Wife wants a house cleaner instead of preschool

[Anonymous]

My wife isn't cool with getting rid of weekly house cleaning so we can pay for preschool. She has a part-time job on the weekends as a concierge. She's been a stay-at-home mom since our oldest was born. I am on board with her working or not working. Our first child was invited to public preschool because he was in an early intervention program. The second child's preschool won't be free. He goes to the YMCA at least four times a week for two hours a day, and they swim for another hour. My wife thinks gym childcare can provide a preschool experience.

[Anonymous]

Are you willing to help clean?

[Anonymous]

Child needs preschool. You can move to bi weekly cleaning and everyone keeps the house cleen

[Anonymous]

How do you propose that the cleaning gets done?

[Anonymous]

She probably has a weekly cleaner because you don't help out at home. If this is what's helping your marriage, keep it. It will benefit the kids way more than real preschool. Real preschool is only one more hour.

[Anonymous]

I agree with you Op. she seems lazy and has her priorities backwards. - mother

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you propose that the cleaning gets done?

One presumes by the adult who’s home and not working five days a week?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Child needs preschool. You can move to bi weekly cleaning and everyone keeps the house cleen

That is seriously wrong. Preschool is bogus except for kids who are in home environments that are deficient. If having a house keeper will enable your wife to be caring and intellectually engaged with the kid - talking, reading, building, playing, exploring, and especially providing emotional security - it's definitely worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you propose that the cleaning gets done?

One presumes by the adult who’s home and not working five days a week?

Precisely. +1. Another mother

[Anonymous]

OP what is the cost of the cleaner and for how many hours per week? How much do your preschool options cost and what are the hours?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife isn't cool with getting rid of weekly house cleaning so we can pay for preschool. She has a part-time job on the weekends as a concierge. She's been a stay-at-home mom since our oldest was born. I am on board with her working or not working. Our first child was invited to public preschool because he was in an early intervention program. The second child's preschool won't be free. He goes to the YMCA at least four times a week for two hours a day, and they swim for another hour. My wife thinks gym childcare can provide a preschool experience.

I am so confused. Does your wife work as a concierge or is she a SAHM?

How old is kid number two?

I assume you'd clean the house if you stopped the house cleaner, is that correct?

[Anonymous]

Bi-weekly or even monthly cleaning should suffice.

The oldest is at school and the wife works part-time … Why can’t she clean?

Especially if the younger child is in preschool.

[Anonymous]

Why would DH clean when he works full-time and DW doesn’t and has been given the option not to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bi-weekly or even monthly cleaning should suffice.

The oldest is at school, and the wife works part-time … Why can’t she clean?

Especially if the younger child is in preschool.

She's probably tired of cleaning up after her husband. Why can't he clean?

[Anonymous]

As a mom, I’d way rather keep the house cleaner and teach preschool to my kids myself. Cleaning is absolutely soul sucking.