Middle aged dating is trash!

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Women definitely tend to think they can do better, or think they are hotter than they really are - any man that will pay attention to them. It's kind of pitiful.

It is worse than pitiful. It is a staggering lack of self-awareness and why there are so many angry women on DCUM.

They complain that there are not enough good-looking men to go around, even when hot women their age are doing quite well in attracting quality men.

They complain that divorced middle-aged men are broken, without any self-analysis of why they are middle-aged and on the market.

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I don’t think women though are complaining as much about looks as personality and ability to even be a partner with someone.

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Anonymous wrote:To all the old ladies dating the young studs, I have a question. Why don't I ever see you together with your boy toy at a restaurant or club, on a hiking or biking trail, on a boat, or at church? Why when I travel to Las Vegas, Miami, Honolulu or Paris do I only see older men with younger women, and not granny with her young Latin penis?

Because I take my kids on my vacations. I’m secure in myself, I don’t need to prove to the world I’m desirable to 20 year olds. Boy toys are just that - toys. Fun to play with, but my kids or my girlfriends are much better company and get all my vacation time.

The men who parade women as young as their daughters around are always neglectful parents who don’t spend any time with their kids because they’re too busy pretending to be a kid. I’m not like them.

And church? Really? How many old farts do you know who are taking 22 year olds to church?

So what's in it for the guys? How much do you have to pay them?

Sex.

But they can have sex with someone who is younger, prettier, and tighter who doesn't have kids at home.

I don't have kids. I hit my pretty peak at 42, I'm a personal trainer, and I'm definitely way better in bed than I was in my twenties and early thirties.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, what did you expect?? These single old guys have been thrown back by their wives not because they have redeeming qualities. They are defective. Stay single, join a book club, get a toy for a boyfriend.

So divorced middle age women are damaged and defective too, right?

Yes, of course, many of them are. Women are more likely to initiate divorce though, which leads to there being more undesirable men on the middle aged market.

The divorces are initiated by women who wildly overestimate their value on the dating market. Thus there are at least as many undesirable middle aged women out there, if not more.

Women don't initiate divorces because they think they'll do better. They do it because they would rather be single than stay with their ex.

Of course they think they’ll do better. They have such total contempt for their STBXH that they think they can easily do better than him.

This question comes up on DCUM all the time - “thinking about getting divorced, what is the dating market like?” - and other women always chime in with how they’re having lots of great sex with their terrific new boyfriends.

And men remarry because they always thing it’s the ExW fault the marriage fell apart, sex sucked etc. They repeat the same pattern of behavior in a new marriage. The only reason why it would work sometimes is a new wife too dependent on his $, or has to tolerate an old jerk for the kids, or the old jerk is too old to cheat/seek next victim and got fed up himself

And yet every single on one my male friends who divorced in their late 40s or early 50s married a prettier, nicer, younger woman and all those friends are very happy with their second marriages!

Wait till 15 year mark in those marriages. Don’t say “hop” before you jump over the cliff.

A guy in his early 50s who marries a woman in her late 30s and it “only” lasts 10-15 years is absolutely going to put that in the WIN column.

No marriage is guaranteed to be permanent. An older guy already divorced knows this from bitter experience. If you might (and are likely to) get divorced anyway, might as well marry younger and hotter if you can.

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Anonymous wrote:To all the old ladies dating the young studs, I have a question. Why don't I ever see you together with your boy toy at a restaurant or club, on a hiking or biking trail, on a boat, or at church? Why when I travel to Las Vegas, Miami, Honolulu or Paris do I only see older men with younger women, and not granny with her young Latin penis?

Because I take my kids on my vacations. I’m secure in myself, I don’t need to prove to the world I’m desirable to 20 year olds. Boy toys are just that - toys. Fun to play with, but my kids or my girlfriends are much better company and get all my vacation time.

The men who parade women as young as their daughters around are always neglectful parents who don’t spend any time with their kids because they’re too busy pretending to be a kid. I’m not like them.

And church? Really? How many old farts do you know who are taking 22 year olds to church?

So what's in it for the guys? How much do you have to pay them?

Sex.

But they can have sex with someone who is younger, prettier, and tighter who doesn't have kids at home.

I don't have kids. I hit my pretty peak at 42, I'm a personal trainer, and I'm definitely way better in bed than I was in my twenties and early thirties.

LMAO no you were NOT prettier at 42 than you were at 22. Sorry. It’s all downhill for all women after their early 20s, that’s inescapable biological fact.

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Anonymous wrote:Well, what did you expect?? These single old guys have been thrown back by their wives not because they have redeeming qualities. They are defective. Stay single, join a book club, get a toy for a boyfriend.

So divorced middle age women are damaged and defective too, right?

Yes, of course, many of them are. Women are more likely to initiate divorce though, which leads to there being more undesirable men on the middle aged market.

The divorces are initiated by women who wildly overestimate their value on the dating market. Thus there are at least as many undesirable middle aged women out there, if not more.

Women don't initiate divorces because they think they'll do better. They do it because they would rather be single than stay with their ex.

Of course they think they’ll do better. They have such total contempt for their STBXH that they think they can easily do better than him.

This question comes up on DCUM all the time - “thinking about getting divorced, what is the dating market like?” - and other women always chime in with how they’re having lots of great sex with their terrific new boyfriends.

And men remarry because they always thing it’s the ExW fault the marriage fell apart, sex sucked etc. They repeat the same pattern of behavior in a new marriage. The only reason why it would work sometimes is a new wife too dependent on his $, or has to tolerate an old jerk for the kids, or the old jerk is too old to cheat/seek next victim and got fed up himself

And yet every single on one my male friends who divorced in their late 40s or early 50s married a prettier, nicer, younger woman and all those friends are very happy with their second marriages!

Wait till 15 year mark in those marriages. Don’t say “hop” before you jump over the cliff.

A guy in his early 50s who marries a woman in her late 30s and it “only” lasts 10-15 years is absolutely going to put that in the WIN column.

No marriage is guaranteed to be permanent. An older guy already divorced knows this from bitter experience. If you might (and are likely to) get divorced anyway, might as well marry younger and hotter if you can.

Statistically these marriages might be a "success" but it's a torturous divorcing after 10-15 years with kids. I was that "young chick 2nd wife" (and still pretty young to marry a 55+ man). The divorce on 16th year of marriage was acrimonious. My exH is depressed and angry in his early 60s. He's just not coming across as a happy person because his AP slept with him for money. Women don't pick you in that age for your looks, or good sex or any good qualities except for your wallet.

Nobody wants to become a loner in their elderly years, particular men. It ages them fast, they become paranoid and die earlier than married men with a stability of a family

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Anonymous wrote:Well, what did you expect?? These single old guys have been thrown back by their wives not because they have redeeming qualities. They are defective. Stay single, join a book club, get a toy for a boyfriend.

So divorced middle age women are damaged and defective too, right?

Yes, of course, many of them are. Women are more likely to initiate divorce though, which leads to there being more undesirable men on the middle aged market.

The divorces are initiated by women who wildly overestimate their value on the dating market. Thus there are at least as many undesirable middle aged women out there, if not more.

Women don't initiate divorces because they think they'll do better. They do it because they would rather be single than stay with their ex.

Of course they think they’ll do better. They have such total contempt for their STBXH that they think they can easily do better than him.

This question comes up on DCUM all the time - “thinking about getting divorced, what is the dating market like?” - and other women always chime in with how they’re having lots of great sex with their terrific new boyfriends.

And men remarry because they always thing it’s the ExW fault the marriage fell apart, sex sucked etc. They repeat the same pattern of behavior in a new marriage. The only reason why it would work sometimes is a new wife too dependent on his $, or has to tolerate an old jerk for the kids, or the old jerk is too old to cheat/seek next victim and got fed up himself

And yet every single on one my male friends who divorced in their late 40s or early 50s married a prettier, nicer, younger woman and all those friends are very happy with their second marriages!

Wait till 15 year mark in those marriages. Don’t say “hop” before you jump over the cliff.

A guy in his early 50s who marries a woman in her late 30s and it “only” lasts 10-15 years is absolutely going to put that in the WIN column.

No marriage is guaranteed to be permanent. An older guy already divorced knows this from bitter experience. If you might (and are likely to) get divorced anyway, might as well marry younger and hotter if you can.

Statistically these marriages might be a "success" but it's a torturous divorcing after 10-15 years with kids. I was that "young chick 2nd wife" (and still pretty young to marry a 55+ man). The divorce on 16th year of marriage was acrimonious. My exH is depressed and angry in his early 60s. He's just not coming across as a happy person because his AP slept with him for money. Women don't pick you in that age for your looks, or good sex or any good qualities except for your wallet.

Nobody wants to become a loner in their elderly years, particular men. It ages them fast, they become paranoid and die earlier than married men with a stability of a family

Agree, but many women don't care to see that they only see $$$$$$ - then wonder why they aren't happy. LOL. And so it goes.

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Anonymous wrote:To all the old ladies dating the young studs, I have a question. Why don't I ever see you together with your boy toy at a restaurant or club, on a hiking or biking trail, on a boat, or at church? Why when I travel to Las Vegas, Miami, Honolulu or Paris do I only see older men with younger women, and not granny with her young Latin penis?

Men age so much worse than women I am not sure how you could know. Men won’t even use a mild retinol or some rogaine.

LOL no women do not age better than men, the women my age on the apps are fat wrinkled bags of suet.

Some of them are 10 pounds of potatoes stuffed into 5 pound bags. Others are just dumpster fires. Mid-50s male.

Sorry you're having that experience. I'm 51 and 5'9", 120 lbs, brown/green, 32DD, still ovulating and not a speck of cellulite anywhere.

You seem Underweight.

seriously underweight. Scarily underweight.

Yeah, that is haggard - with botox and fillers, of course!

It. Looks. Horrible.

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Anonymous wrote:To all the old ladies dating the young studs, I have a question. Why don't I ever see you together with your boy toy at a restaurant or club, on a hiking or biking trail, on a boat, or at church? Why when I travel to Las Vegas, Miami, Honolulu or Paris do I only see older men with younger women, and not granny with her young Latin penis?

Because I take my kids on my vacations. I’m secure in myself, I don’t need to prove to the world I’m desirable to 20 year olds. Boy toys are just that - toys. Fun to play with, but my kids or my girlfriends are much better company and get all my vacation time.

The men who parade women as young as their daughters around are always neglectful parents who don’t spend any time with their kids because they’re too busy pretending to be a kid. I’m not like them.

And church? Really? How many old farts do you know who are taking 22 year olds to church?

So what's in it for the guys? How much do you have to pay them?

Sex.

But they can have sex with someone who is younger, prettier, and tighter who doesn't have kids at home.

I don't have kids. I hit my pretty peak at 42, I'm a personal trainer, and I'm definitely way better in bed than I was in my twenties and early thirties.

LMAO no you were NOT prettier at 42 than you were at 22. Sorry. It’s all downhill for all women after their early 20s, that’s inescapable biological fact.

it always amazed me how readily men pay for sex. Isn't it offensive and damaging to your own esteem to know that your 22 y.o. girlfriend is basically an expensive paid hooker? You wake up and look in the mirror and then jump into bed: do you really think she's enjoying your smelly breath and the scent of a 55 y.o. man's body? Men after 50 do have a different smell, somewhat sour.

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When I started dating after my divorce I quickly realized that guys my age wanted to date younger even though I was attractive, fit etc. I had no problem attracting guys 10-15 years older but that was too much for me. So I went younger! My BF is 8 years younger than me but I think most people would guess that we are about the same age. Seeing a 50 year old guy with a 30 year old is creepy, just ego building arm candy.

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Anonymous wrote:When I started dating after my divorce I quickly realized that guys my age wanted to date younger even though I was attractive, fit etc. I had no problem attracting guys 10-15 years older but that was too much for me. So I went younger! My BF is 8 years younger than me but I think most people would guess that we are about the same age. Seeing a 50 year old guy with a 30 year old is creepy, just ego building arm candy.

Don’t flatter yourself. No one would guess that you are the same age. However, the idea of an older woman dating a younger man is no longer a big deal.

As for me, after divorce I initially dated someone 8 years younger than me. However, issues related to children at home led me to prefer dating my own age, where my children and my partner’s children were all in college and not living at home full-time.

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Why do women even deal with men at all post divorce?

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Anonymous wrote:Why do women even deal with men at all post divorce?

Some of them don't.

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Anonymous wrote:When I started dating after my divorce I quickly realized that guys my age wanted to date younger even though I was attractive, fit etc. I had no problem attracting guys 10-15 years older but that was too much for me. So I went younger! My BF is 8 years younger than me but I think most people would guess that we are about the same age. Seeing a 50 year old guy with a 30 year old is creepy, just ego building arm candy.

No one thinks you are the same age.

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Anonymous wrote:To all the old ladies dating the young studs, I have a question. Why don't I ever see you together with your boy toy at a restaurant or club, on a hiking or biking trail, on a boat, or at church? Why when I travel to Las Vegas, Miami, Honolulu or Paris do I only see older men with younger women, and not granny with her young Latin penis?

Men age so much worse than women I am not sure how you could know. Men won’t even use a mild retinol or some rogaine.

LOL no women do not age better than men, the women my age on the apps are fat wrinkled bags of suet.

Some of them are 10 pounds of potatoes stuffed into 5 pound bags. Others are just dumpster fires. Mid-50s male.

Sorry you're having that experience. I'm 51 and 5'9", 120 lbs, brown/green, 32DD, still ovulating and not a speck of cellulite anywhere.

With breasts hanging down to your knees…..

Nope. They look pretty much like they always did.

Ridiculous. Same age and 40DD here and mine haven't sagged.
Either their at your knees or you’ve had quite a bit of work done, sweetie. 51 and 32DD means 51 and 32 long.