I love my kids but I’m also jealous of anybody who doesn’t have kids

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Anonymous wrote:Wow i think the takeaway here is that parenting Little kids really meets you wherever you are. I too am not an intuitive parent and have been super challenged by my parenting journey but I really wouldn’t change it for the world. It is the most fulfilling and profound journey a human can go through. Yup, I said it. Is it possible to have a rich and fulfilling life without kids? Full of meaning and connection? Absolutely.
Is it as rich, connected, and profound as the life of a parent? No way, no how.
I don’t envy my childless friends and family. I see a desperate and sad longing in their eyes. I never knew being a parent would be this amazing, this incredible. To be their parent, their guardian and guide as they grow, the bow that launches this precious arrow, is a privilege. I only wish I had known earlier! I truly never knew.
Now, I very time I travel and have to board my dog, I REALLY envy people without dogs!!! And I am a lifelong dog lover and have a 16 year old dog I adore!!! But being able to travel without finding doggy care or having to come home to let him out? that’s freedom.

No, you see what you want to see. I’m childfree by choice, and have exactly zero longing or desperation for children. This is a really f*cked up post and if I knew you felt this way, you’d no longer be my friend.

Lol no. I have a neighbor with no children who has sadly told me how much she regrets not having them. I think for every person with no children who chose not to have them there are 3 other childless people who really wanted kids but couldn’t.

Maybe! There are also a lot, a LOT of parents who have serious regrets about having children or never should have had them, but that's a bar too far for a lot of people to handle. It's basically the last thing people would ever feel comfortable admitting, that they regret their children. But it's there, trust me, it is there. I had my twins at 40, which made me the "never had kids" friend for a lot of people for a long time. There were many, "I could never admit this to ANYONE but....I HATE being a mother and curse every day I made this decision!" conversations. I'm not sure who I feel worse for, those childless who wanted kids and didn't have them, or those who wanted and had kids who regret every day of their existence as parents. I think the latter, since there are now innocents involved who didn't get the choice to be born.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow i think the takeaway here is that parenting Little kids really meets you wherever you are. I too am not an intuitive parent and have been super challenged by my parenting journey but I really wouldn’t change it for the world. It is the most fulfilling and profound journey a human can go through. Yup, I said it. Is it possible to have a rich and fulfilling life without kids? Full of meaning and connection? Absolutely.
Is it as rich, connected, and profound as the life of a parent? No way, no how.
I don’t envy my childless friends and family. I see a desperate and sad longing in their eyes. I never knew being a parent would be this amazing, this incredible. To be their parent, their guardian and guide as they grow, the bow that launches this precious arrow, is a privilege. I only wish I had known earlier! I truly never knew.
Now, I very time I travel and have to board my dog, I REALLY envy people without dogs!!! And I am a lifelong dog lover and have a 16 year old dog I adore!!! But being able to travel without finding doggy care or having to come home to let him out? that’s freedom.

No, you see what you want to see. I’m childfree by choice, and have exactly zero longing or desperation for children. This is a really f*cked up post and if I knew you felt this way, you’d no longer be my friend.

Lol no. I have a neighbor with no children who has sadly told me how much she regrets not having them. I think for every person with no children who chose not to have them there are 3 other childless people who really wanted kids but couldn’t.

Maybe! There are also a lot, a LOT of parents who have serious regrets about having children or never should have had them, but that's a bar too far for a lot of people to handle. It's basically the last thing people would ever feel comfortable admitting, that they regret their children. But it's there, trust me, it is there. I had my twins at 40, which made me the "never had kids" friend for a lot of people for a long time. There were many, "I could never admit this to ANYONE but....I HATE being a mother and curse every day I made this decision!" conversations. I'm not sure who I feel worse for, those childless who wanted kids and didn't have them, or those who wanted and had kids who regret every day of their existence as parents. I think the latter, since there are now innocents involved who didn't get the choice to be born.

Def feel sorry for those that hate being a mother. My friend said that society pushed motherhood on her and now she is stuck. She would have been better off without kids but I would never tell her that. She is STRUGGLING.

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Motherhood is easy for me.not jealous at all of childfree because I kmow how to balance my time and my life is more than motherhood. I vacation, spend time with husband and friends and my kids are icing on the cake.

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Anonymous wrote:Motherhood is easy for me.not jealous at all of childfree because I kmow how to balance my time and my life is more than motherhood. I vacation, spend time with husband and friends and my kids are icing on the cake.

LOL Definitely easy.

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Anonymous wrote:Motherhood is easy for me.not jealous at all of childfree because I kmow how to balance my time and my life is more than motherhood. I vacation, spend time with husband and friends and my kids are icing on the cake.

Tell me about yourself. Why is motherhood so easy for you? I am in a very cushy situation (lots of money, involved DH, flexible job, wonderful nanny, local grandparents) and I am still finding that wrangling a baby and pre-schooler can at times be challenging. Especially now when the whole family is sick!

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I hate being a working mom but that’s about work, not being a mom. 😵‍💫

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Anonymous wrote:Motherhood is easy for me.not jealous at all of childfree because I kmow how to balance my time and my life is more than motherhood. I vacation, spend time with husband and friends and my kids are icing on the cake.

Tell me about yourself. Why is motherhood so easy for you? I am in a very cushy situation (lots of money, involved DH, flexible job, wonderful nanny, local grandparents) and I am still finding that wrangling a baby and pre-schooler can at times be challenging. Especially now when the whole family is sick!

It’s easier for me because im easy going on general, i microdose on edibles and Im wealthy (not to brag) but just telling you my formula. I am just confident in my mothering skills + kids are easy and get along for most part. i know everyone has a different story but this is why morherhood is easy for ME.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Motherhood is easy for me.not jealous at all of childfree because I kmow how to balance my time and my life is more than motherhood. I vacation, spend time with husband and friends and my kids are icing on the cake.

Tell me about yourself. Why is motherhood so easy for you? I am in a very cushy situation (lots of money, involved DH, flexible job, wonderful nanny, local grandparents) and I am still finding that wrangling a baby and pre-schooler can at times be challenging. Especially now when the whole family is sick!

It’s easier for me because im easy going on general, i microdose on edibles and Im wealthy (not to brag) but just telling you my formula. I am just confident in my mothering skills + kids are easy and get along for most part. i know everyone has a different story but this is why morherhood is easy for ME.

Microdose on edibles?

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Anonymous wrote:How many childless friends do you have?

I don’t know a single person childless because they just didn’t want children. I have all of one friend without children, and while it is by choice, it is largely bc of medical reasons and life circumstances.

People without children usually have a depressing reason why they don’t have children in the first place. Sometimes if you truly know the problems other people are facing, you will gladly keep your own problems

I’m childless by choice, because I’ve been a nanny for 20 years and taking care of other peoples children made me not want my own. I love to borrow children and return them at the end of the day. I don’t think my life is depressing. I like to travel, sleep in, and live life for myself. I give so much Mon-Fri and would have nothing left to give children of my own. Thankfully I’ve been with my nanny family for 11 years so it feels like I got the benefits of children, without any of the financial responsibilities.

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Anonymous wrote:How many childless friends do you have?

I don’t know a single person childless because they just didn’t want children. I have all of one friend without children, and while it is by choice, it is largely bc of medical reasons and life circumstances.

People without children usually have a depressing reason why they don’t have children in the first place. Sometimes if you truly know the problems other people are facing, you will gladly keep your own problems

I’m childless by choice, because I’ve been a nanny for 20 years and taking care of other peoples children made me not want my own. I love to borrow children and return them at the end of the day. I don’t think my life is depressing. I like to travel, sleep in, and live life for myself. I give so much Mon-Fri and would have nothing left to give children of my own. Thankfully I’ve been with my nanny family for 11 years so it feels like I got the benefits of children, without any of the financial responsibilities.

My best nannies have been the same. Go PP for knowing your limits. I have only one kid and that is the extent of what I can handle while being happy. For a while I thought my limit was zero.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Motherhood is easy for me.not jealous at all of childfree because I kmow how to balance my time and my life is more than motherhood. I vacation, spend time with husband and friends and my kids are icing on the cake.

Tell me about yourself. Why is motherhood so easy for you? I am in a very cushy situation (lots of money, involved DH, flexible job, wonderful nanny, local grandparents) and I am still finding that wrangling a baby and pre-schooler can at times be challenging. Especially now when the whole family is sick!

It’s easier for me because im easy going on general, i microdose on edibles and Im wealthy (not to brag) but just telling you my formula. I am just confident in my mothering skills + kids are easy and get along for most part. i know everyone has a different story but this is why morherhood is easy for ME.

Microdose on edibles?

Yes, medical THC is a thing. Google it.
https://www.thedoctorstv.com/articles/4674-moms-that-microdose-marijuana-for-health-benefits

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow i think the takeaway here is that parenting Little kids really meets you wherever you are. I too am not an intuitive parent and have been super challenged by my parenting journey but I really wouldn’t change it for the world. It is the most fulfilling and profound journey a human can go through. Yup, I said it. Is it possible to have a rich and fulfilling life without kids? Full of meaning and connection? Absolutely.
Is it as rich, connected, and profound as the life of a parent? No way, no how.
I don’t envy my childless friends and family. I see a desperate and sad longing in their eyes. I never knew being a parent would be this amazing, this incredible. To be their parent, their guardian and guide as they grow, the bow that launches this precious arrow, is a privilege. I only wish I had known earlier! I truly never knew.
Now, I very time I travel and have to board my dog, I REALLY envy people without dogs!!! And I am a lifelong dog lover and have a 16 year old dog I adore!!! But being able to travel without finding doggy care or having to come home to let him out? that’s freedom.

No, you see what you want to see. I’m childfree by choice, and have exactly zero longing or desperation for children. This is a really f*cked up post and if I knew you felt this way, you’d no longer be my friend.

Lol no. I have a neighbor with no children who has sadly told me how much she regrets not having them. I think for every person with no children who chose not to have them there are 3 other childless people who really wanted kids but couldn’t.

Maybe! There are also a lot, a LOT of parents who have serious regrets about having children or never should have had them, but that's a bar too far for a lot of people to handle. It's basically the last thing people would ever feel comfortable admitting, that they regret their children. But it's there, trust me, it is there. I had my twins at 40, which made me the "never had kids" friend for a lot of people for a long time. There were many, "I could never admit this to ANYONE but....I HATE being a mother and curse every day I made this decision!" conversations. I'm not sure who I feel worse for, those childless who wanted kids and didn't have them, or those who wanted and had kids who regret every day of their existence as parents. I think the latter, since there are now innocents involved who didn't get the choice to be born.

This. Regretting having children is far more common than regretting not having them.

When you become a mother you become the sacrifice. The majority of women also going into motherhood without being informed as much as possible.
Check out the i regret having children facebook page.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow i think the takeaway here is that parenting Little kids really meets you wherever you are. I too am not an intuitive parent and have been super challenged by my parenting journey but I really wouldn’t change it for the world. It is the most fulfilling and profound journey a human can go through. Yup, I said it. Is it possible to have a rich and fulfilling life without kids? Full of meaning and connection? Absolutely.
Is it as rich, connected, and profound as the life of a parent? No way, no how.
I don’t envy my childless friends and family. I see a desperate and sad longing in their eyes. I never knew being a parent would be this amazing, this incredible. To be their parent, their guardian and guide as they grow, the bow that launches this precious arrow, is a privilege. I only wish I had known earlier! I truly never knew.
Now, I very time I travel and have to board my dog, I REALLY envy people without dogs!!! And I am a lifelong dog lover and have a 16 year old dog I adore!!! But being able to travel without finding doggy care or having to come home to let him out? that’s freedom.

No, you see what you want to see. I’m childfree by choice, and have exactly zero longing or desperation for children. This is a really f*cked up post and if I knew you felt this way, you’d no longer be my friend.

Lol no. I have a neighbor with no children who has sadly told me how much she regrets not having them. I think for every person with no children who chose not to have them there are 3 other childless people who really wanted kids but couldn’t.

Maybe! There are also a lot, a LOT of parents who have serious regrets about having children or never should have had them, but that's a bar too far for a lot of people to handle. It's basically the last thing people would ever feel comfortable admitting, that they regret their children. But it's there, trust me, it is there. I had my twins at 40, which made me the "never had kids" friend for a lot of people for a long time. There were many, "I could never admit this to ANYONE but....I HATE being a mother and curse every day I made this decision!" conversations. I'm not sure who I feel worse for, those childless who wanted kids and didn't have them, or those who wanted and had kids who regret every day of their existence as parents. I think the latter, since there are now innocents involved who didn't get the choice to be born.

This. Regretting having children is far more common than regretting not having them.

When you become a mother you become the sacrifice. The majority of women also going into motherhood without being informed as much as possible.
Check out the i regret having children facebook page.

Yep it's real and it's why I stopped at one. I don't regret but I know I would risk regretting if I had two

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Motherhood is easy for me.not jealous at all of childfree because I kmow how to balance my time and my life is more than motherhood. I vacation, spend time with husband and friends and my kids are icing on the cake.

Tell me about yourself. Why is motherhood so easy for you? I am in a very cushy situation (lots of money, involved DH, flexible job, wonderful nanny, local grandparents) and I am still finding that wrangling a baby and pre-schooler can at times be challenging. Especially now when the whole family is sick!

It’s easier for me because im easy going on general, i microdose on edibles and Im wealthy (not to brag) but just telling you my formula. I am just confident in my mothering skills + kids are easy and get along for most part. i know everyone has a different story but this is why morherhood is easy for ME.

Microdose on edibles?

So they are constantly sedated. “Mothers little helper”. Being wealthy likely means she has no job or a cushy job.

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OMG knucks.

Just got back from an international trip and dealing with kid crap every aspect of every day is just such a downer. Want to have a relaxing meal out? GOOD LUCK. Walk around a city aimlessly? Nope.

Not to say there aren't good things about travel with kids, but travel definitely highlights the aspects of having them that are hard.

I know some parents with one kid find it to be not that bad but once you have two kid aged kids it's just so hard sometimes.