Would it be rude to send her home after an hour vs. taking to pool?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so glad I’m somebody who enjoys kids. This would not stress me out in the least. Personally I’d have fed the kid, drive to her house to get a suit and taken her to the pool.

Only time I don’t enjoy kids and will send them packing is if their have bad behavior outside the range of normal.

Yup. This is probably why I have 4 kids and a minivan that can haul 8 passengers. I keep my garage fridge packed with drinks, snacks, and flavor ice. Neighborhood kids come over to play and can help themselves. If there’s extra food for lunch or someone is still here around dinner time I offer a plate if there’s enough. For gods sake I don’t work, it’s not like I have a thousand things to do. If a bunch of kids want to join at the pool the more the merrier. My kids fight less when there’s a few friends around to break up the siblings focus on each other.

I also grew up in a faith community where it was normal to have a lot of kids. I’m used to kids and really cherish this time. In a few years the house will be quiet.

I find this to be more the norm with families who have a lot of kids themselves and have a SAHP. Good for you! A neighbor is a SAHM and has 5 kids and doesn't really blink when an extra kid comes wandering through and just throws some extra food on the table.

I'm happy with letting a kid in, kicking my kids out, or saying no. I have a hard time feeding them lunch, though. That's just me and my organizational capabilities while I'm still WFH.

lots of our neighbors have two parents WFH. I'm always super careful when my kids are over there because I can totally imagine how hard it is to have kids running around your house while you are trying to get your job done. And you are right, another kid in the mix isn't really difficult. This is why I have the snack/drink fridge because the biggest PITA is kids constantly coming in asking for food. I'm just really happy we have neighborhood kids who WANT to go outside and want to knock on our door (well sometimes knock, sometimes waltz in!). I'm glad they are not all just in their homes glued to a screen all summer. I'd rather have 10 kids running around my house creating chaos than 4 of my kids like zombies in front of the xbox or Nintendo switch.

Um, most parents who work full-time (even WFH) have their kids in daycare or at camp, where they are properly supervised and are interacting with friends all day. My kids are both going to the Baltimore Aquarium tomorrow on a daycare field trip. I like how you paint it like kids of working parents are staring at screens all day. No, they are playing with other kids, outside a lot, going on field trips, and DH and/or I usually pick them up early in the summer to take them to the pool, several times a week!

uh, i never said that. I think you are internalizing my response and getting defensive for your onw personal reasons. There are lots of kids in my neighborhood who are not at camp who have parents who WFH and are playing with my kids. Kids just like yours are also outside, with mine.

I'm simply saying that I'm more than happy to host other people kids.

There are lots of kids who have SAHPs who also are glued to the screen all the time. Work status has absolutely nothing to do with screen time. I just happen to live in a neighborhood where there is a large group of kids who don't do that it is is quite nice.

My only comment about WFH parents is that I can see how drop by visitors would be a no go and I'm careful when my kids are a drop by visitor and a I clear it with the parent first. Some parents have more "loose" jobs and seem to not really need to stay focused at work. Those parents are often outside and have made it clear that they are fine having kids in. I have one neighbor 2 doors down who works on her screen porch all summer. Kids all running around making noise, does not seem to bother her.

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

Welp, I guess you don’t know what the other parent thinks is acceptable or OK for kids your age unless you…text or call and get on the same page! Knock knock can Janie play? Sure, we’re going to the pool. And we’re having ice cream while we’re there…

I guess if you want to know where your kid is and what they’re doing you should communicate with parents before you send kids around to be supervised by other people.

Oh my god, lady. You are nuts. No one is "sending their kids around to be supervised by other people." My kid is allowed to ride her bike around the neighborhood. She is allowed to be unsupervised by adults. If she knocks on a friend's door, I am not expecting another parent to supervise. I am expecting that the other kid will also get a bike and they will ride around the neighborhood together and go do kid things. We are not talking about preschoolers here.

Oh so you are specifying that the only thing your daughter is allowed to do is to knock on the door and invite for a bike ride, and that's the only thing they are allowed to do? Because guess what, your child is really asking if Larla can play. And guess what now they're in my kitchen asking if they can do an art project...or now they're asking my husband if they can set up the sprinkler...and now they're asking if they can do a million other things that do require some level of supervision. And your daughter doesn't stick around to clean up, by the way. Just so you know what's actually happening when your kid is out "riding bikes."

Man, you’d really hate me neighborhood if you need this much control over kid activities. My house tends to be the art & LEGO house. The neighbor to the right has the pool and trampoline. The neighbor behind us has the farm. We all keep simple snacks on hand and the kids decide what they feel like doing. If the activity requires adult supervision and it’s not a good time, the kids find something else to do. Texts like “Is my kid over there? Can you send her back?” are typical. Ages 8 and up here.

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Anonymous wrote:I once had a kid come by and ask to play with no parent communication. We said yes and the friend ended up making chocolate chip cookies with us, as that was our plan for the afternoon. I let each kid have 3 warm cookies and milk (the cookies were small). The mom had the audacity to text me later and say she didn't appreciate that I gave her daughter cookies!

LOL.

And yes, I agree that if you send your kid over with no communication, we may end up somewhere besides our house, like going on a walk to have a picnic in the park that's about a 10-minute walk for us. If you're not OK with your kid going to a second location or need them home by a certain time, you'd darn well better communicate and you have no right at all to complain if you don't know where your kid is or they aren't home when you want them to be.

I think this is fine, as long as the means of getting to the second destination is the same (or slower) than the means of travel that the kid used to reach your house. If my kid walked or biked to you unannounced, please don't put her in your car. Feel free to walk to the nearby park though -- she could get there on her own.

Wait, what? Are you dramatically overthinking this?

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

Welp, I guess you don’t know what the other parent thinks is acceptable or OK for kids your age unless you…text or call and get on the same page! Knock knock can Janie play? Sure, we’re going to the pool. And we’re having ice cream while we’re there…

I guess if you want to know where your kid is and what they’re doing you should communicate with parents before you send kids around to be supervised by other people.

Oh my god, lady. You are nuts. No one is "sending their kids around to be supervised by other people." My kid is allowed to ride her bike around the neighborhood. She is allowed to be unsupervised by adults. If she knocks on a friend's door, I am not expecting another parent to supervise. I am expecting that the other kid will also get a bike and they will ride around the neighborhood together and go do kid things. We are not talking about preschoolers here.

Oh so you are specifying that the only thing your daughter is allowed to do is to knock on the door and invite for a bike ride, and that's the only thing they are allowed to do? Because guess what, your child is really asking if Larla can play. And guess what now they're in my kitchen asking if they can do an art project...or now they're asking my husband if they can set up the sprinkler...and now they're asking if they can do a million other things that do require some level of supervision. And your daughter doesn't stick around to clean up, by the way. Just so you know what's actually happening when your kid is out "riding bikes."

Man, you’d really hate me neighborhood if you need this much control over kid activities. My house tends to be the art & LEGO house. The neighbor to the right has the pool and trampoline. The neighbor behind us has the farm. We all keep simple snacks on hand and the kids decide what they feel like doing. If the activity requires adult supervision and it’s not a good time, the kids find something else to do. Texts like “Is my kid over there? Can you send her back?” are typical. Ages 8 and up here.

I haven’t caught up with my kids friends parents in weeks and now I’m out of luck

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so glad I’m somebody who enjoys kids. This would not stress me out in the least. Personally I’d have fed the kid, drive to her house to get a suit and taken her to the pool.

Only time I don’t enjoy kids and will send them packing is if their have bad behavior outside the range of normal.

Yup. This is probably why I have 4 kids and a minivan that can haul 8 passengers. I keep my garage fridge packed with drinks, snacks, and flavor ice. Neighborhood kids come over to play and can help themselves. If there’s extra food for lunch or someone is still here around dinner time I offer a plate if there’s enough. For gods sake I don’t work, it’s not like I have a thousand things to do. If a bunch of kids want to join at the pool the more the merrier. My kids fight less when there’s a few friends around to break up the siblings focus on each other.

I also grew up in a faith community where it was normal to have a lot of kids. I’m used to kids and really cherish this time. In a few years the house will be quiet.

Why do your kids fight? Mine don't. I guess because we give them some attention and don't expect the oldest to raise the youngest.

Lol! I have 4 boys and if your kids don’t fight they sound abnormal.

I wish my oldest kid would take some responsibility. The picture you paint sounds dreamy. I can’t even leave them home with a sitter even though my oldest is 13. All hell would break loose.

Hope you feel better after getting they off your chest.❤️

Sounds like a parenting issue.

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

No one wants your kid knocking on their door demanding they be allowed to come in. You are the mom people hate and we only take the kids as we feel sorry for then. If you send them to my house and don’t care where they are I owe you nothing. Grow up and try being a responsible parent. If your kid wants to play with friends you host.

Why do you think “Can Sally come out to play?” is a demand? It’s a question and one perfectly acceptable response is “No.”

I think it’s obnoxious. You call or text. We aren’t letting kids hang out in our house due to Covid but we have a parent working at home and kids are in school, tutoring and music during the day. Maybe you should find ways to stimulate your kids without expecting others to be free babysitters

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so glad I’m somebody who enjoys kids. This would not stress me out in the least. Personally I’d have fed the kid, drive to her house to get a suit and taken her to the pool.

Only time I don’t enjoy kids and will send them packing is if their have bad behavior outside the range of normal.

Yup. This is probably why I have 4 kids and a minivan that can haul 8 passengers. I keep my garage fridge packed with drinks, snacks, and flavor ice. Neighborhood kids come over to play and can help themselves. If there’s extra food for lunch or someone is still here around dinner time I offer a plate if there’s enough. For gods sake I don’t work, it’s not like I have a thousand things to do. If a bunch of kids want to join at the pool the more the merrier. My kids fight less when there’s a few friends around to break up the siblings focus on each other.

I also grew up in a faith community where it was normal to have a lot of kids. I’m used to kids and really cherish this time. In a few years the house will be quiet.

That’s why you constantly dump them on others.

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

Most 10 year olds are not playing at a park and if they are they usually are not behaving. If you allow your kid to free roam and don’t check on them, too bad.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so glad I’m somebody who enjoys kids. This would not stress me out in the least. Personally I’d have fed the kid, drive to her house to get a suit and taken her to the pool.

Only time I don’t enjoy kids and will send them packing is if their have bad behavior outside the range of normal.

Yup. This is probably why I have 4 kids and a minivan that can haul 8 passengers. I keep my garage fridge packed with drinks, snacks, and flavor ice. Neighborhood kids come over to play and can help themselves. If there’s extra food for lunch or someone is still here around dinner time I offer a plate if there’s enough. For gods sake I don’t work, it’s not like I have a thousand things to do. If a bunch of kids want to join at the pool the more the merrier. My kids fight less when there’s a few friends around to break up the siblings focus on each other.

I also grew up in a faith community where it was normal to have a lot of kids. I’m used to kids and really cherish this time. In a few years the house will be quiet.

Why do your kids fight? Mine don't. I guess because we give them some attention and don't expect the oldest to raise the youngest.

Lol! I have 4 boys and if your kids don’t fight they sound abnormal.

I wish my oldest kid would take some responsibility. The picture you paint sounds dreamy. I can’t even leave them home with a sitter even though my oldest is 13. All hell would break loose.

Hope you feel better after getting they off your chest.❤️

Sounds like a parenting issue.

sounds pretty normal to me. If I had 4 boys and the oldest were 13 I definitely would not be leaving them home alone. You have no idea how old her 4 boys are and even if they are all NT. That's just idiotic. But maybe you are an idiot?

No way do you have 4 boys with your dumb ass response.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so glad I’m somebody who enjoys kids. This would not stress me out in the least. Personally I’d have fed the kid, drive to her house to get a suit and taken her to the pool.

Only time I don’t enjoy kids and will send them packing is if their have bad behavior outside the range of normal.

Yup. This is probably why I have 4 kids and a minivan that can haul 8 passengers. I keep my garage fridge packed with drinks, snacks, and flavor ice. Neighborhood kids come over to play and can help themselves. If there’s extra food for lunch or someone is still here around dinner time I offer a plate if there’s enough. For gods sake I don’t work, it’s not like I have a thousand things to do. If a bunch of kids want to join at the pool the more the merrier. My kids fight less when there’s a few friends around to break up the siblings focus on each other.

I also grew up in a faith community where it was normal to have a lot of kids. I’m used to kids and really cherish this time. In a few years the house will be quiet.

That’s why you constantly dump them on others.

Someone clearly can't keep up. Are you drunk already?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so glad I’m somebody who enjoys kids. This would not stress me out in the least. Personally I’d have fed the kid, drive to her house to get a suit and taken her to the pool.

Only time I don’t enjoy kids and will send them packing is if their have bad behavior outside the range of normal.

Yup. This is probably why I have 4 kids and a minivan that can haul 8 passengers. I keep my garage fridge packed with drinks, snacks, and flavor ice. Neighborhood kids come over to play and can help themselves. If there’s extra food for lunch or someone is still here around dinner time I offer a plate if there’s enough. For gods sake I don’t work, it’s not like I have a thousand things to do. If a bunch of kids want to join at the pool the more the merrier. My kids fight less when there’s a few friends around to break up the siblings focus on each other.

I also grew up in a faith community where it was normal to have a lot of kids. I’m used to kids and really cherish this time. In a few years the house will be quiet.

Why do your kids fight? Mine don't. I guess because we give them some attention and don't expect the oldest to raise the youngest.

Lol! I have 4 boys and if your kids don’t fight they sound abnormal.

I wish my oldest kid would take some responsibility. The picture you paint sounds dreamy. I can’t even leave them home with a sitter even though my oldest is 13. All hell would break loose.

Hope you feel better after getting they off your chest.❤️

Sounds like a parenting issue.

sounds pretty normal to me. If I had 4 boys and the oldest were 13 I definitely would not be leaving them home alone. You have no idea how old her 4 boys are and even if they are all NT. That's just idiotic. But maybe you are an idiot?

No way do you have 4 boys with your dumb ass response.

Some of us choosing not to overbreed does not make us “dumbasses.”

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so glad I’m somebody who enjoys kids. This would not stress me out in the least. Personally I’d have fed the kid, drive to her house to get a suit and taken her to the pool.

Only time I don’t enjoy kids and will send them packing is if their have bad behavior outside the range of normal.

Yup. This is probably why I have 4 kids and a minivan that can haul 8 passengers. I keep my garage fridge packed with drinks, snacks, and flavor ice. Neighborhood kids come over to play and can help themselves. If there’s extra food for lunch or someone is still here around dinner time I offer a plate if there’s enough. For gods sake I don’t work, it’s not like I have a thousand things to do. If a bunch of kids want to join at the pool the more the merrier. My kids fight less when there’s a few friends around to break up the siblings focus on each other.

I also grew up in a faith community where it was normal to have a lot of kids. I’m used to kids and really cherish this time. In a few years the house will be quiet.

That’s why you constantly dump them on others.

100% and yes, your neighbors see right through you, just so you know.

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

Welp, I guess you don’t know what the other parent thinks is acceptable or OK for kids your age unless you…text or call and get on the same page! Knock knock can Janie play? Sure, we’re going to the pool. And we’re having ice cream while we’re there…

I guess if you want to know where your kid is and what they’re doing you should communicate with parents before you send kids around to be supervised by other people.

Oh my god, lady. You are nuts. No one is "sending their kids around to be supervised by other people." My kid is allowed to ride her bike around the neighborhood. She is allowed to be unsupervised by adults. If she knocks on a friend's door, I am not expecting another parent to supervise. I am expecting that the other kid will also get a bike and they will ride around the neighborhood together and go do kid things. We are not talking about preschoolers here.

Oh so you are specifying that the only thing your daughter is allowed to do is to knock on the door and invite for a bike ride, and that's the only thing they are allowed to do? Because guess what, your child is really asking if Larla can play. And guess what now they're in my kitchen asking if they can do an art project...or now they're asking my husband if they can set up the sprinkler...and now they're asking if they can do a million other things that do require some level of supervision. And your daughter doesn't stick around to clean up, by the way. Just so you know what's actually happening when your kid is out "riding bikes."

How in the universe do art projects and sprinklers require adult supervision for kids who are old enough to be biking around the neighborhood. And if you can't say no when kids ask, or haven't taught YOUR kid to have their friends clean up in your house, that's totally on you.

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

Welp, I guess you don’t know what the other parent thinks is acceptable or OK for kids your age unless you…text or call and get on the same page! Knock knock can Janie play? Sure, we’re going to the pool. And we’re having ice cream while we’re there…

I guess if you want to know where your kid is and what they’re doing you should communicate with parents before you send kids around to be supervised by other people.

Oh my god, lady. You are nuts. No one is "sending their kids around to be supervised by other people." My kid is allowed to ride her bike around the neighborhood. She is allowed to be unsupervised by adults. If she knocks on a friend's door, I am not expecting another parent to supervise. I am expecting that the other kid will also get a bike and they will ride around the neighborhood together and go do kid things. We are not talking about preschoolers here.

Oh so you are specifying that the only thing your daughter is allowed to do is to knock on the door and invite for a bike ride, and that's the only thing they are allowed to do? Because guess what, your child is really asking if Larla can play. And guess what now they're in my kitchen asking if they can do an art project...or now they're asking my husband if they can set up the sprinkler...and now they're asking if they can do a million other things that do require some level of supervision. And your daughter doesn't stick around to clean up, by the way. Just so you know what's actually happening when your kid is out "riding bikes."

No art projects. Last time you left a mess for me to clean up. It's beautiful weather, go play outside.

Is that so hard?

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Anonymous wrote:This whole thread is so strange. Sometimes kids knock or walk over wanting to play. If my kids want to play and we’re not busy, they play outside. If we are busy, my kid says, “Sorry, we are busy.” and other kid goes home. Or, “I can play for 30 minutes.”

Why would there be any expectation that the kid is joining your outing for the day?

+1.

I would actually think it was kind of odd if my kid rode her bike over to play for a little bit, and you took her to the pool for the rest of the afternoon.

Yes. I will foist my kid off on a bike ride for an hour, but I expect her to come back. I don’t really expect other parents to be driving away with her to some other place.

+2. And for an adult to be driving away the child or taking them somewhere without telling parents that would be kidnapping!

LOL, tell it to the officer. You sent your kid down unsupervised with no communication. “Can Carla play?” She sure can, we’re going to our cousins’ house and we’ve got an extra carseat. Shrug. If you gave a damn where your kid was or who they were with or what you’d be doing, you’d communicate with the other parent. If your child asks to call and make sure it’s OK first, oh sure here’s my phone. Don’t want your child going places and doing things with my family? Don’t send her down to my house without connecting with me.

You are insane, only have a toddler, or are trolling. My 10yo son goes out on his bike and knocks on friends doors and meets up with kids in the park. You think I should be texting all the parents in the neighborhood to see if their sons want to play?! No. My son is allowed to bike around the neighborhood by himself but I would certainly not be happy if another parent took him somewhere without texting me first!

No one wants your kid knocking on their door demanding they be allowed to come in. You are the mom people hate and we only take the kids as we feel sorry for then. If you send them to my house and don’t care where they are I owe you nothing. Grow up and try being a responsible parent. If your kid wants to play with friends you host.

Why do you think “Can Sally come out to play?” is a demand? It’s a question and one perfectly acceptable response is “No.”

I think it’s obnoxious. You call or text. We aren’t letting kids hang out in our house due to Covid but we have a parent working at home and kids are in school, tutoring and music during the day. Maybe you should find ways to stimulate your kids without expecting others to be free babysitters

why are your kids in school and tutoring during the summer?