Do other parents yell criticisms at your kid?

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U15B team had a player use the f bomb at an opposing team parent. Ref gave the kid a red card.

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Anonymous wrote:U15B team had a player use the f bomb at an opposing team parent. Ref gave the kid a red card.

What did the opposing team parent say or do for the player to use the f bomb?

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Anonymous wrote:I love it when a rambunctious 10 year old screams back at the asshat parent "shut the f up", puts the parent in their place quick.

This is great

If my 10 year old (or at any age for that matter), yelled the "F" word at me or anyone anywhere. Holy crap would he be trouble.

The F word is common language these days especially in emotionally driven activities like competitive sports. I think you are in the minority here mam.

I don’t think she’s in the minority, my kids are that age and a bit older and they would be in huge trouble if they talked to anyone that way. I can understand cursing at ur self under your breath but what the hell are we teaching kids if it’s ok to talk to others like that?

We're teaching them a lot of things these days. If the only really bad idea they learn in school is being rude to others then I think you should consider yourself lucky.

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Yep! My kid passed back to a teammate, and the parent near me yelled, "Wrong way!" Rolling my eyes.

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Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by critisism? Yes. It is normal to yell things like, "Take the shot, Larla!" "Get open, Larla!" or whatever. It's not normal to "criticize" any of the players. "Bad footwork, Larla!" "Learn to shoot, Larla!"

I can't tell from your post if the parents are being grossly inappropriate or if you're being overly sensitvie.

The other parents were yelling at my kid that she was playing for the wrong team, telling her to "get it right" and things of that sort. They were also loudly laughing at her.

Last game I had made a point to tell them that their daughter had done great. Tried to be nice. This is what they did in return.

Some of the other girls on the team picked up on it and were calling names to my daughter. The coach, however, made a point of coming over to me to congratulate my daughter and tell me how well she did. He didn't do this to anyone else. I don't play soccer, but she must have done something right for him to say that.

No, that is not acceptable. I would confront the other parents. The club should not tolerate that.

Their behavior is unacceptable. It's pathetic for grown people to make fun of girls. I saw this behavior at a school in NoVa. Rotund older men yelling names at teen girls. Obviously, insecure men.

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Use of profanity by a player is a red card offense (Rule 12). This enforcement is mediated by the content of the profanity and the purpose or cause for the profanity. A player gets hurt and yells “Fxxx”. Not really going to result in a red. Player gets into it with an other player - yep. That will be a red.

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I don't even yell at my son's teammates in high school, nor do I complain loudly about them. I may make a quiet comment to my family about a bad play or some kid who is not putting in the effort, but that's about it.

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Anonymous wrote:Use of profanity by a player is a red card offense (Rule 12). This enforcement is mediated by the content of the profanity and the purpose or cause for the profanity. A player gets hurt and yells “Fxxx”. Not really going to result in a red. Player gets into it with an other player - yep. That will be a red.

Pretty bad rule, 17-18 year olds Gould not be sent off for saying a bad word.

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Anonymous wrote:Use of profanity by a player is a red card offense (Rule 12). This enforcement is mediated by the content of the profanity and the purpose or cause for the profanity. A player gets hurt and yells “Fxxx”. Not really going to result in a red. Player gets into it with an other player - yep. That will be a red.

Pretty bad rule, 17-18 year olds Gould not be sent off for saying a bad word.

Agreed. Personally, at that age, I always let the ref know that I thought he was f****** p**** before the game started and then regularly throughout the ninety minutes. I found most refs appreciated my frank and honest approach and in many cases actually singled me out for special praise.

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Anonymous wrote:Yep! My kid passed back to a teammate, and the parent near me yelled, "Wrong way!" Rolling my eyes.

Girls team I assume?

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Anonymous wrote:Use of profanity by a player is a red card offense (Rule 12). This enforcement is mediated by the content of the profanity and the purpose or cause for the profanity. A player gets hurt and yells “Fxxx”. Not really going to result in a red. Player gets into it with an other player - yep. That will be a red.

Wrong! Use of profanity is not a red card. LAW 12! No where in the laws do they even mention the word profanity. What is a red card is offensive, abusive, or insulting language and/or actions. A kid making a mistake and saying F is not a red card. A kid calling another player a slur is.

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I find it ironic to hear so many parents threaten violence against someone who were to yell at their kid. Two wrongs dont make a right.

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Anonymous wrote:Use of profanity by a player is a red card offense (Rule 12). This enforcement is mediated by the content of the profanity and the purpose or cause for the profanity. A player gets hurt and yells “Fxxx”. Not really going to result in a red. Player gets into it with an other player - yep. That will be a red.

Wrong! Use of profanity is not a red card. LAW 12! No where in the laws do they even mention the word profanity. What is a red card is offensive, abusive, or insulting language and/or actions. A kid making a mistake and saying F is not a red card. A kid calling another player a slur is.

You just restated the other post. What do you think profane language is other than “offensive”? Will it’s use always result in a red card? Nope. The other post is correct. It could result in a red card, but officials will consider the context. A kid using a swear word while lying on the ground with a broken bone - not going to be a problem. A kid squaring off against another using a series of f bombs - yep that’s a red.

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Anonymous wrote:Use of profanity by a player is a red card offense (Rule 12). This enforcement is mediated by the content of the profanity and the purpose or cause for the profanity. A player gets hurt and yells “Fxxx”. Not really going to result in a red. Player gets into it with an other player - yep. That will be a red.

Wrong! Use of profanity is not a red card. LAW 12! No where in the laws do they even mention the word profanity. What is a red card is offensive, abusive, or insulting language and/or actions. A kid making a mistake and saying F is not a red card. A kid calling another player a slur is.

You just restated the other post. What do you think profane language is other than “offensive”? Will it’s use always result in a red card? Nope. The other post is correct. It could result in a red card, but officials will consider the context. A kid using a swear word while lying on the ground with a broken bone - not going to be a problem. A kid squaring off against another using a series of f bombs - yep that’s a red.

The poster wrote..."Use of profanity by a player is a red card offense (Rule 12)." That's not true. Then the poster gets it straightened out for the most part. Your post is accurate it. It's up to the ref to decide what language is offensive.

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Anonymous wrote:OP this is unacceptable. Parent of two that played Divison 1.

If anyone criticized my kids at any age they'd have to deal with all four foot ten of me and it would not be pretty.

Also, I never had my kids with coaches that screamed at kids. Never. Walked away twice never looked back.

+1. I’m a parent of two boys that are also playing D1 soccer.

If anyone on our team that criticizes my boys during their youth soccer games, they would have to deal with my husband who is 6’6” 270 lbs and former D1 football player. There are many games that their uncles would attend who are as equally large and strong. It’s interesting that no parents ever criticize my boys back then even though they were late bloomers/growth spurts. I don’t know if the other parents were just decent human beings or were just too scared to piss off my husband.

Lady you would be surprised how many people pack heat and are not afraid to use it thats a huge equalizer to 6'6" 270lbs

Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. My father was a travel soccer coach for a few decades and he always joked, it was 'great, except for the parents ". As a grandfather, he had ZERO tolerance for sideline coaching at his grandsons' games. I still remember when I as a field marshall at a tournament and there was all kinds of commotion on one of the fields...and my husband (also field marshall) said he had to interject because my 76-year old father told some obnoxious a-hole parent screaming directions to the players "Hey Pal, Coaches sit over there" as he pointed across the field to the team bench. My dad was ready to come to blows with the guy. I miss him .