S/O. What’s the point of potty training so young?

[Anonymous]

Next, these parents of the early potty trained children will be bragging about how their precious child excels at differential calculus and relativity or thermal dynamics prior to entering elementary school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nannies love bragging about how early they potty trained children.

They often are from cultures that were poor and out of necessity needed to potty train early as they couldn’t afford diapers. It’s a money issue despite it not not being best for the child.

But it is in the best interest of the child. I’m not a nanny but easily trained my boys before two. I’m sure all of us parents who train before two believe it’s best for their child.

I don't know why people are so militant on this point. If you trained before 2 and it worked for you, great! End of conversation. That doesn't mean people who trained later are bad parents, it means you decided to deviate from standard advice and it worked out for you.

It's like how I coslept even though people tell you not to. It worked out for us and we did it in a way that I felt confident was safe, since that's the main concern about it. But I don't get mad when people say they didn't cosleep. I get it -- pretty much everyone tells you not to do it and there's scary literature on why it's dangerous and it actually can be dangerous for some people. It's not my job to decide that for other people. And if someone is like "wow nighttime sleep is really challenging and I don't know what to do" I just agree, yes, nighttime sleep with babies can be really challenging and reassure them that they will figure it out. If someone asks directly, I'll say "well, I decided to cosleep and it worked out for me but I know it's not for everyone -- if you are interested I can tell you how I did it." But zero pressure and no judgment. Because, again, I know it deviates from standard parenting advice and it's not my job to tell people how to parent.

Whenever someone is like "this is how I solved this common parenting problem and I think everyone who does it another way is WRONG" that's when I stop listening to them because that's weird black-and-white thinking and IME that's not helpful for parenting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nannies love bragging about how early they potty trained children.

They often are from cultures that were poor and out of necessity needed to potty train early as they couldn’t afford diapers. It’s a money issue despite it not not being best for the child.

But it is in the best interest of the child. I’m not a nanny but easily trained my boys before two. I’m sure all of us parents who train before two believe it’s best for their child.

It’s best for you, not for the child.

No, it’s actually much harder for me. Diapers are easy. I wouldn’t have trained young if I didn’t believe that it was in my children’s best interest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies love bragging about how early they potty trained children.

They often are from cultures that were poor and out of necessity needed to potty train early as they couldn’t afford diapers. It’s a money issue despite it not not being best for the child.

But it is in the best interest of the child. I’m not a nanny but easily trained my boys before two. I’m sure all of us parents who train before two believe it’s best for their child.

It’s best for you, not for the child.

No, it’s actually much harder for me. Diapers are easy. I wouldn’t have trained young if I didn’t believe that it was in my children’s best interest.

Why?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies love bragging about how early they potty trained children.

They often are from cultures that were poor and out of necessity needed to potty train early as they couldn’t afford diapers. It’s a money issue despite it not not being best for the child.

But it is in the best interest of the child. I’m not a nanny but easily trained my boys before two. I’m sure all of us parents who train before two believe it’s best for their child.

It’s best for you, not for the child.

No, it’s actually much harder for me. Diapers are easy. I wouldn’t have trained young if I didn’t believe that it was in my children’s best interest.

Well you believed wrong.

[Anonymous]

My training in pediatrics says averages are 50% of toddlers are trained by 36 months of age. Standard advice is not to start till after 28 months of age.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies love bragging about how early they potty trained children.

They often are from cultures that were poor and out of necessity needed to potty train early as they couldn’t afford diapers. It’s a money issue despite it not not being best for the child.

But it is in the best interest of the child. I’m not a nanny but easily trained my boys before two. I’m sure all of us parents who train before two believe it’s best for their child.

It’s best for you, not for the child.

No, it’s actually much harder for me. Diapers are easy. I wouldn’t have trained young if I didn’t believe that it was in my children’s best interest.

Well you believed wrong.

Which is why it was harder for her.

[Anonymous]

For real, why though? What possible advantage could there be to potty training earlier? As the parent of a kindergartener who knows a lot of 5 and 6 year olds, some who trained on the early side (not sure about before 2, but some who trained right around there) and many who trained on the later side (3.5 or even close to 4).

I can't tell you anything that is distinctly different about the two groups. Normal variations in confidence, independence, relationships with parents and siblings, relationships with peers, etc. There's no consistent issue with the kids who trained later, other than the parents of those kids were like "oh thank god this finally happened" because it was more of an ordeal for them than the kids who trained early.

But that's it -- universally, it's parents who care more about potty training and are relieved when it happens, whenever it does. The kids don't seem to care either way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies love bragging about how early they potty trained children.

They often are from cultures that were poor and out of necessity needed to potty train early as they couldn’t afford diapers. It’s a money issue despite it not not being best for the child.

But it is in the best interest of the child. I’m not a nanny but easily trained my boys before two. I’m sure all of us parents who train before two believe it’s best for their child.

It’s best for you, not for the child.

No, it’s actually much harder for me. Diapers are easy. I wouldn’t have trained young if I didn’t believe that it was in my children’s best interest.

Well you believed wrong.

No, I did not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies love bragging about how early they potty trained children.

They often are from cultures that were poor and out of necessity needed to potty train early as they couldn’t afford diapers. It’s a money issue despite it not not being best for the child.

But it is in the best interest of the child. I’m not a nanny but easily trained my boys before two. I’m sure all of us parents who train before two believe it’s best for their child.

It’s best for you, not for the child.

No, it’s actually much harder for me. Diapers are easy. I wouldn’t have trained young if I didn’t believe that it was in my children’s best interest.

Well you believed wrong.

No, I did not.

Well you did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My training in pediatrics says averages are 50% of toddlers are trained by 36 months of age. Standard advice is not to start till after 28 months of age.

+1, fully half of all kids train after turning 3. And the percent of kids not trained by kindergarten is quite small. So those 3 year olds are successful.

It's parental preference and yes, you can absolutely do harm by training too early.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For real, why though? What possible advantage could there be to potty training earlier? As the parent of a kindergartener who knows a lot of 5 and 6 year olds, some who trained on the early side (not sure about before 2, but some who trained right around there) and many who trained on the later side (3.5 or even close to 4).

I can't tell you anything that is distinctly different about the two groups. Normal variations in confidence, independence, relationships with parents and siblings, relationships with peers, etc. There's no consistent issue with the kids who trained later, other than the parents of those kids were like "oh thank god this finally happened" because it was more of an ordeal for them than the kids who trained early.

But that's it -- universally, it's parents who care more about potty training and are relieved when it happens, whenever it does. The kids don't seem to care either way.

I worried about the “poop phobia” developing (my nephew was four and had that) and wanted my kids to feel independent and in control of their own bodies. My kids were all happy to be in underwear too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies love bragging about how early they potty trained children.

They often are from cultures that were poor and out of necessity needed to potty train early as they couldn’t afford diapers. It’s a money issue despite it not not being best for the child.

But it is in the best interest of the child. I’m not a nanny but easily trained my boys before two. I’m sure all of us parents who train before two believe it’s best for their child.

It’s best for you, not for the child.

No, it’s actually much harder for me. Diapers are easy. I wouldn’t have trained young if I didn’t believe that it was in my children’s best interest.

Well you believed wrong.

No, I did not.

Different poster here. Training a child who is still 1 year old is too young whether you believe it or not. You may believe,
but you don’t know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies love bragging about how early they potty trained children.

They often are from cultures that were poor and out of necessity needed to potty train early as they couldn’t afford diapers. It’s a money issue despite it not not being best for the child.

But it is in the best interest of the child. I’m not a nanny but easily trained my boys before two. I’m sure all of us parents who train before two believe it’s best for their child.

It’s best for you, not for the child.

No, it’s actually much harder for me. Diapers are easy. I wouldn’t have trained young if I didn’t believe that it was in my children’s best interest.

Well you believed wrong.

No, I did not.

Well you did.

Do you really want to keep going like this? Just stop.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies love bragging about how early they potty trained children.

They often are from cultures that were poor and out of necessity needed to potty train early as they couldn’t afford diapers. It’s a money issue despite it not not being best for the child.

But it is in the best interest of the child. I’m not a nanny but easily trained my boys before two. I’m sure all of us parents who train before two believe it’s best for their child.

It’s best for you, not for the child.

No, it’s actually much harder for me. Diapers are easy. I wouldn’t have trained young if I didn’t believe that it was in my children’s best interest.

Well you believed wrong.

No, I did not.

Different poster here. Training a child who is still 1 year old is too young whether you believe it or not. You may believe,
but you don’t know.

My kids were 21 and 22 months - not 12 months. It clearly isn’t and was not too young.