S/O. What’s the point of potty training so young?
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Anonymous
Nonsense. |
Anonymous
Total nonsense. My DD watched her friend use her little, new potty and then she wanted to try. She sat, peed, and we put her in underwear right then. That was it. She was 22 months. |
Anonymous
+1. Most parents are just too lazy. They have to put down their phones for a few days and that’s too much sacrifice. |
Anonymous
I’ve seen this nanny post this more than a dozen times in potty training threads on here, it’s this massive point of pride with her and she loves to get a jab in at any parent whose kid doesn’t train by two. I have no doubt that a professional nanny is better at potty training than I was, but somehow we muddled through it and my kid potty trained before preschool, which is honestly all that matters. I’d have liked to save a bit of money on diapers but I guarantee I spent less on the extra year of diapers than anyone does on a FT nanny. |
Anonymous
Your anedoctal story is not one for elevating above medical authority. |
Anonymous
What medical school did you attend? |
Anonymous
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Nannies love bragging about how early they potty trained children.
They often are from cultures that were poor and out of necessity needed to potty train early as they couldn’t afford diapers. It’s a money issue despite it not not being best for the child. |
Anonymous
This take is weird to me because you could definitely potty train a kid while looking at your phone as long as you were checking in with the kid periodically. In fact this is what many SAHMs and nannies do, which I know because I was a SAHM during potty training and that’s how it goes. Potty training is incredibly dull and requires you to curtail other activities while you do it. Which is why a lot of people wind up staring at their phone the rest of the time. I wouldn’t normally condone that but I feel like potty training might be the once instance when I get it because I remember it being one of the dullest parenting chores. I think one reason parents take longer to potty train than a nanny might (other than the nanny just having more experience) is that it’s hard as a parent to just sit and be like “my only job today is to watch my kid and look for sign the need to go, and get them to the potty.” Even as a SAHM this was challenging because it meant neglecting housework and other things that normally I’d be doing. For a working parent who isn’t getting support at daycare, and might be taking time off to do it, I think it’s very hard. But a nanny is being paid, of course she can do that, it’s her whole job. But she can do it while staring at her phone, I know because I’ve seen it! |
Anonymous
Harvard. Which did you attend? Internet U? |
Anonymous
But it is in the best interest of the child. I’m not a nanny but easily trained my boys before two. I’m sure all of us parents who train before two believe it’s best for their child. |
Anonymous
Sure, we all believe you attended Harvard medical school. |
Anonymous
Quantify that. All of you parents who you mentioned are not medically knowledgeable. |
Anonymous
DP- located the fake Harvard grad. |
Anonymous
I mean it makes sense, as it is a selling point for nannies versus daycare. From a parents perspective, if the nanny successfully potty trains your child by two, then you don't have to do it and you can stop buying diapers and it makes your life easier. That doesn't make it the best way to potty train. And PPs are right that a nanny has a fundamentally different assignment/relationship with the child than a parent does, so it doesn't really make sense to compare those experiences. I bet if you had a hard-to-train 3yo and the parents were struggling with potty training, a nanny could come in and resolve it pretty quickly. But that is partly because the mere act of turning the process over to a nanny would eliminate the power struggle between parent and child and reduce the pressure on both parties. And the nanny could quickly adopt a very emotionally neutral, non-nonsense approach (key to potty training and often hard for parents because their relationship to their child is so much more intimate). My kid was mostly potty trained by a Montessori preschool teacher after two failed attempts by DH and I, and this was how she did it. I was so grateful but I can also recognized that the dynamics were totally different and that's part of what made it successful. I never expected to struggle potty training my kid because I trained my niece and nephew when I was living with my sister and it was not that hard. I also know people who have had an easy time with one kid and not with another, and I think it's because they have a different relationship with their kids and their kids need different things from them. |
Anonymous
It’s best for you, not for the child. |