No karma for OW

[Anonymous]

OW probably thought she was doing your friend a favor.

[Anonymous]

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I think it’s weird to focus so much on the other woman. She has moved on with her life. In the grand scheme of things, her affair will barely be a footnote in her story. Don’t let it take up any more chapters of yours.

As a former OW who still ruminates on this 10 years later, you could not be more wrong. I think every day about what I did to his wife, how it ruined both of our integrity, and how it has alienated me from deeper relationships bc to this day I have never told anyone, and anyone decent who heard it would be disgusted. I can never express my remorse to his wife bc I was selfish enough to want it at the time. It radically changed my self image. I try to do more things that are better for others now because I don't believe in an afterlife. If anything it is him who has moved on the most -- kept his marriage, assets and reputation and no one was the wiser outside of his marriage, in which he was discovered and has been forgiven. I meanwhile am wandering the earth like Cain. For all the betrayed wives out there, all I can tell you is that it's at best a growth experience and at worst life-ruining for the OW -- as so many novels will tell you.

It's a lonely existence. At least you recognize the truth of that relationship, and can hopefully find a good partner someday. There are some that don't learn, and enjoy inflicting pain upon the spouse. The thing is I've seen kids lives ruined as well. Luckily the spouse didn't come after you. There are some horrible stories out there, and anything family related can be very volatile. Be happy you're not wasting your time anymore. And his life may not be so good.

[Anonymous]

I don't believe in karma but if someone wanted to ascribe karmic thinking to this situation, you could say they must have had a very disturbed upbringing to get to the point of being an OW. It would be like backwards karma, suffer suffer suffer and later do bad things to others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I think it’s weird to focus so much on the other woman. She has moved on with her life. In the grand scheme of things, her affair will barely be a footnote in her story. Don’t let it take up any more chapters of yours.

As a former OW who still ruminates on this 10 years later, you could not be more wrong. I think every day about what I did to his wife, how it ruined both of our integrity, and how it has alienated me from deeper relationships bc to this day I have never told anyone, and anyone decent who heard it would be disgusted. I can never express my remorse to his wife bc I was selfish enough to want it at the time. It radically changed my self image. I try to do more things that are better for others now because I don't believe in an afterlife. If anything it is him who has moved on the most -- kept his marriage, assets and reputation and no one was the wiser outside of his marriage, in which he was discovered and has been forgiven. I meanwhile am wandering the earth like Cain. For all the betrayed wives out there, all I can tell you is that it's at best a growth experience and at worst life-ruining for the OW -- as so many novels will tell you.

It's a lonely existence. At least you recognize the truth of that relationship, and can hopefully find a good partner someday. There are some that don't learn, and enjoy inflicting pain upon the spouse. The thing is I've seen kids lives ruined as well. Luckily the spouse didn't come after you. There are some horrible stories out there, and anything family related can be very volatile. Be happy you're not wasting your time anymore. And his life may not be so good.

I was younger than both of them at the time and their kids were young. I did not have the understanding then that I do now of what infidelity without divorce can do to children, how these dramas that parents think they keep separate are still felt and enacted by perceptive young minds. I thought that by not leaving he was doing the right thing. There is more to it than that as I now know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not my circus, not my monkeys, but just something I noticed. A good friend was cheated on by DH with a young OW for almost a year, nearly killed her but they patched things up after a very hard struggle. OW kept sending DW sordid details of their affair to try to get her to dump him. We all kept thinking the OW would get some karma, but nope, she married a rich (single) guy, bought a 3m home and just had her first kid. Bet the new husband knows nothing about her role in the affair. Just doesn’t seem fair.

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Maybe it took 24 hours to deliver that baby. And maybe it's ugly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Karma does not exist.

Rude. Do you believe in Jesus?

Jesus has nothing to do with karma. I believe in Jesus but not karma. People convince themselves karma exists to make themselves feel better. It is BS.

I think that PP was saying that disparaging karma disparages Buddhism, just like if some disparages Jesus.

The problem is OP is co-opting “karma” to mean revenge, and warping Buddhism completely.

Exactly

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not my circus, not my monkeys, but just something I noticed. A good friend was cheated on by DH with a young OW for almost a year, nearly killed her but they patched things up after a very hard struggle. OW kept sending DW sordid details of their affair to try to get her to dump him. We all kept thinking the OW would get some karma, but nope, she married a rich (single) guy, bought a 3m home and just had her first kid. Bet the new husband knows nothing about her role in the affair. Just doesn’t seem fair.

Your friend should have sent the DH a informative note.

Sometimes Karma takes awhile. So what... they have a nice home, they may owe that much as well. Like many we know. The recorded docs are all public info. which realtors etc. use. Sometimes they are very telling about how much debt one has. One of my family members was left for the ow after 25 years. They actually had a decent marriage, but the OW was jrecently divorced and broke. She needed a quick life preserver. This was her college bf she stalked from another state. No doubt saw they had a nice home which incidentally they recently paid off. Long story, but she got him away from his wife and 3 teen kids. Two of the kids cut him out of their lives forever. The wife got the home in the divorce, whereby he and the OW had to start over. I think everyone thought and hoped they too would get their Karma, and finally it did happen. The OW had some heart valve operation and never made it out. They had to finally pull the plug. After a year he tried to get back with his ex wife whereby she wouldn't talk to him, or take his calls. He started neglecting his health and died about 3 years later.

Sometimes it takes awhile but yes Karma usually happens to rotten people imo.

The 3 people that really f—d me over in life all got their just due in some pretty spectacular ways. I’m 51 so some of this was 5, 10, 15 years later. I just kept living my life and not dwelling, but it was pretty satisfying seeing how things caught up with each and everyone one of them. It made me feel like all was right in the universe. I didn’t get revenge recently but I know she’s miserable as f—-k and a sad, sad person under her delusion. Just keep eyes forward and leave the trash in the rear view mirror. They are somebody else’s problem now.

Ok, by your own definition, the fact that you got F*cked over by them was YOUR karma for something. What was it?

This is not how karma works, people....

[Anonymous]

OK, you are correct but can we let it go? Obviously people are using the word loosely to mean retribution and poetic justice in general.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

+1

His karma would be the DW cheated on him.

No I think that puts her in the scum category which is what both cheaters are. Moving forward and considering the DH dead whether she stays or not is probably the best Karma. And living her life happily. I've seen DWs do that whether they live with the DH or not. My opinion is when a DH cheats the marriage is over regardless. He ended it. And yes the OW is equally to blame. I think some OWs on here are pretty deluded. It's pretty dangerous to mess with someone's family. Just ask Meredith Chapman.....oh wait...

Yep. That brings out a primal response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not my circus, not my monkeys, but just something I noticed. A good friend was cheated on by DH with a young OW for almost a year, nearly killed her but they patched things up after a very hard struggle. OW kept sending DW sordid details of their affair to try to get her to dump him. We all kept thinking the OW would get some karma, but nope, she married a rich (single) guy, bought a 3m home and just had her first kid. Bet the new husband knows nothing about her role in the affair. Just doesn’t seem fair.

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Maybe it took 24 hours to deliver that baby. And maybe it's ugly.

lol
Or a horrible brat!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

+1

His karma would be the DW cheated on him.

No I think that puts her in the scum category which is what both cheaters are. Moving forward and considering the DH dead whether she stays or not is probably the best Karma. And living her life happily. I've seen DWs do that whether they live with the DH or not. My opinion is when a DH cheats the marriage is over regardless. He ended it. And yes the OW is equally to blame. I think some OWs on here are pretty deluded. It's pretty dangerous to mess with someone's family. Just ask Meredith Chapman.....oh wait...

Yep. That brings out a primal response.

Yep. That OW wanted one and sure got one, didn't she.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I think it’s weird to focus so much on the other woman. She has moved on with her life. In the grand scheme of things, her affair will barely be a footnote in her story. Don’t let it take up any more chapters of yours.

As a former OW who still ruminates on this 10 years later, you could not be more wrong. I think every day about what I did to his wife, how it ruined both of our integrity, and how it has alienated me from deeper relationships bc to this day I have never told anyone, and anyone decent who heard it would be disgusted. I can never express my remorse to his wife bc I was selfish enough to want it at the time. It radically changed my self image. I try to do more things that are better for others now because I don't believe in an afterlife. If anything it is him who has moved on the most -- kept his marriage, assets and reputation and no one was the wiser outside of his marriage, in which he was discovered and has been forgiven. I meanwhile am wandering the earth like Cain. For all the betrayed wives out there, all I can tell you is that it's at best a growth experience and at worst life-ruining for the OW -- as so many novels will tell you.

Stop ruminating, feeling guilty, and punishing yourself. That doesn’t help anyone. Everyone makes mistakes and this was yours. It’s ok for you to be happy now.

[Anonymous]

It gets em every time. I swear. Yu may not see it but it will happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

+1

His karma would be the DW cheated on him.

No I think that puts her in the scum category which is what both cheaters are. Moving forward and considering the DH dead whether she stays or not is probably the best Karma. And living her life happily. I've seen DWs do that whether they live with the DH or not. My opinion is when a DH cheats the marriage is over regardless. He ended it. And yes the OW is equally to blame. I think some OWs on here are pretty deluded. It's pretty dangerous to mess with someone's family. Just ask Meredith Chapman.....oh wait...

Yep. That brings out a primal response.

Yep. That OW wanted one and sure got one, didn't she.

Nasty old hags are threatening to murder people now?

No wonder your DHs don’t want to use your wormhole anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

+1

His karma would be the DW cheated on him.

No I think that puts her in the scum category which is what both cheaters are. Moving forward and considering the DH dead whether she stays or not is probably the best Karma. And living her life happily. I've seen DWs do that whether they live with the DH or not. My opinion is when a DH cheats the marriage is over regardless. He ended it. And yes the OW is equally to blame. I think some OWs on here are pretty deluded. It's pretty dangerous to mess with someone's family. Just ask Meredith Chapman.....oh wait...

Yep. That brings out a primal response.

Nasty old hag aptly describes ex’s OW . He was embarrassed when people saw her photos. Little (well big-ha) back room whore got exposed with her nasty liar.
Yep. That OW wanted one and sure got one, didn't she.

Nasty old hags are threatening to murder people now?

No wonder your DHs don’t want to use your wormhole anymore.