymous]

Ok hope not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope you’re feeling better OP. What did you decide about today?

Op here. Thanks for checking. My doc had me test for covid again and that test ended up being positive, so we had to cancel the training. The timing was really unfortunate because the SVP had already flown in. I’m so demoralized, honestly. But it is what it is.

Well that was dumb to test. You likely sacrificed your career. You could have just dipped in and out of the training and stayed far away from others.

Op here. I’m leading the training. I’m the SME on this. There isn’t some way I could “dip in and out of the training” that I’m giving. I also have had a fever and a relentless cough and chills. I wouldn’t have been able to hide how sick I am.

I think the situation sucks but can’t see how this costs me my career.

Ignore the troll. In your situation testing is the responsible and right thing to do. Any company that's going to ding someone over a positive COVID diagnosis are a bunch of psychos.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope you’re feeling better OP. What did you decide about today?

Op here. Thanks for checking. My doc had me test for covid again and that test ended up being positive, so we had to cancel the training. The timing was really unfortunate because the SVP had already flown in. I’m so demoralized, honestly. But it is what it is.

Well that was dumb to test. You likely sacrificed your career. You could have just dipped in and out of the training and stayed far away from others.

Op here. I’m leading the training. I’m the SME on this. There isn’t some way I could “dip in and out of the training” that I’m giving. I also have had a fever and a relentless cough and chills. I wouldn’t have been able to hide how sick I am.

I think the situation sucks but can’t see how this costs me my career.

Ignore the troll. In your situation testing is the responsible and right thing to do. Any company that's going to ding someone over a positive COVID diagnosis are a bunch of psychos.

You believe OP really has COVID and this isn’t just a convenient anonymous internet lie, as she kept changing her story to make her “condition” sound more and more dire as more posters told her to suck it up, be an adult and go to work? Wow. How naive.