Would it be rude to send her home after an hour vs. taking to pool?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are fine, OP.
The girl’s mom didn’t need to text you to ask if it’s okay if her daughter comes over. And when she does just drop by, you are free to say that your child can’t play right now for any reason. I mean, if this child had come an hour later, you would have already left for the pool, and she would have to bike home. She knew that was a possibility when she came over.

However, you DO need to call and ask the girls mom if it’s okay if you take her daughter to go swimming. She might not be a good swimmer. They might have plans that afternoon, and her mom needs to know where she is.

If the mom needs to know where she is, she shouldn't send her down to OP's house without checking.

No. Her mom knows that she rode her bike to a friend's house or even that she is out riding her bike.
If you are going to drive someone's child somewhere else for the afternoon, then you need to let their parents know.

Hey, you send the kid down to someone's house without checking with them, you are OK with them watching your kid, maybe they'll head on down to the pool or the park or the grocery store as planned. If you gave a shyt where your child was, you'd communicate with the parent you apparently expect to watch your kid.

No. If you communicate with the parent and set up a time before you send your kid over, then you are expecting that they are going to watch your kid. If you tell your kid to take a bike ride and see if there is anyone to play with, then you expect that your kid will be on their bike in the neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are fine, OP.
The girl’s mom didn’t need to text you to ask if it’s okay if her daughter comes over. And when she does just drop by, you are free to say that your child can’t play right now for any reason. I mean, if this child had come an hour later, you would have already left for the pool, and she would have to bike home. She knew that was a possibility when she came over.

However, you DO need to call and ask the girls mom if it’s okay if you take her daughter to go swimming. She might not be a good swimmer. They might have plans that afternoon, and her mom needs to know where she is.

If the mom needs to know where she is, she shouldn't send her down to OP's house without checking.

No. Her mom knows that she rode her bike to a friend's house or even that she is out riding her bike.
If you are going to drive someone's child somewhere else for the afternoon, then you need to let their parents know.

Hey, you send the kid down to someone's house without checking with them, you are OK with them watching your kid, maybe they'll head on down to the pool or the park or the grocery store as planned. If you gave a shyt where your child was, you'd communicate with the parent you apparently expect to watch your kid.

No. If you communicate with the parent and set up a time before you send your kid over, then you are expecting that they are going to watch your kid. If you tell your kid to take a bike ride and see if there is anyone to play with, then you expect that your kid will be on their bike in the neighborhood.

Well, your kid shows up and asks if Janie can play. She sure can, we're playing at the pool today! Here's a suit and some sunscreen...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are fine, OP.
The girl’s mom didn’t need to text you to ask if it’s okay if her daughter comes over. And when she does just drop by, you are free to say that your child can’t play right now for any reason. I mean, if this child had come an hour later, you would have already left for the pool, and she would have to bike home. She knew that was a possibility when she came over.

However, you DO need to call and ask the girls mom if it’s okay if you take her daughter to go swimming. She might not be a good swimmer. They might have plans that afternoon, and her mom needs to know where she is.

If the mom needs to know where she is, she shouldn't send her down to OP's house without checking.

No. Her mom knows that she rode her bike to a friend's house or even that she is out riding her bike.
If you are going to drive someone's child somewhere else for the afternoon, then you need to let their parents know.

Hey, you send the kid down to someone's house without checking with them, you are OK with them watching your kid, maybe they'll head on down to the pool or the park or the grocery store as planned. If you gave a shyt where your child was, you'd communicate with the parent you apparently expect to watch your kid.

No. If you communicate with the parent and set up a time before you send your kid over, then you are expecting that they are going to watch your kid. If you tell your kid to take a bike ride and see if there is anyone to play with, then you expect that your kid will be on their bike in the neighborhood.

Well, your kid shows up and asks if Janie can play. She sure can, we're playing at the pool today! Here's a suit and some sunscreen...

Ha! Ok.
OP, not only is it not rude to send the kid home, it would be odd to find her a swimsuit and take her to the pool for the afternoon without making sure she asked her mom about it first.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

+3 I have an 18 yo and 15 yo and no way I would have taken a kid away from my house without checking with a guardian. The PP is just arguing for the sake of arguing.

This entire thread is absurd. OP should have told the kid, sorry we have plans and not worried about feeding her lunch. If it is a long bike ride the biking kid's mom shouldn't assume anyone's available and should have fed her kid lunch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are fine, OP.
The girl’s mom didn’t need to text you to ask if it’s okay if her daughter comes over. And when she does just drop by, you are free to say that your child can’t play right now for any reason. I mean, if this child had come an hour later, you would have already left for the pool, and she would have to bike home. She knew that was a possibility when she came over.

However, you DO need to call and ask the girls mom if it’s okay if you take her daughter to go swimming. She might not be a good swimmer. They might have plans that afternoon, and her mom needs to know where she is.

If the mom needs to know where she is, she shouldn't send her down to OP's house without checking.

No. Her mom knows that she rode her bike to a friend's house or even that she is out riding her bike.
If you are going to drive someone's child somewhere else for the afternoon, then you need to let their parents know.

Hey, you send the kid down to someone's house without checking with them, you are OK with them watching your kid, maybe they'll head on down to the pool or the park or the grocery store as planned. If you gave a shyt where your child was, you'd communicate with the parent you apparently expect to watch your kid.

No. If you communicate with the parent and set up a time before you send your kid over, then you are expecting that they are going to watch your kid. If you tell your kid to take a bike ride and see if there is anyone to play with, then you expect that your kid will be on their bike in the neighborhood.

Well, your kid shows up and asks if Janie can play. She sure can, we're playing at the pool today! Here's a suit and some sunscreen...

Ha! Ok.
OP, not only is it not rude to send the kid home, it would be odd to find her a swimsuit and take her to the pool for the afternoon without making sure she asked her mom about it first.

Oh hey, how do you know what the other parents would find “odd”? They send their kid around unsupervised without checking in with other parents. You get what you get as far as the other parents’ discernment if there is no communication.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

+3 I have an 18 yo and 15 yo and no way I would have taken a kid away from my house without checking with a guardian. The PP is just arguing for the sake of arguing.

This entire thread is absurd. OP should have told the kid, sorry we have plans and not worried about feeding her lunch. If it is a long bike ride the biking kid's mom shouldn't assume anyone's available and should have fed her kid lunch.

Oh hey I guess we should get on the same page as parents by you know calling or texting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

+1 "We have an extra car seat" was the tell. My bet is the PP has a young child or who isn't biking around unsupervised yet.

[Anonymous]

I'm guessing the "text the mom and fret about lunch" crew and the "release the kid back into the wild" crew" are thinking about different aged kids. I'm the "release the kid back into the wild" crew. I have a 10 year old. That's a much different scenario than, say, a 6 year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

Welp, I guess you don’t know what the other parent thinks is acceptable or OK for kids your age unless you…text or call and get on the same page! Knock knock can Janie play? Sure, we’re going to the pool. And we’re having ice cream while we’re there…

I guess if you want to know where your kid is and what they’re doing you should communicate with parents before you send kids around to be supervised by other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

Welp, I guess you don’t know what the other parent thinks is acceptable or OK for kids your age unless you…text or call and get on the same page! Knock knock can Janie play? Sure, we’re going to the pool. And we’re having ice cream while we’re there…

I guess if you want to know where your kid is and what they’re doing you should communicate with parents before you send kids around to be supervised by other people.

So you're going to kidnap their kid to teach the parents a lesson? Great idea! Or just say that your kids can only play for an hour b/c you have plans or just say sorry you're busy. That's how this works. But I doubt kids like this would make a stop at your house because you don't exactly sound like a go with the flow the more the merrier type so this would never happen to you.

[Anonymous]

Send her home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

No one wants your kid knocking on their door demanding they be allowed to come in. You are the mom people hate and we only take the kids as we feel sorry for then. If you send them to my house and don’t care where they are I owe you nothing. Grow up and try being a responsible parent. If your kid wants to play with friends you host.