I do not like the parent population at my kids school

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Anonymous wrote:About to go through the admissions process this year. How does one pick up on this sort of thing before we actually commit to a school?? I have plenty of friends but would like to meet more friends through our kids’ school and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. I don’t want to inadvertently join one of these cliquish schools!

St. Albans and Flint Hill have been named and seconded.

I'm curious about St. Pats, Beauvoir, NPS, and primary day. Because I've heard similar complaints.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I never said I was miserable at a private school. This thread made my headache worse. Goodbye

Yet, it is the private school thread. More evidence that you're a troll trying to stir up trouble. Your head aches because you are a liar and lying sucks out all of your energy.

Bye bye, troll. Don't let the door hit you in the a$$ on the way out.

Wow. I hope you’re not a mom at any of my kids schools. Keep it trashy Pp.

Huh? PP is right. OP is a douche and a troll.

DP. I’ve actually been to several sporting events and back to school events this year and believe it or not I’ve heard other parents say they like the school but don’t like the parent community at our school either. These are friends that say it in confidence so maybe it’s not something they would announce but I don’t know why it’s so difficult for you to believe? And yes we are at a big three and I know several people that don’t like the parent community and are literally counting the days until their kid graduates.

I think some of the pp are clearly part of the mean parent group and are afraid they are being publicly called out although no one is naming schools so I think maybe a guilty conscience needs no accuser? Otherwise there is no explanation for their responses.

Do you all lack reading comprehension?

Seriously. I can’t understand how people can miss so much when they read. This seems … quite clear.

I don’t think anyone really cares whether op is a Troll or not because several other people are sharing their own experiences so people are responding to those. You need to ask yourself why does this thread trigger you so much?

I don't care whether OP is a troll. But if another poster think so and calls out OP's BS (in this case, not without reason), I also don't think that poster should be called "trashy". Does that explain it, armchair psychologist?

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The “trashy” epithet is so extreme and crazy reactionary.

As is calling OP a liar.

Not really. Given OPs posts, that’s a quite rational conclusion. “Trashy” is just an extreme epithet, though.

Why is that a rational conclusion? No new parents dislike the parent community at their child’s school? And note PPs calling OP a lying troll after only OP’s original post.

Do you always jump to such extreme conclusions? Are you the one who called people trashy too?

Of course new parents can dislike the community. Nobody said they couldn’t, your histrionics aside. But what OP posted seems off. Her kids are in high school, not elementary. It’s barely been two weeks, maybe a month at best. At most private high schools, at most OP has been to maybe one parent coffee or something, possibly a parent coffee and maybe a BTSN event. Meanwhile OP says she is “miserable” while her kids seem happy.

If OP is truly miserable, that’s an extreme reaction for the small amount of contact she’s had. How can she reasonably be “miserable” after maybe two parent events of maybe an hour each? It doesn’t pass the sniff test. I’d actually believe the post a bit better if it was made in February or something, or if it was from a parent of young elementary schoolers. But a couple of weeks into a high schoolers year? It’s rational to be skeptical.

No, I didn’t. Nor did I call anyone a lying troll. Can you say the same? Do you think all these posters are lying trolls as well? Because that would be pretty extreme, don’t you think?

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Anonymous wrote:About to go through the admissions process this year. How does one pick up on this sort of thing before we actually commit to a school?? I have plenty of friends but would like to meet more friends through our kids’ school and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. I don’t want to inadvertently join one of these cliquish schools!

St. Albans and Flint Hill have been named and seconded.

I'm curious about St. Pats, Beauvoir, NPS, and primary day. Because I've heard similar complaints.


Flint Hill isn't cliquish. It just has some parents that wouldn't have passes muster at better schools.

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DD is in high school. Paul VI in South Riding. Oh holy hell. Vomit vomit vomit. The multiple kids Catholic school parents and the "we've always done it that way" crap. I'm astounded. I'm a Catholic and these "Catholics" are turning me off Catholicism. I'm staying away. DD doesn't want to change, but doesn't love it. PVI you are such a disappointment.

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Anonymous wrote:About to go through the admissions process this year. How does one pick up on this sort of thing before we actually commit to a school?? I have plenty of friends but would like to meet more friends through our kids’ school and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. I don’t want to inadvertently join one of these cliquish schools!

St. Albans and Flint Hill have been named and seconded.

I'm curious about St. Pats, Beauvoir, NPS, and primary day. Because I've heard similar complaints.


Flint Hill isn't cliquish. It just has some parents that wouldn't have passes muster at better schools.

So the other schools are cliquish if acceptance is based on parents being accepted?

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Anonymous wrote:DD is in high school. Paul VI in South Riding. Oh holy hell. Vomit vomit vomit. The multiple kids Catholic school parents and the "we've always done it that way" crap. I'm astounded. I'm a Catholic and these "Catholics" are turning me off Catholicism. I'm staying away. DD doesn't want to change, but doesn't love it. PVI you are such a disappointment.

??? You are criticizing Catholics for having multiple kids?

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Anonymous wrote:DD is in high school. Paul VI in South Riding. Oh holy hell. Vomit vomit vomit. The multiple kids Catholic school parents and the "we've always done it that way" crap. I'm astounded. I'm a Catholic and these "Catholics" are turning me off Catholicism. I'm staying away. DD doesn't want to change, but doesn't love it. PVI you are such a disappointment.

??? You are criticizing Catholics for having multiple kids?

Perfect example. Hang into your pearls Karen. The criticism is owning the processes, PTOs, because of the multiple kids. Get over yourself.p

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My wife’s boyfriends son goes to STA and loves it

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

How long have you been there? It's possible that connections will grow over time.

I have nothing in common with the parents at the school my child goes to and yet everyone is cordial and welcoming and I am definitely not miserable.

Is it a matter of you hoped to get your own friends when you enrolled your child? Say more so we understand why you are miserable, sounds like you are having a hard time with the unmet expectations.

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The thing is that at some schools, many people are NOT cordial or welcoming. That is the problem. I am NOT looking for my new BFFs or even friends but it would be nice if people who I chatted with 2 or 3 times at previous events would even acknowledge me when passing at the next event It's just weird. I didn't fall off the turnip truck yesterday and have been in many DC circles of busy people who still manage to engage politely with others. So when SAHMs of high schoolers at our school look through me (and others) I know it's not because they're "too busy"; rather that they're just being obnoxious.
Vent over: I have met some lovely people and have a dozen or so I can chat with at events and a few that I will probably keep in touch with long after my kids graduate. But the rest I could really do without.

You sound lovely…

OP, I was a SAHM and watched a large group of women pulling these freeze-outs at my DC's school (elementary). Some of these women were SAHMs, some worked, one was a childless aunt who didn't work, but the child's mom worked. The thing they had in common was they were mean, and they really wanted to make the singled-out moms feel bad. They were deliberately trying to make them feel bad. You feel bad because they're playing a subtle malicious game, with you as the target. It was rather fascinating to watch them in action, like watching a poisonous snake slithering across a parking lot.

Don't take it personally. They're probably jealous of your career and your other credentials.

True. They only do it to those they feel threatened by in some way... who knows why. Stay away.

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Anonymous wrote:and I don't know what to do about it. It is a great school but I am miserable.My kids seem happy and that its what matters. I am miserable

How long have you been there? It's possible that connections will grow over time.

I have nothing in common with the parents at the school my child goes to and yet everyone is cordial and welcoming and I am definitely not miserable.

Is it a matter of you hoped to get your own friends when you enrolled your child? Say more so we understand why you are miserable, sounds like you are having a hard time with the unmet expectations.

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Different poster here.

The thing is that at some schools, many people are NOT cordial or welcoming. That is the problem. I am NOT looking for my new BFFs or even friends but it would be nice if people who I chatted with 2 or 3 times at previous events would even acknowledge me when passing at the next event It's just weird. I didn't fall off the turnip truck yesterday and have been in many DC circles of busy people who still manage to engage politely with others. So when SAHMs of high schoolers at our school look through me (and others) I know it's not because they're "too busy"; rather that they're just being obnoxious.
Vent over: I have met some lovely people and have a dozen or so I can chat with at events and a few that I will probably keep in touch with long after my kids graduate. But the rest I could really do without.

You sound lovely…

OP, I was a SAHM and watched a large group of women pulling these freeze-outs at my DC's school (elementary). Some of these women were SAHMs, some worked, one was a childless aunt who didn't work, but the child's mom worked. The thing they had in common was they were mean, and they really wanted to make the singled-out moms feel bad. They were deliberately trying to make them feel bad. You feel bad because they're playing a subtle malicious game, with you as the target. It was rather fascinating to watch them in action, like watching a poisonous snake slithering across a parking lot.

Don't take it personally. They're probably jealous of your career and your other credentials.

True. They only do it to those they feel threatened by in some way... who knows why. Stay away.

Op and other experiencing this I am sorry. For those telling you to ignore it I don’t think they understand it sounds like your children are in sports and activities which require you to attend numerous events. This is wonderful if it is pleasant but if it is not pleasant to attend it can be painful. Some schools allow these types to hijack their schools and then they wonder why 50-75 percent of the parents are Mia. They are not that busy trust me - they just dread being around these types.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife’s boyfriends son goes to STA and loves it

Nuff said. Enroll.

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Anonymous wrote:DD is in high school. Paul VI in South Riding. Oh holy hell. Vomit vomit vomit. The multiple kids Catholic school parents and the "we've always done it that way" crap. I'm astounded. I'm a Catholic and these "Catholics" are turning me off Catholicism. I'm staying away. DD doesn't want to change, but doesn't love it. PVI you are such a disappointment.

??? You are criticizing Catholics for having multiple kids?

Perfect example. Hang into your pearls Karen. The criticism is owning the processes, PTOs, because of the multiple kids. Get over yourself.p

Catholic here with two kids who didn’t grow up in this area. I have found the Catholic community in DC/MD suburbs to be pretty insular and cliquish. Very different from where I grew up in the northeast. Maybe that is what you are experiencing. If so, I’m sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:DD is in high school. Paul VI in South Riding. Oh holy hell. Vomit vomit vomit. The multiple kids Catholic school parents and the "we've always done it that way" crap. I'm astounded. I'm a Catholic and these "Catholics" are turning me off Catholicism. I'm staying away. DD doesn't want to change, but doesn't love it. PVI you are such a disappointment.

??? You are criticizing Catholics for having multiple kids?

Perfect example. Hang into your pearls Karen. The criticism is owning the processes, PTOs, because of the multiple kids. Get over yourself.p

Catholic here with two kids who didn’t grow up in this area. I have found the Catholic community in DC/MD suburbs to be pretty insular and cliquish. Very different from where I grew up in the northeast. Maybe that is what you are experiencing. If so, I’m sorry.

That's a good observation. It's one part of the population here that has remained pretty stable. They grew up together, went to school together, belonged to the same parishes, played CYO and other sports together, etc, etc. It seems they all know one another, dated in high school or are related. As adults they belong to the same clubs (when they belong to one), send their kids to the same schools.

It's insular and they don't care a bit.

It's not this way in the outer VA suburbs. It's peculiar to DC and VA.

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It's peculiar to NWDC and MOCO, I meant to say.

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I felt OP’s pain at back to school night tonight. It’s real. I’m sorry, OP, you’re not alone!