Do other parents yell criticisms at your kid?

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Anonymous wrote:I find it ironic to hear so many parents threaten violence against someone who were to yell at their kid. Two wrongs dont make a right.

I agree that two wrongs doesn’t make it right, but it would surely teach the other parent(s) to shut up. If you verbally and/or physically abuse my young DC, I will surely teach you a life lesson!

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Anonymous wrote:I love it when a rambunctious 10 year old screams back at the asshat parent "shut the f up", puts the parent in their place quick.

This is great

If my 10 year old (or at any age for that matter), yelled the "F" word at me or anyone anywhere. Holy crap would he be trouble.

The F word is common language these days especially in emotionally driven activities like competitive sports. I think you are in the minority here mam.

I don’t think she’s in the minority, my kids are that age and a bit older and they would be in huge trouble if they talked to anyone that way. I can understand cursing at ur self under your breath but what the hell are we teaching kids if it’s ok to talk to others like that?

My older brother would turn to the sidelines, grab his nuts and shake them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP this is unacceptable. Parent of two that played Divison 1.

If anyone criticized my kids at any age they'd have to deal with all four foot ten of me and it would not be pretty.

Also, I never had my kids with coaches that screamed at kids. Never. Walked away twice never looked back.

+1. I’m a parent of two boys that are also playing D1 soccer.

If anyone on our team that criticizes my boys during their youth soccer games, they would have to deal with my husband who is 6’6” 270 lbs and former D1 football player. There are many games that their uncles would attend who are as equally large and strong. It’s interesting that no parents ever criticize my boys back then even though they were late bloomers/growth spurts. I don’t know if the other parents were just decent human beings or were just too scared to piss off my husband.

Lady you would be surprised how many people pack heat and are not afraid to use it thats a huge equalizer to 6'6" 270lbs

Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. My father was a travel soccer coach for a few decades and he always joked, it was 'great, except for the parents ". As a grandfather, he had ZERO tolerance for sideline coaching at his grandsons' games. I still remember when I as a field marshall at a tournament and there was all kinds of commotion on one of the fields...and my husband (also field marshall) said he had to interject because my 76-year old father told some obnoxious a-hole parent screaming directions to the players "Hey Pal, Coaches sit over there" as he pointed across the field to the team bench. My dad was ready to come to blows with the guy. I miss him .

Who gives a S if you played D1. What does that have to do with anything? STFU with trying to make you sound like your opinion matters more than anyone elses.

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Anonymous wrote:OP this is unacceptable. Parent of two that played Divison 1.

If anyone criticized my kids at any age they'd have to deal with all four foot ten of me and it would not be pretty.

Also, I never had my kids with coaches that screamed at kids. Never. Walked away twice never looked back.

+1. I’m a parent of two boys that are also playing D1 soccer.

If anyone on our team that criticizes my boys during their youth soccer games, they would have to deal with my husband who is 6’6” 270 lbs and former D1 football player. There are many games that their uncles would attend who are as equally large and strong. It’s interesting that no parents ever criticize my boys back then even though they were late bloomers/growth spurts. I don’t know if the other parents were just decent human beings or were just too scared to piss off my husband.

Lady you would be surprised how many people pack heat and are not afraid to use it thats a huge equalizer to 6'6" 270lbs

Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. My father was a travel soccer coach for a few decades and he always joked, it was 'great, except for the parents ". As a grandfather, he had ZERO tolerance for sideline coaching at his grandsons' games. I still remember when I as a field marshall at a tournament and there was all kinds of commotion on one of the fields...and my husband (also field marshall) said he had to interject because my 76-year old father told some obnoxious a-hole parent screaming directions to the players "Hey Pal, Coaches sit over there" as he pointed across the field to the team bench. My dad was ready to come to blows with the guy. I miss him .

Who gives a S if you played D1. What does that have to do with anything? STFU with trying to make you sound like your opinion matters more than anyone elses.

More educated opinions should matter more.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP this is unacceptable. Parent of two that played Divison 1.

If anyone criticized my kids at any age they'd have to deal with all four foot ten of me and it would not be pretty.

Also, I never had my kids with coaches that screamed at kids. Never. Walked away twice never looked back.

+1. I’m a parent of two boys that are also playing D1 soccer.

If anyone on our team that criticizes my boys during their youth soccer games, they would have to deal with my husband who is 6’6” 270 lbs and former D1 football player. There are many games that their uncles would attend who are as equally large and strong. It’s interesting that no parents ever criticize my boys back then even though they were late bloomers/growth spurts. I don’t know if the other parents were just decent human beings or were just too scared to piss off my husband.

Lady you would be surprised how many people pack heat and are not afraid to use it thats a huge equalizer to 6'6" 270lbs

Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. My father was a travel soccer coach for a few decades and he always joked, it was 'great, except for the parents ". As a grandfather, he had ZERO tolerance for sideline coaching at his grandsons' games. I still remember when I as a field marshall at a tournament and there was all kinds of commotion on one of the fields...and my husband (also field marshall) said he had to interject because my 76-year old father told some obnoxious a-hole parent screaming directions to the players "Hey Pal, Coaches sit over there" as he pointed across the field to the team bench. My dad was ready to come to blows with the guy. I miss him .

Who gives a S if you played D1. What does that have to do with anything? STFU with trying to make you sound like your opinion matters more than anyone elses.

More educated opinions should matter more.

Agreed. This is not one of those instances.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP this is unacceptable. Parent of two that played Divison 1.

If anyone criticized my kids at any age they'd have to deal with all four foot ten of me and it would not be pretty.

Also, I never had my kids with coaches that screamed at kids. Never. Walked away twice never looked back.

+1. I’m a parent of two boys that are also playing D1 soccer.

If anyone on our team that criticizes my boys during their youth soccer games, they would have to deal with my husband who is 6’6” 270 lbs and former D1 football player. There are many games that their uncles would attend who are as equally large and strong. It’s interesting that no parents ever criticize my boys back then even though they were late bloomers/growth spurts. I don’t know if the other parents were just decent human beings or were just too scared to piss off my husband.

Lady you would be surprised how many people pack heat and are not afraid to use it thats a huge equalizer to 6'6" 270lbs

Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. My father was a travel soccer coach for a few decades and he always joked, it was 'great, except for the parents ". As a grandfather, he had ZERO tolerance for sideline coaching at his grandsons' games. I still remember when I as a field marshall at a tournament and there was all kinds of commotion on one of the fields...and my husband (also field marshall) said he had to interject because my 76-year old father told some obnoxious a-hole parent screaming directions to the players "Hey Pal, Coaches sit over there" as he pointed across the field to the team bench. My dad was ready to come to blows with the guy. I miss him .

Who gives a S if you played D1. What does that have to do with anything? STFU with trying to make you sound like your opinion matters more than anyone elses.

I do. She makes perfect sense and sounds very educated. P.S. Did you even play peewee soccer before?

[Anonymous]

I have been on DCUM for more than 15 years, so I'm generally not naive about these boards.

But this thread is messed up!

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Anonymous wrote:OP this is unacceptable. Parent of two that played Divison 1.

If anyone criticized my kids at any age they'd have to deal with all four foot ten of me and it would not be pretty.

Also, I never had my kids with coaches that screamed at kids. Never. Walked away twice never looked back.

+1. I’m a parent of two boys that are also playing D1 soccer.

If anyone on our team that criticizes my boys during their youth soccer games, they would have to deal with my husband who is 6’6” 270 lbs and former D1 football player. There are many games that their uncles would attend who are as equally large and strong. It’s interesting that no parents ever criticize my boys back then even though they were late bloomers/growth spurts. I don’t know if the other parents were just decent human beings or were just too scared to piss off my husband.

Lady you would be surprised how many people pack heat and are not afraid to use it thats a huge equalizer to 6'6" 270lbs

Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. My father was a travel soccer coach for a few decades and he always joked, it was 'great, except for the parents ". As a grandfather, he had ZERO tolerance for sideline coaching at his grandsons' games. I still remember when I as a field marshall at a tournament and there was all kinds of commotion on one of the fields...and my husband (also field marshall) said he had to interject because my 76-year old father told some obnoxious a-hole parent screaming directions to the players "Hey Pal, Coaches sit over there" as he pointed across the field to the team bench. My dad was ready to come to blows with the guy. I miss him .

Who gives a S if you played D1. What does that have to do with anything? STFU with trying to make you sound like your opinion matters more than anyone elses.

More educated opinions should matter more.

No opinions are like a-hole everyone has one. proven statistical facts should matter more.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find it ironic to hear so many parents threaten violence against someone who were to yell at their kid. Two wrongs dont make a right.

I agree that two wrongs doesn’t make it right, but it would surely teach the other parent(s) to shut up. If you verbally and/or physically abuse my young DC, I will surely teach you a life lesson!

Unless you get your azz knocked the F-out. Then you and you sucky kid can

Either be good enough to play or go home.

verbal abuse only happens to snowflakes and I hope your sons husband isn't physically abusive toward him when they get marred

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I find it ironic to hear so many parents threaten violence against someone who were to yell at their kid. Two wrongs dont make a right.

I agree that two wrongs doesn’t make it right, but it would surely teach the other parent(s) to shut up. If you verbally and/or physically abuse my young DC, I will surely teach you a life lesson!

Unless you get your azz knocked the F-out. Then you and you sucky kid can

Either be good enough to play or go home.

verbal abuse only happens to snowflakes and I hope your sons husband isn't physically abusive toward him when they get marred

Your kid plays EDP, odds are she can't play either. But see how nice it is that youth soccer provides enough levels where even your kid can look like she is good.

[Anonymous]

Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. .

Wow, everyone involved in the exchange you mention sounds awful, including you. I don't like parents yelling things out at soccer games, including, but not limited to, curse words in front of kids.

[Anonymous]

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Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. .

Wow, everyone involved in the exchange you mention sounds awful, including you. I don't like parents yelling things out at soccer games, including, but not limited to, curse words in front of kids.

Let go of your pearls

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Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. .

Wow, everyone involved in the exchange you mention sounds awful, including you. I don't like parents yelling things out at soccer games, including, but not limited to, curse words in front of kids.

Let go of your pearls

Oh please, fastest way to escalate anything is by cursing. There are many ways to tell someone to be quiet without cursing. Those who do have no interest in deescalating the issue and are just looking for a fight fueled by what they consider to be their righteous indignation.

[Anonymous]

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Ha. I'm a 5'4", 130 pound former D1 soccer player. Female. I have told a few of the dads to 'shut the F up' when their bellowing was out of control. I got mad respect from everyone and even some of the dads later came over and apologized. It set the tone for the sidelines and people starting becoming more respectful in general. .

Wow, everyone involved in the exchange you mention sounds awful, including you. I don't like parents yelling things out at soccer games, including, but not limited to, curse words in front of kids.

Let go of your pearls

Oh please, fastest way to escalate anything is by cursing. There are many ways to tell someone to be quiet without cursing. Those who do have no interest in deescalating the issue and are just looking for a fight fueled by what they consider to be their righteous indignation.

I'm pretty sure your attempt to ask someone to be quiet on the soccer field would likely be met with a vigorous go eff yourself.

[Anonymous]

So what would you say as an effective , non-violent way to ask the other parent to stop laughing at and criticizing your kid?

I said nothing last week because it was just my 3yo and I.

If it happens again this week, what would you recommend? I generally don’t swear. I generally like to maintain good relationships within the community, though this parent actually lives in the town just S of us.

Or maybe I should just send the coach a note about the other parent?