Do other parents yell criticisms at your kid?

[Anonymous]

Parent yelling anything directed at anyone during play should not ever happen. Parents absolutely should clap and yell when play is stopped for something other than a potential injury or foul. Great shot. Good goal. Way to go. All more than appreciated. Good try. Looking good. Go get one now. Etc. All good encouragement.

Yelling anything remotely directive is very bad as it confuses the kids and often can be counter to what the coach is working on. Pass it. Shoot. Dribble. Clear it. All very bad.

Yes, it takes parents with their first kid playing a little while to get the hang of things. By the time your kid is playing as a decent level teen, parents pretty much get it. It certainly took me a while, and we had a coach and club officials who would absolutely remind parents to shut up. But it works. By teen years parents would very often chat with parents of opposing teams. Where’s a decent restaurant? Have you guys played x tournament before? How goes the college search? Etc.

The reality is that if the stick with it, kids play hundreds of games. We later figured it out, but at u14 my kid and her teammates played 84 games between August 15 and May 30. It was a very good team put together to try and win what was then a national championship (they never did and by u16 the ECNL was forming). But - There was no way in heck you could think about yelling in 84 games.

[Anonymous]

Thank you! I appreciate this post so much.

I also yelled to my kid, “Larla, be ready!” Or, “Larla, get it!” She’s seven and sometimes gets distracted. But maybe my attempts at encouragement were not helpful.

While it wasn’t as bad as the criticisms the other parent yelled, my encouragement may have been misplaced.

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents really shouldn't be yelling instructions or criticism to anyone's kid. On the former, most parents don't know what they're talking about regarding soccer and are usually instructing them incorrectly plus the kids should be learning to think on their own on the field. On the latter, its a good way to get kicked off the team and/or be asked to the parking lot by said kid's parent.

This. Now thread closed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
This happened to us today. DD is 7 and one of the youngest on her team. The coach says she does great but another parent today kept yelling criticisms about my daughter’s dribbling and aim.

Is this considered acceptable?

Depends. If your kid is really good then this would be wrong. But if your kid sucks then it's generally considered OK to let them know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other parents were yelling at my kid that she was playing for the wrong team, telling her to "get it right" and things of that sort. They were also loudly laughing at her.

Last game I had made a point to tell them that their daughter had done great. Tried to be nice. This is what they did in return.

Some of the other girls on the team picked up on it and were calling names to my daughter. The coach, however, made a point of coming over to me to congratulate my daughter and tell me how well she did. He didn't do this to anyone else. I don't play soccer, but she must have done something right for him to say that.

I don't know, OP. Did the coach hear the parents yelling? If not, why? If so, why didn't the coach shut it down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you really restart this thread? No, yelling at someone's 7 year old is not OK. No, judging a 7 year by their weight is also not ok.

Lol. OP thought no one would notice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
This happened to us today. DD is 7 and one of the youngest on her team. The coach says she does great but another parent today kept yelling criticisms about my daughter’s dribbling and aim.

Is this considered acceptable?

Depends. If your kid is really good then this would be wrong. But if your kid sucks then it's generally considered OK to let them know.

Only if you’re a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The other parents were yelling at my kid that she was playing for the wrong team, telling her to "get it right" and things of that sort. They were also loudly laughing at her.

Last game I had made a point to tell them that their daughter had done great. Tried to be nice. This is what they did in return.

Some of the other girls on the team picked up on it and were calling names to my daughter. The coach, however, made a point of coming over to me to congratulate my daughter and tell me how well she did. He didn't do this to anyone else. I don't play soccer, but she must have done something right for him to say that.

I don't know, OP. Did the coach hear the parents yelling? If not, why? If so, why didn't the coach shut it down.

Coach was on the opposite side of the field.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you really restart this thread? No, yelling at someone's 7 year old is not OK. No, judging a 7 year by their weight is also not ok.

+1
Seriously OP?
You called the other parent's child obese which really showed your true colors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know, OP. Did the coach hear the parents yelling? If not, why? If so, why didn't the coach shut it down.

Coach was on the opposite side of the field.

Please let the coach know. Don't be dramatic about it. Just give the facts: which parents yelled, what they said. Ask the coach if that's the norm for this team or this league. Ask what you should do if it happens again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
This happened to us today. DD is 7 and one of the youngest on her team. The coach says she does great but another parent today kept yelling criticisms about my daughter’s dribbling and aim.

Is this considered acceptable?

Depends. If your kid is really good then this would be wrong. But if your kid sucks then it's generally considered OK to let them know.

Only if you’re a jerk.

Guess that one went right over your head then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by critisism? Yes. It is normal to yell things like, "Take the shot, Larla!" "Get open, Larla!" or whatever. It's not normal to "criticize" any of the players. "Bad footwork, Larla!" "Learn to shoot, Larla!"

I can't tell from your post if the parents are being grossly inappropriate or if you're being overly sensitvie.

No. All of that is 100% unacceptable. Wtf is wrong with you?

You don’t know shit so stop yelling directions from the sideline.

Joystick your own kid all your want, but when their teens even his teammates will turn to the sidelines and tell you to shut the F up. I see that and love it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by critisism? Yes. It is normal to yell things like, "Take the shot, Larla!" "Get open, Larla!" or whatever. It's not normal to "criticize" any of the players. "Bad footwork, Larla!" "Learn to shoot, Larla!"

I can't tell from your post if the parents are being grossly inappropriate or if you're being overly sensitvie.

No. All of that is 100% unacceptable. Wtf is wrong with you?

You don’t know shit so stop yelling directions from the sideline.

Joystick your own kid all your want, but when their teens even his teammates will turn to the sidelines and tell you to shut the F up. I see that and love it.

Can’t stand when parents shout at someone else’s kid.

It’s pretty disturbing people think they can insult a child

[Anonymous]

My favorite is when the parents yelling gets picked up loud and clear by the team video camera! u15 team mom was loud talking "What the F^@% are you doing!" about our center back passing back to the keeper. That was awkward.

[Anonymous]

NP here. I think its very hypocritical that many of the parents who are so anti yelling at kids are the same ones that will yell out "stop pushing" when it happens to their kid. Cant have it both ways parents. Would love to hear how you feel about teammates yelling at each other. Should the field be the players domain? Their place to function with their peers without parents getting involved? At what point or age is it ok to criticize ? Boo? Everything shouldn't be cheered and praised. It makes them believe they are succeeding even when they are in reality failing.