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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nannies love bragging about how early they potty trained children.

They often are from cultures that were poor and out of necessity needed to potty train early as they couldn’t afford diapers. It’s a money issue despite it not not being best for the child. [/quote]

I mean it makes sense, as it is a selling point for nannies versus daycare. From a parents perspective, if the nanny successfully potty trains your child by two, then you don't have to do it and you can stop buying diapers and it makes your life easier.

That doesn't make it the best way to potty train. And PPs are right that a nanny has a fundamentally different assignment/relationship with the child than a parent does, so it doesn't really make sense to compare those experiences. I bet if you had a hard-to-train 3yo and the parents were struggling with potty training, a nanny could come in and resolve it pretty quickly. But that is partly because the mere act of turning the process over to a nanny would eliminate the power struggle between parent and child and reduce the pressure on both parties. And the nanny could quickly adopt a very emotionally neutral, non-nonsense approach (key to potty training and often hard for parents because their relationship to their child is so much more intimate).

My kid was mostly potty trained by a Montessori preschool teacher after two failed attempts by DH and I, and this was how she did it. I was so grateful but I can also recognized that the dynamics were totally different and that's part of what made it successful. I never expected to struggle potty training my kid because I trained my niece and nephew when I was living with my sister and it was not that hard. I also know people who have had an easy time with one kid and not with another, and I think it's because they have a different relationship with their kids and their kids need different things from them.[/quote]

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