Do other parents yell criticisms at your kid?

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At any quality club they weed out the crappy kids by u12.

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Anonymous wrote:I love it when a rambunctious 10 year old screams back at the asshat parent "shut the f up", puts the parent in their place quick.

This is great

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Anonymous wrote:I love it when a rambunctious 10 year old screams back at the asshat parent "shut the f up", puts the parent in their place quick.

This is great

If my 10 year old (or at any age for that matter), yelled the "F" word at me or anyone anywhere. Holy crap would he be trouble.

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This happened to us today. DD is 7 and one of the youngest on her team. The coach says she does great but another parent today kept yelling criticisms about my daughter’s dribbling and aim.

Is this considered acceptable?

I coach a different sport for 10 year-olds. At the first parent meeting I lay down the law: I will not tolerate coaching from the sidelines and badmouthing any player (on our team or our opponents) . Do it once, your kid is going to sit. Do it twice, your kid is off the team. I will NOT have it. They are also directed to follow a 24-hour rule with any concerns with me (as in, you can raise issues 24 hours after a game, but never immediately after). And I urge them to NOT discuss games on the ride home. We also do not, as a team, have post-game meetings. Rather, we talk about the competitions at the beginning of our next practice.

I've only had to kick a kid off a team one time for this in 8 years. I think I have a reputation for having very clear boundaries, so the kids who come to me, the parents already know what to expect and are on board with it.

This is youth sports. It's supposed to be developmental. They are going to make mistakes. We will address them in practice. But I will not criticize, denigrate or yell corrections during a game (which is different than quietly making an adjustment one-on-one on the sidelines). The kids should hear the coaches and only the coaches talking to them -- not the parents. If you can't keep your mouth shut, you can take your kid to another team. At least I can protect them from your insanity.

Works for me. I don't lose much.

This is youth sports.

Yes. It is developmental so the games are learning environments with teachable moments often that don't occur in practices. So if the coach is engaged during the game and is actually coaching/teaching my kid, then there is no need for me to shout instructions. However, if the coach is just sitting on the sideline collecting a paycheck, then I'll coach from the sideline and won't have my kid on the team very long.

There is a big difference. I was discussing situations where you know your kid is not paying attention. Picking daisys so you speak. So - you yell something out to wake them up. If your kid is not “asleep”, then you need the shut up during the course of play. One of the big things learned in the C and B license program is to let the players play on the field. You note coaching points to bring up in practice and you can talk to players on the bench about what is going on, but the games are for the players to try and work on what they have been learning and working on in practice. The team could be working on triangle formations and tight touch passing for the last 4 weeks and you yelling to your kid can easily screw that all up. So - don’t.

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Anonymous wrote:We all make choices everyday. If you choose to yell at my kid, there is a big risk of finding me in your face. Is the risk worth the reward? Up to you.

If your kid sucks and you get your butt kicked you really look like a loser chump..

You are absolutely correct and all I'm saying is that it's a big risk to you as well. Is it worth the risk you are taking?

It's no risk to me at all. Firstly the idea of getting my butt kicked doesn't bother me at all. Fighting and beating or, on occasion, getting beaten are just a daily part of life for a man - or at least they used to be. Neither worries me at all. And secondly if your kid is a mal-coordinated unathletic waste of field space, the odds are pretty good they inherited it from you. So you're not likely to be winning the fight you seem so eager to have in any case.

If a player comes home from a game saying that a certain teammate’s parent yelled negative comments at them during the game, I can easily see an angry parent, potentially along with his thug friends, visit the other parent that evening/night at his/her home. Being teammates, they would know exactly who you are and where you live. By the time the cops come………..Never underestimate the power of an angry and protective parent!

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Anonymous wrote:We all make choices everyday. If you choose to yell at my kid, there is a big risk of finding me in your face. Is the risk worth the reward? Up to you.

If your kid sucks and you get your butt kicked you really look like a loser chump..

You are absolutely correct and all I'm saying is that it's a big risk to you as well. Is it worth the risk you are taking?

It's no risk to me at all. Firstly the idea of getting my butt kicked doesn't bother me at all. Fighting and beating or, on occasion, getting beaten are just a daily part of life for a man - or at least they used to be. Neither worries me at all. And secondly if your kid is a mal-coordinated unathletic waste of field space, the odds are pretty good they inherited it from you. So you're not likely to be winning the fight you seem so eager to have in any case.

If a player comes home from a game saying that a certain teammate’s parent yelled negative comments at them during the game, I can easily see an angry parent, potentially along with his thug friends, visit the other parent that evening/night at his/her home. Being teammates, they would know exactly who you are and where you live. By the time the cops come………..Never underestimate the power of an angry and protective parent!

This will never happen. Lots of tough talk here on these boards but nobody is gathering a posse and hunting some parent down because they said some mean things to their kid at a soccer game.

Now, I would expect words to be exchanged at a practice or the next game if it happens again but most people will not go beyond the "STFU about my kid!" and leave it at that. It doesn't deserve much more than that either. Tell them to their face that they are a A-hole and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
This happened to us today. DD is 7 and one of the youngest on her team. The coach says she does great but another parent today kept yelling criticisms about my daughter’s dribbling and aim.

Is this considered acceptable?

I coach a different sport for 10 year-olds. At the first parent meeting I lay down the law: I will not tolerate coaching from the sidelines and badmouthing any player (on our team or our opponents) . Do it once, your kid is going to sit. Do it twice, your kid is off the team. I will NOT have it. They are also directed to follow a 24-hour rule with any concerns with me (as in, you can raise issues 24 hours after a game, but never immediately after). And I urge them to NOT discuss games on the ride home. We also do not, as a team, have post-game meetings. Rather, we talk about the competitions at the beginning of our next practice.

I've only had to kick a kid off a team one time for this in 8 years. I think I have a reputation for having very clear boundaries, so the kids who come to me, the parents already know what to expect and are on board with it.

This is youth sports. It's supposed to be developmental. They are going to make mistakes. We will address them in practice. But I will not criticize, denigrate or yell corrections during a game (which is different than quietly making an adjustment one-on-one on the sidelines). The kids should hear the coaches and only the coaches talking to them -- not the parents. If you can't keep your mouth shut, you can take your kid to another team. At least I can protect them from your insanity.

Works for me. I don't lose much.

This is youth sports.

Yes. It is developmental so the games are learning environments with teachable moments often that don't occur in practices. So if the coach is engaged during the game and is actually coaching/teaching my kid, then there is no need for me to shout instructions. However, if the coach is just sitting on the sideline collecting a paycheck, then I'll coach from the sideline and won't have my kid on the team very long.

There is a big difference. I was discussing situations where you know your kid is not paying attention. Picking daisys so you speak. So - you yell something out to wake them up. If your kid is not “asleep”, then you need the shut up during the course of play. One of the big things learned in the C and B license program is to let the players play on the field. You note coaching points to bring up in practice and you can talk to players on the bench about what is going on, but the games are for the players to try and work on what they have been learning and working on in practice. The team could be working on triangle formations and tight touch passing for the last 4 weeks and you yelling to your kid can easily screw that all up. So - don’t.

Some soccer parents think soccer is like American football where the coach has to constantly yell or send in plays to his players. LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all make choices everyday. If you choose to yell at my kid, there is a big risk of finding me in your face. Is the risk worth the reward? Up to you.

If your kid sucks and you get your butt kicked you really look like a loser chump..

You are absolutely correct and all I'm saying is that it's a big risk to you as well. Is it worth the risk you are taking?

It's no risk to me at all. Firstly the idea of getting my butt kicked doesn't bother me at all. Fighting and beating or, on occasion, getting beaten are just a daily part of life for a man - or at least they used to be. Neither worries me at all. And secondly if your kid is a mal-coordinated unathletic waste of field space, the odds are pretty good they inherited it from you. So you're not likely to be winning the fight you seem so eager to have in any case.

If a player comes home from a game saying that a certain teammate’s parent yelled negative comments at them during the game, I can easily see an angry parent, potentially along with his thug friends, visit the other parent that evening/night at his/her home. Being teammates, they would know exactly who you are and where you live. By the time the cops come………..Never underestimate the power of an angry and protective parent!

This will never happen. Lots of tough talk here on these boards but nobody is gathering a posse and hunting some parent down because they said some mean things to their kid at a soccer game.

Now, I would expect words to be exchanged at a practice or the next game if it happens again but most people will not go beyond the "STFU about my kid!" and leave it at that. It doesn't deserve much more than that either. Tell them to their face that they are a A-hole and move on.

The first time yes, as a warning. The second time, someone will get hurt.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all make choices everyday. If you choose to yell at my kid, there is a big risk of finding me in your face. Is the risk worth the reward? Up to you.

If your kid sucks and you get your butt kicked you really look like a loser chump..

You are absolutely correct and all I'm saying is that it's a big risk to you as well. Is it worth the risk you are taking?

It's no risk to me at all. Firstly the idea of getting my butt kicked doesn't bother me at all. Fighting and beating or, on occasion, getting beaten are just a daily part of life for a man - or at least they used to be. Neither worries me at all. And secondly if your kid is a mal-coordinated unathletic waste of field space, the odds are pretty good they inherited it from you. So you're not likely to be winning the fight you seem so eager to have in any case.

If a player comes home from a game saying that a certain teammate’s parent yelled negative comments at them during the game, I can easily see an angry parent, potentially along with his thug friends, visit the other parent that evening/night at his/her home. Being teammates, they would know exactly who you are and where you live. By the time the cops come………..Never underestimate the power of an angry and protective parent!

This will never happen. Lots of tough talk here on these boards but nobody is gathering a posse and hunting some parent down because they said some mean things to their kid at a soccer game.

Now, I would expect words to be exchanged at a practice or the next game if it happens again but most people will not go beyond the "STFU about my kid!" and leave it at that. It doesn't deserve much more than that either. Tell them to their face that they are a A-hole and move on.

Sounds like you’re on a mostly or all White team. On a more diverse team, you better believe it will happen.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all make choices everyday. If you choose to yell at my kid, there is a big risk of finding me in your face. Is the risk worth the reward? Up to you.

If your kid sucks and you get your butt kicked you really look like a loser chump..

You are absolutely correct and all I'm saying is that it's a big risk to you as well. Is it worth the risk you are taking?

It's no risk to me at all. Firstly the idea of getting my butt kicked doesn't bother me at all. Fighting and beating or, on occasion, getting beaten are just a daily part of life for a man - or at least they used to be. Neither worries me at all. And secondly if your kid is a mal-coordinated unathletic waste of field space, the odds are pretty good they inherited it from you. So you're not likely to be winning the fight you seem so eager to have in any case.

If a player comes home from a game saying that a certain teammate’s parent yelled negative comments at them during the game, I can easily see an angry parent, potentially along with his thug friends, visit the other parent that evening/night at his/her home. Being teammates, they would know exactly who you are and where you live. By the time the cops come………..Never underestimate the power of an angry and protective parent!

This will never happen. Lots of tough talk here on these boards but nobody is gathering a posse and hunting some parent down because they said some mean things to their kid at a soccer game.

Now, I would expect words to be exchanged at a practice or the next game if it happens again but most people will not go beyond the "STFU about my kid!" and leave it at that. It doesn't deserve much more than that either. Tell them to their face that they are a A-hole and move on.

Sounds like you’re on a mostly or all White team. On a more diverse team, you better believe it will happen.

Whatever is gonna happen will happen at the field at that moment. That I can promise.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love it when a rambunctious 10 year old screams back at the asshat parent "shut the f up", puts the parent in their place quick.

This is great

If my 10 year old (or at any age for that matter), yelled the "F" word at me or anyone anywhere. Holy crap would he be trouble.

The F word is common language these days especially in emotionally driven activities like competitive sports. I think you are in the minority here mam.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all make choices everyday. If you choose to yell at my kid, there is a big risk of finding me in your face. Is the risk worth the reward? Up to you.

If your kid sucks and you get your butt kicked you really look like a loser chump..

You are absolutely correct and all I'm saying is that it's a big risk to you as well. Is it worth the risk you are taking?

It's no risk to me at all. Firstly the idea of getting my butt kicked doesn't bother me at all. Fighting and beating or, on occasion, getting beaten are just a daily part of life for a man - or at least they used to be. Neither worries me at all. And secondly if your kid is a mal-coordinated unathletic waste of field space, the odds are pretty good they inherited it from you. So you're not likely to be winning the fight you seem so eager to have in any case.

If a player comes home from a game saying that a certain teammate’s parent yelled negative comments at them during the game, I can easily see an angry parent, potentially along with his thug friends, visit the other parent that evening/night at his/her home. Being teammates, they would know exactly who you are and where you live. By the time the cops come………..Never underestimate the power of an angry and protective parent!

This will never happen. Lots of tough talk here on these boards but nobody is gathering a posse and hunting some parent down because they said some mean things to their kid at a soccer game.

Now, I would expect words to be exchanged at a practice or the next game if it happens again but most people will not go beyond the "STFU about my kid!" and leave it at that. It doesn't deserve much more than that either. Tell them to their face that they are a A-hole and move on.

Sounds like you’re on a mostly or all White team. On a more diverse team, you better believe it will happen.

Hell yeah. I've been on sidelines where one mum was screaming at someone else's dad about how his ex-wife said he was worthless outside the bedroom and worthless inside it too. Then she started in on the kid as well. It was stirring stuff I'll tell you. A darn sight more entertaining than a bunch of kids kicking a silly ball around. I'm all for diversity Jerry Springer style.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love it when a rambunctious 10 year old screams back at the asshat parent "shut the f up", puts the parent in their place quick.

This is great

If my 10 year old (or at any age for that matter), yelled the "F" word at me or anyone anywhere. Holy crap would he be trouble.

The F word is common language these days especially in emotionally driven activities like competitive sports. I think you are in the minority here mam.

And I think suggesting that faeces is sacred is definitely blasphemous and surely worse than mere vulgarity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We all make choices everyday. If you choose to yell at my kid, there is a big risk of finding me in your face. Is the risk worth the reward? Up to you.

If your kid sucks and you get your butt kicked you really look like a loser chump..

You are absolutely correct and all I'm saying is that it's a big risk to you as well. Is it worth the risk you are taking?

It's no risk to me at all. Firstly the idea of getting my butt kicked doesn't bother me at all. Fighting and beating or, on occasion, getting beaten are just a daily part of life for a man - or at least they used to be. Neither worries me at all. And secondly if your kid is a mal-coordinated unathletic waste of field space, the odds are pretty good they inherited it from you. So you're not likely to be winning the fight you seem so eager to have in any case.

If a player comes home from a game saying that a certain teammate’s parent yelled negative comments at them during the game, I can easily see an angry parent, potentially along with his thug friends, visit the other parent that evening/night at his/her home. Being teammates, they would know exactly who you are and where you live. By the time the cops come………..Never underestimate the power of an angry and protective parent!

This will never happen. Lots of tough talk here on these boards but nobody is gathering a posse and hunting some parent down because they said some mean things to their kid at a soccer game.

Now, I would expect words to be exchanged at a practice or the next game if it happens again but most people will not go beyond the "STFU about my kid!" and leave it at that. It doesn't deserve much more than that either. Tell them to their face that they are a A-hole and move on.

Sounds like you’re on a mostly or all White team. On a more diverse team, you better believe it will happen.

Hell yeah. I've been on sidelines where one mum was screaming at someone else's dad about how his ex-wife said he was worthless outside the bedroom and worthless inside it too. Then she started in on the kid as well. It was stirring stuff I'll tell you. A darn sight more entertaining than a bunch of kids kicking a silly ball around. I'm all for diversity Jerry Springer style.

That’s hilarious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love it when a rambunctious 10 year old screams back at the asshat parent "shut the f up", puts the parent in their place quick.

This is great

If my 10 year old (or at any age for that matter), yelled the "F" word at me or anyone anywhere. Holy crap would he be trouble.

The F word is common language these days especially in emotionally driven activities like competitive sports. I think you are in the minority here mam.

I don’t think she’s in the minority, my kids are that age and a bit older and they would be in huge trouble if they talked to anyone that way. I can understand cursing at ur self under your breath but what the hell are we teaching kids if it’s ok to talk to others like that?