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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow i think the takeaway here is that parenting Little kids really meets you wherever you are. I too am not an intuitive parent and have been super challenged by my parenting journey but I really wouldn’t change it for the world. It is the most fulfilling and profound journey a human can go through. Yup, I said it. Is it possible to have a rich and fulfilling life without kids? Full of meaning and connection? Absolutely.
Is it as rich, connected, and profound as the life of a parent? No way, no how. 
I don’t envy my childless friends and family.[b] I see a desperate and sad longing in their eyes.[/b] I never knew being a parent would be this amazing, this incredible. To be their parent, their guardian and guide as they grow, the bow that launches this precious arrow, is a privilege. I only wish I had known earlier! I truly never knew.
Now, I very time I travel and have to board my dog, I REALLY envy people without dogs!!! And I am a lifelong dog lover and have a 16 year old dog I adore!!! But being able to travel without finding doggy care or having to come home to let him out? that’s freedom. [/quote]

No, you see what you want to see. I’m childfree by choice, and have exactly zero longing or desperation for children. This is a really f*cked up post and if I knew you felt this way, you’d no longer be my friend.[/quote]

Lol no. I have a neighbor with no children who has sadly told me how much she regrets not having them. [b]I think for every person with no children who chose not to have them there are 3 other childless people who really wanted kids but couldn’t.[/b] [/quote]

Maybe! There are also a lot, a LOT of parents who have serious regrets about having children or never should have had them, but that's a bar too far for a lot of people to handle. It's basically the last thing people would ever feel comfortable admitting, that they regret their children. But it's there, trust me, it is there. I had my twins at 40, which made me the "never had kids" friend for a lot of people for a long time. There were many, "I could never admit this to ANYONE but....I HATE being a mother and curse every day I made this decision!" conversations. I'm not sure who I feel worse for, those childless who wanted kids and didn't have them, or those who wanted and had kids who regret every day of their existence as parents. I think the latter, since there are now innocents involved who didn't get the choice to be born. [/quote]

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