Serving alcohol at teen party

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not. Would consider reporting such parents.

One of our neighbors is like 150 years old and is the unofficial, self appointed "mayor" of the street.

She called the police on a big teen party where she suspected "alcoholic beverages were were possessed by MINORS!" Sure the police broke up the party.

But weeks later, she told us how she kept calling the local police, demanding an update on their "investigation," who the prime suspects were in supplying the alcohol, and if they had anyone in custody yet. It was comical to listen to.

Go ahead, PP, and "report those parents."

Rolling eyes? You do that for dead teens? I hope the police never arrive at your door after a bad teen accident. And if you are the server, yes, I surely hope your neighbors call 911 and report you.

I would report her for sure. I would also publicize that she provided underage kids with alcohol to humiliate her publicly. I would do whatever I could to make sure she suffered severe consequences within the law. It’s people like her who make our world a worse place.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't "host" a party but my son and some kids (10) came over to our home after a football game. The next day I found empty beer and truly cans. Of course, I was upset but he said they brought them.

After Halloween, a different group of friends came over to hang out. I stayed up until midnight but felt asleep. I supplied snacks, soda and water but again, the next day I found cans of beer and trulys in the trash. A few kids spent the night.

These are all seniors and according to my kid, everyone does it. If not my house, someone else's home!

OP here. This was what we expected (even though the parents said they worry supervising). We didn’t expect them to supply alcohol (and it was a lot of alcohol too).

How can you allow your kids to attend these parties? You have a responsibility to your children to keep them safe. You are condoning their underage drinking by turning a blind eye. You think it is better that the kids supply their own alcohol rather than the parents? Don't you think this is equally as bad? You people disgust me.

So we expected the parents to supervise until they went to bed and that supervision meant no drinking. We expected teens to try and sneak alcohol, especially when parents went to bed (even tho they told us they would supervise all night). We did not expect the parents to supply a large quantity of alcohol.

We also talked to our child about our expectations and about all of the risks of drinking.

Why did you expect that teens would try to sneak alcohol and drink? And when you spoke with your child about your expectations, were those expectations that they would drink?

If so, I'm surprised that you convey that expectation to your child. I expect that my teens do not drink and make that expectation clear to them. A majority of teens do not drink. Studies show that we have far more influence than many parents believe.

"Parental expectations of adolescent alcohol use significantly moderated all structural relationships, and greater parental disapproval was associated with less involvement with friends and peers who use alcohol, less peer influence to use alcohol, greater self-efficacy for avoiding alcohol use, and lower subsequent alcohol use and related problems."

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15963903/

Establish your expectations and model responsible alcohol consumption, and your teens will follow suit. Expect that they will drink, and they will.

Look, I’m not the one who served alcohol. I thought my kid was going to a party that would be supervised. I didn’t know the parents so we called and asked. I was concerned that there might be drinking because I know that teens drink.

I’m really surprised that you are attacking my parenting.

Yes, and you wrote above that you expected that the kids would try to drink. Why did you expect that?

Not PP but are you that dumb? Why would any parent NOT expect or think that their older teen goes to a party and not try to sneak in a drink. OP said the parents at the party supplied the alcohol! Not uncommon!

Not common in my world. I bet you live in a W school catchment.

When my kids go to parties, I connect with the parents to verify they'll be home and I expect my kids not to drink because they are underage and it's illegal. And you know what? They don't!

Ok, calm down Karen. LOL.

Who’s Karen? You know her name is Karen? Wtf?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not. Would consider reporting such parents.

One of our neighbors is like 150 years old and is the unofficial, self appointed "mayor" of the street.

She called the police on a big teen party where she suspected "alcoholic beverages were were possessed by MINORS!" Sure the police broke up the party.

But weeks later, she told us how she kept calling the local police, demanding an update on their "investigation," who the prime suspects were in supplying the alcohol, and if they had anyone in custody yet. It was comical to listen to.

Go ahead, PP, and "report those parents."

Rolling eyes? You do that for dead teens? I hope the police never arrive at your door after a bad teen accident. And if you are the server, yes, I surely hope your neighbors call 911 and report you.

I would report her for sure. I would also publicize that she provided underage kids with alcohol to humiliate her publicly. I would do whatever I could to make sure she suffered severe consequences within the law. It’s people like her who make our world a worse place.

Your neighbors are already sick of your histrionics and you clearly don't have any friends so who are you going to tell? your cat collection?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t high drinking way down along with cigarette use and sex. I mean only the try-hards are really drinking.

Drinking is going down, marihuana and vaping is going up. Pick your poison!

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't "host" a party but my son and some kids (10) came over to our home after a football game. The next day I found empty beer and truly cans. Of course, I was upset but he said they brought them.

After Halloween, a different group of friends came over to hang out. I stayed up until midnight but felt asleep. I supplied snacks, soda and water but again, the next day I found cans of beer and trulys in the trash. A few kids spent the night.

These are all seniors and according to my kid, everyone does it. If not my house, someone else's home!

OP here. This was what we expected (even though the parents said they worry supervising). We didn’t expect them to supply alcohol (and it was a lot of alcohol too).

How can you allow your kids to attend these parties? You have a responsibility to your children to keep them safe. You are condoning their underage drinking by turning a blind eye. You think it is better that the kids supply their own alcohol rather than the parents? Don't you think this is equally as bad? You people disgust me.

So we expected the parents to supervise until they went to bed and that supervision meant no drinking. We expected teens to try and sneak alcohol, especially when parents went to bed (even tho they told us they would supervise all night). We did not expect the parents to supply a large quantity of alcohol.

We also talked to our child about our expectations and about all of the risks of drinking.

Why did you expect that teens would try to sneak alcohol and drink? And when you spoke with your child about your expectations, were those expectations that they would drink?

If so, I'm surprised that you convey that expectation to your child. I expect that my teens do not drink and make that expectation clear to them. A majority of teens do not drink. Studies show that we have far more influence than many parents believe.

"Parental expectations of adolescent alcohol use significantly moderated all structural relationships, and greater parental disapproval was associated with less involvement with friends and peers who use alcohol, less peer influence to use alcohol, greater self-efficacy for avoiding alcohol use, and lower subsequent alcohol use and related problems."

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15963903/

Establish your expectations and model responsible alcohol consumption, and your teens will follow suit. Expect that they will drink, and they will.

Look, I’m not the one who served alcohol. I thought my kid was going to a party that would be supervised. I didn’t know the parents so we called and asked. I was concerned that there might be drinking because I know that teens drink.

I’m really surprised that you are attacking my parenting.

Yes, and you wrote above that you expected that the kids would try to drink. Why did you expect that?

Not PP but are you that dumb? Why would any parent NOT expect or think that their older teen goes to a party and not try to sneak in a drink. OP said the parents at the party supplied the alcohol! Not uncommon!

Not common in my world. I bet you live in a W school catchment.

When my kids go to parties, I connect with the parents to verify they'll be home and I expect my kids not to drink because they are underage and it's illegal. And you know what? They don't!

DP. We are zoned to a W cluster school. I fall in the camp of "turn them in" posters.

What is a W cluster school? please educate me. I live in VA suburbs.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't "host" a party but my son and some kids (10) came over to our home after a football game. The next day I found empty beer and truly cans. Of course, I was upset but he said they brought them.

After Halloween, a different group of friends came over to hang out. I stayed up until midnight but felt asleep. I supplied snacks, soda and water but again, the next day I found cans of beer and trulys in the trash. A few kids spent the night.

These are all seniors and according to my kid, everyone does it. If not my house, someone else's home!

OP here. This was what we expected (even though the parents said they worry supervising). We didn’t expect them to supply alcohol (and it was a lot of alcohol too).

How can you allow your kids to attend these parties? You have a responsibility to your children to keep them safe. You are condoning their underage drinking by turning a blind eye. You think it is better that the kids supply their own alcohol rather than the parents? Don't you think this is equally as bad? You people disgust me.

So we expected the parents to supervise until they went to bed and that supervision meant no drinking. We expected teens to try and sneak alcohol, especially when parents went to bed (even tho they told us they would supervise all night). We did not expect the parents to supply a large quantity of alcohol.

We also talked to our child about our expectations and about all of the risks of drinking.

Why did you expect that teens would try to sneak alcohol and drink? And when you spoke with your child about your expectations, were those expectations that they would drink?

If so, I'm surprised that you convey that expectation to your child. I expect that my teens do not drink and make that expectation clear to them. A majority of teens do not drink. Studies show that we have far more influence than many parents believe.

"Parental expectations of adolescent alcohol use significantly moderated all structural relationships, and greater parental disapproval was associated with less involvement with friends and peers who use alcohol, less peer influence to use alcohol, greater self-efficacy for avoiding alcohol use, and lower subsequent alcohol use and related problems."

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15963903/

Establish your expectations and model responsible alcohol consumption, and your teens will follow suit. Expect that they will drink, and they will.

Look, I’m not the one who served alcohol. I thought my kid was going to a party that would be supervised. I didn’t know the parents so we called and asked. I was concerned that there might be drinking because I know that teens drink.

I’m really surprised that you are attacking my parenting.

Yes, and you wrote above that you expected that the kids would try to drink. Why did you expect that?

Not PP but are you that dumb? Why would any parent NOT expect or think that their older teen goes to a party and not try to sneak in a drink. OP said the parents at the party supplied the alcohol! Not uncommon!

Not common in my world. I bet you live in a W school catchment.

When my kids go to parties, I connect with the parents to verify they'll be home and I expect my kids not to drink because they are underage and it's illegal. And you know what? They don't!

DP. We are zoned to a W cluster school. I fall in the camp of "turn them in" posters.

What is a W cluster school? please educate me. I live in VA suburbs.

W cluster = the better schools in moco. Completely irrelevant to the conversation but it's always a good time to cla you live near a goodish school (the Ws aren't the best nor are they much better than the rest).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not. Would consider reporting such parents.

One of our neighbors is like 150 years old and is the unofficial, self appointed "mayor" of the street.

She called the police on a big teen party where she suspected "alcoholic beverages were were possessed by MINORS!" Sure the police broke up the party.

But weeks later, she told us how she kept calling the local police, demanding an update on their "investigation," who the prime suspects were in supplying the alcohol, and if they had anyone in custody yet. It was comical to listen to.

Go ahead, PP, and "report those parents."

Rolling eyes? You do that for dead teens? I hope the police never arrive at your door after a bad teen accident. And if you are the server, yes, I surely hope your neighbors call 911 and report you.

I would report her for sure. I would also publicize that she provided underage kids with alcohol to humiliate her publicly. I would do whatever I could to make sure she suffered severe consequences within the law. It’s people like her who make our world a worse place.

How exactly would you report her after the fact? And if you report her during the party, would all the teens get charged too?

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't "host" a party but my son and some kids (10) came over to our home after a football game. The next day I found empty beer and truly cans. Of course, I was upset but he said they brought them.

After Halloween, a different group of friends came over to hang out. I stayed up until midnight but felt asleep. I supplied snacks, soda and water but again, the next day I found cans of beer and trulys in the trash. A few kids spent the night.

These are all seniors and according to my kid, everyone does it. If not my house, someone else's home!

OP here. This was what we expected (even though the parents said they worry supervising). We didn’t expect them to supply alcohol (and it was a lot of alcohol too).

How can you allow your kids to attend these parties? You have a responsibility to your children to keep them safe. You are condoning their underage drinking by turning a blind eye. You think it is better that the kids supply their own alcohol rather than the parents? Don't you think this is equally as bad? You people disgust me.

So we expected the parents to supervise until they went to bed and that supervision meant no drinking. We expected teens to try and sneak alcohol, especially when parents went to bed (even tho they told us they would supervise all night). We did not expect the parents to supply a large quantity of alcohol.

We also talked to our child about our expectations and about all of the risks of drinking.

Why did you expect that teens would try to sneak alcohol and drink? And when you spoke with your child about your expectations, were those expectations that they would drink?

If so, I'm surprised that you convey that expectation to your child. I expect that my teens do not drink and make that expectation clear to them. A majority of teens do not drink. Studies show that we have far more influence than many parents believe.

"Parental expectations of adolescent alcohol use significantly moderated all structural relationships, and greater parental disapproval was associated with less involvement with friends and peers who use alcohol, less peer influence to use alcohol, greater self-efficacy for avoiding alcohol use, and lower subsequent alcohol use and related problems."

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15963903/

Establish your expectations and model responsible alcohol consumption, and your teens will follow suit. Expect that they will drink, and they will.

Look, I’m not the one who served alcohol. I thought my kid was going to a party that would be supervised. I didn’t know the parents so we called and asked. I was concerned that there might be drinking because I know that teens drink.

I’m really surprised that you are attacking my parenting.

Yes, and you wrote above that you expected that the kids would try to drink. Why did you expect that?

Not PP but are you that dumb? Why would any parent NOT expect or think that their older teen goes to a party and not try to sneak in a drink. OP said the parents at the party supplied the alcohol! Not uncommon!

Not common in my world. I bet you live in a W school catchment.

When my kids go to parties, I connect with the parents to verify they'll be home and I expect my kids not to drink because they are underage and it's illegal. And you know what? They don't!

DP. We are zoned to a W cluster school. I fall in the camp of "turn them in" posters.

What is a W cluster school? please educate me. I live in VA suburbs.

W cluster = the richer schools in moco. Completely irrelevant to the conversation but it's always a good time to cla you live near a goodish school (the Ws aren't the best nor are they much better than the rest).

FTFY.

-W school alum, who couldn’t be paid to send her kids there

It’s actually not irrelevant, because wealthier teens are more likely to use alcohol and cannabis than less wealthy ones: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3410945/

[Anonymous]

There are some bad parents out there with poor self-esteem. They feel an unhealthy need to be popular with the teenage crowd. Pathetic.

[Anonymous]

A drunk teen killed his friend, another drunk teen, in a car accident in Arlington last night. Please don't do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A drunk teen killed his friend, another drunk teen, in a car accident in Arlington last night. Please don't do this.

https://www.arlnow.com/2022/11/11/new-serious-crash-overnight-sparks-fire-closes-n-arlington-intersection/

[Anonymous]

So teens in both cars last night were drinking? How horrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So teens in both cars last night were drinking? How horrible.

The teen who died has been identified - as soon as I saw the title of the email from the principal “A message from the Principal” I knew what it had to be about. I suspect the other teen was likely from our school, but they wouldn’t send around a note because the person is a minor and charges are pending. Two lives totally wasted.

I’m sure both of their parents trusted them, too, but there were still two knocks on the door last night. I’m quite upset and I didn’t even know the student.

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Anonymous wrote:A drunk teen killed his friend, another drunk teen, in a car accident in Arlington last night. Please don't do this.

https://www.arlnow.com/2022/11/11/new-serious-crash-overnight-sparks-fire-closes-n-arlington-intersection/

How incredibly heartbreaking.

[Anonymous]

Terrible news. No school today so Thursday is a weekend night effectively in this case.