I love my kids but I’m also jealous of anybody who doesn’t have kids

[Anonymous]

I find people who regret having kids abhorrent. Did you not know how challenging parenting a child is? With the knowledge all around you, were you people oblivious to how hard it is to raise a little human? You chose to have a child, bring an innocent life into this world and now you have the audacity to regret that? This isn’t a bad career choice. This is about a life or several lives. I have three kids and I knew I could either be a present mother or focus on my career. I chose the former and put my career on hold. I do sometimes wish to go back to work but I know my kids need me much more than a corporate job and I won’t get this time back. My kids are all healthy and quite well behaved for the most part but it’s still challenging at times because parenthood is challenging! But to actually regret having your child is despicable. You are blaming an innocent child for your own choices.

A lot of mothers are also miserable because they chose to have multiple kids yet keep working and bearing the brunt of childcare. You made this choice. Men conveniently don’t have to make that choice so why do we women do this to ourselves? Why do we act like martyrs then become resentful and regret our own kids?! Why can’t we stick to one thing or make sure childcare is divided equally or outsource whatever we can. No you cannot have it all at the same time because when you try to do that you become resentful and start despising your own kids!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG knucks.

Just got back from an international trip and dealing with kid crap every aspect of every day is just such a downer. Want to have a relaxing meal out? GOOD LUCK. Walk around a city aimlessly? Nope.

Not to say there aren't good things about travel with kids, but travel definitely highlights the aspects of having them that are hard.

I know some parents with one kid find it to be not that bad but once you have two kid aged kids it's just so hard sometimes.

+1

[Anonymous]

I think many parents are delusional about the ability of their children to handle them in old age. Your kid could have a mental health issue, end up in prison, or just don't give a crap about you. It's better to invest in yourself and your health than damage your finances and health to bring someone into the world as your future caretaker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think many parents are delusional about the ability of their children to handle them in old age. Your kid could have a mental health issue, end up in prison, or just don't give a crap about you. It's better to invest in yourself and your health than damage your finances and health to bring someone into the world as your future caretaker.

I’ve been prepping my children (girls) over the years to care forcme in old age. Im not doing all this work for nothing. I will have loved ones around me in old age. Not some lonely old cat lady. Girls are more likely to care for parents in old age. Im lucky to have girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG knucks.

Just got back from an international trip and dealing with kid crap every aspect of every day is just such a downer. Want to have a relaxing meal out? GOOD LUCK. Walk around a city aimlessly? Nope.

Not to say there aren't good things about travel with kids, but travel definitely highlights the aspects of having them that are hard.

I know some parents with one kid find it to be not that bad but once you have two kid aged kids it's just so hard sometimes.

This is why I alternate family travel with just-DH and me travel

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG knucks.

Just got back from an international trip and dealing with kid crap every aspect of every day is just such a downer. Want to have a relaxing meal out? GOOD LUCK. Walk around a city aimlessly? Nope.

Not to say there aren't good things about travel with kids, but travel definitely highlights the aspects of having them that are hard.

I know some parents with one kid find it to be not that bad but once you have two kid aged kids it's just so hard sometimes.

This is why I alternate family travel with just-DH and me travel

How old are your kids? Who watches them for these trips?
I would love to do this, but we have a 6yo and a 2yo. Closest family are my parents who are 2.5 hours away and, while I think they’d likely be ok to handle the kids overnight, any longer than that would make me nervous. All other family members are on the West Coast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG knucks.

Just got back from an international trip and dealing with kid crap every aspect of every day is just such a downer. Want to have a relaxing meal out? GOOD LUCK. Walk around a city aimlessly? Nope.

Not to say there aren't good things about travel with kids, but travel definitely highlights the aspects of having them that are hard.

I know some parents with one kid find it to be not that bad but once you have two kid aged kids it's just so hard sometimes.

This is why I alternate family travel with just-DH and me travel

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG knucks.

Just got back from an international trip and dealing with kid crap every aspect of every day is just such a downer. Want to have a relaxing meal out? GOOD LUCK. Walk around a city aimlessly? Nope.

Not to say there aren't good things about travel with kids, but travel definitely highlights the aspects of having them that are hard.

I know some parents with one kid find it to be not that bad but once you have two kid aged kids it's just so hard sometimes.

This is why I alternate family travel with just-DH and me travel

+1

Original PP with the travel woes and YES, that is 100% something I'm realizing will need to happen. This year, I think it'll just be a long weekend in NOLA but I'd love another partner'ed international trip in the not too distant future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think many parents are delusional about the ability of their children to handle them in old age. Your kid could have a mental health issue, end up in prison, or just don't give a crap about you. It's better to invest in yourself and your health than damage your finances and health to bring someone into the world as your future caretaker.

I’ve been prepping my children (girls) over the years to care forcme in old age. Im not doing all this work for nothing. I will have loved ones around me in old age. Not some lonely old cat lady. Girls are more likely to care for parents in old age. Im lucky to have girls.

I don't know about that. I have no contact with my own mother who is big on emotional blackmail like you are and I'm a woman FWIW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG knucks.

Just got back from an international trip and dealing with kid crap every aspect of every day is just such a downer. Want to have a relaxing meal out? GOOD LUCK. Walk around a city aimlessly? Nope.

Not to say there aren't good things about travel with kids, but travel definitely highlights the aspects of having them that are hard.

I know some parents with one kid find it to be not that bad but once you have two kid aged kids it's just so hard sometimes.

This is why I alternate family travel with just-DH and me travel

How old are your kids? Who watches them for these trips?
I would love to do this, but we have a 6yo and a 2yo. Closest family are my parents who are 2.5 hours away and, while I think they’d likely be ok to handle the kids overnight, any longer than that would make me nervous. All other family members are on the West Coast.

Different PP, and in the cases where we've done this either my in laws will come (they're 2.5 hours away) or my own mom who is more flexible but farther away.

I don't know if my mom would want a whole week anymore, and I know my inlaws wouldn't, so I might have to wait a few years until the kids are out of the same age range as yours when they are a little more easily managed to do anything longer than a long weekend. 2-4 and 6-7 is just a hard period, IMO, especially with two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find people who regret having kids abhorrent. Did you not know how challenging parenting a child is? With the knowledge all around you, were you people oblivious to how hard it is to raise a little human? You chose to have a child, bring an innocent life into this world and now you have the audacity to regret that? This isn’t a bad career choice. This is about a life or several lives. I have three kids and I knew I could either be a present mother or focus on my career. I chose the former and put my career on hold. I do sometimes wish to go back to work but I know my kids need me much more than a corporate job and I won’t get this time back. My kids are all healthy and quite well behaved for the most part but it’s still challenging at times because parenthood is challenging! But to actually regret having your child is despicable. You are blaming an innocent child for your own choices.

A lot of mothers are also miserable because they chose to have multiple kids yet keep working and bearing the brunt of childcare. You made this choice. Men conveniently don’t have to make that choice so why do we women do this to ourselves? Why do we act like martyrs then become resentful and regret our own kids?! Why can’t we stick to one thing or make sure childcare is divided equally or outsource whatever we can. No you cannot have it all at the same time because when you try to do that you become resentful and start despising your own kids!

I don’t regret having my kids, but no, I had no idea how hard special needs parenting is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find people who regret having kids abhorrent. Did you not know how challenging parenting a child is? With the knowledge all around you, were you people oblivious to how hard it is to raise a little human? You chose to have a child, bring an innocent life into this world and now you have the audacity to regret that? This isn’t a bad career choice. This is about a life or several lives. I have three kids and I knew I could either be a present mother or focus on my career. I chose the former and put my career on hold. I do sometimes wish to go back to work but I know my kids need me much more than a corporate job and I won’t get this time back. My kids are all healthy and quite well behaved for the most part but it’s still challenging at times because parenthood is challenging! But to actually regret having your child is despicable. You are blaming an innocent child for your own choices.

A lot of mothers are also miserable because they chose to have multiple kids yet keep working and bearing the brunt of childcare. You made this choice. Men conveniently don’t have to make that choice so why do we women do this to ourselves? Why do we act like martyrs then become resentful and regret our own kids?! Why can’t we stick to one thing or make sure childcare is divided equally or outsource whatever we can. No you cannot have it all at the same time because when you try to do that you become resentful and start despising your own kids!

What a blessing! Not all are so lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find people who regret having kids abhorrent. Did you not know how challenging parenting a child is? With the knowledge all around you, were you people oblivious to how hard it is to raise a little human? You chose to have a child, bring an innocent life into this world and now you have the audacity to regret that? This isn’t a bad career choice. This is about a life or several lives. I have three kids and I knew I could either be a present mother or focus on my career. I chose the former and put my career on hold. I do sometimes wish to go back to work but I know my kids need me much more than a corporate job and I won’t get this time back. My kids are all healthy and quite well behaved for the most part but it’s still challenging at times because parenthood is challenging! But to actually regret having your child is despicable. You are blaming an innocent child for your own choices.

A lot of mothers are also miserable because they chose to have multiple kids yet keep working and bearing the brunt of childcare. You made this choice. Men conveniently don’t have to make that choice so why do we women do this to ourselves? Why do we act like martyrs then become resentful and regret our own kids?! Why can’t we stick to one thing or make sure childcare is divided equally or outsource whatever we can. No you cannot have it all at the same time because when you try to do that you become resentful and start despising your own kids!

I don’t regret having my kids, but no, I had no idea how hard special needs parenting is.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG knucks.

Just got back from an international trip and dealing with kid crap every aspect of every day is just such a downer. Want to have a relaxing meal out? GOOD LUCK. Walk around a city aimlessly? Nope.

Not to say there aren't good things about travel with kids, but travel definitely highlights the aspects of having them that are hard.

I know some parents with one kid find it to be not that bad but once you have two kid aged kids it's just so hard sometimes.

This is why I alternate family travel with just-DH and me travel

How old are your kids? Who watches them for these trips?
I would love to do this, but we have a 6yo and a 2yo. Closest family are my parents who are 2.5 hours away and, while I think they’d likely be ok to handle the kids overnight, any longer than that would make me nervous. All other family members are on the West Coast.

Different PP, and in the cases where we've done this either my in laws will come (they're 2.5 hours away) or my own mom who is more flexible but farther away.

I don't know if my mom would want a whole week anymore, and I know my inlaws wouldn't, so I might have to wait a few years until the kids are out of the same age range as yours when they are a little more easily managed to do anything longer than a long weekend. 2-4 and 6-7 is just a hard period, IMO, especially with two.

You are lucky. Our oldest was 16 before DH and I were able to have a long weekend alone together.

[Anonymous]

My mom was the only one who could watch ours and she died prematurely. I guess we will travel alone when the youngest goes to college.