No karma for OW

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who are the champions of the cheaters ? You go, girl! It’s really strange to me to cheer on cheaters, OW/OM. What’s the psychology behind that? You can only be a cheater/OW/OM because no decent person would think that was a great thing.

Not a champion of cheaters. I just watched someone I cared about wasting their life being angry at the woman, doing exactly what pp's are doing having all the smoke for them and none for the cheating husband. Put your energy where it matters ladies.

I am. When my little girl grows up I pray she gets to be the AP of a married man. I have high hopes for her and raised her well.

My daughter is a sugar baby and her father and I are so proud of her. We hope one of the daddies will leave their wives and marry her.

I hope my daughter doesn't marry a cheater, and if she does I hope she has the good sense to kick his ass to the curb and not waste her life defending him and hoping the OW gets hers.

I hope my daughter gets a decent enough education to recognize that the common denominator here is patriarchy and women bashing each other in competition over men instead of working on their own independence, autonomy and empowerment.

I think it's odd to blame all adultery on men and the patriarchy. So weird...and so patently false.

The cheaters I've observed/heard about in the DMV are 50/50 men and women. Anyone can cheat, not just men.

I think it's fine to blame both the cheater and the AP. The AP is often involved in their own marriage or dating others. Lying and cheating are bad. Period. Trashy people do trashy things. Shrug.

Holding onto anger is different though. Holding onto anger only hurts you...the presumed victim. Why hurt yourself? Grieve the lost trust and relationship, get angry, but then move past it. Living well is always the best revenge (although I hate that the saying uses the word revenge).

Trampy women who cheat on their husbands or screw around with other people's husbands make our gender look bad. We shouldn't blame men for the actions of women. Blame the women.

You are so right. It takes a lot of therapy to help move past the anger. It is necessary. I think there is a time period where anger for spouse and AP will be strong. It’s part of the grief process. It’s getting stuck there that will eat you alive. You need to move through the process and realize the best revenge is good living. People that cheat are broken inside. Yiu can’t inflict that level of pain, lie and deceive and betray without being messed up mentally and worrying a lot of self hate/low self esteem.

[Anonymous]

^ carrying, not worrying

I had a hard time moving past anger. Anger protects from the pain inside which follows. Then despair, etc. It is a long process to get over. 2-5 years when it happens in a long marriage, but cheaters only think of themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is no different than teen age girls fighting over some garbage boy who led them both on.

Both sides should get some self-respect and quit fighting. You’re embarrassing our gender..

I think a woman married 25 years with kids and an OW are quite a bit different than teenagers. What is like high school : trashy people cheating, but you would think they would grow up and learn that’s wrong. Sigh

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Anonymous wrote:Who are the champions of the cheaters ? You go, girl! It’s really strange to me to cheer on cheaters, OW/OM. What’s the psychology behind that? You can only be a cheater/OW/OM because no decent person would think that was a great thing.

Not a champion of cheaters. I just watched someone I cared about wasting their life being angry at the woman, doing exactly what pp's are doing having all the smoke for them and none for the cheating husband. Put your energy where it matters ladies.

I am. When my little girl grows up I pray she gets to be the AP of a married man. I have high hopes for her and raised her well.

My daughter is a sugar baby and her father and I are so proud of her. We hope one of the daddies will leave their wives and marry her.

I hope my daughter doesn't marry a cheater, and if she does I hope she has the good sense to kick his ass to the curb and not waste her life defending him and hoping the OW gets hers.

I hope my daughter gets a decent enough education to recognize that the common denominator here is patriarchy and women bashing each other in competition over men instead of working on their own independence, autonomy and empowerment.

I think it's odd to blame all adultery on men and the patriarchy. So weird...and so patently false.

The cheaters I've observed/heard about in the DMV are 50/50 men and women. Anyone can cheat, not just men.

I think it's fine to blame both the cheater and the AP. The AP is often involved in their own marriage or dating others. Lying and cheating are bad. Period. Trashy people do trashy things. Shrug.

Holding onto anger is different though. Holding onto anger only hurts you...the presumed victim. Why hurt yourself? Grieve the lost trust and relationship, get angry, but then move past it. Living well is always the best revenge (although I hate that the saying uses the word revenge).

Trampy women who cheat on their husbands or screw around with other people's husbands make our gender look bad. We shouldn't blame men for the actions of women. Blame the women.

You are so right. It takes a lot of therapy to help move past the anger. It is necessary. I think there is a time period where anger for spouse and AP will be strong. It’s part of the grief process. It’s getting stuck there that will eat you alive. You need to move through the process and realize the best revenge is good living. People that cheat are broken inside. Yiu can’t inflict that level of pain, lie and deceive and betray without being messed up mentally and worrying a lot of self hate/low self esteem.

All of this is so true.

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Anonymous wrote:Who are the champions of the cheaters ? You go, girl! It’s really strange to me to cheer on cheaters, OW/OM. What’s the psychology behind that? You can only be a cheater/OW/OM because no decent person would think that was a great thing.

Not a champion of cheaters. I just watched someone I cared about wasting their life being angry at the woman, doing exactly what pp's are doing having all the smoke for them and none for the cheating husband. Put your energy where it matters ladies.

I am. When my little girl grows up I pray she gets to be the AP of a married man. I have high hopes for her and raised her well.

My daughter is a sugar baby and her father and I are so proud of her. We hope one of the daddies will leave their wives and marry her.

I hope my daughter doesn't marry a cheater, and if she does I hope she has the good sense to kick his ass to the curb and not waste her life defending him and hoping the OW gets hers.

I hope my daughter gets a decent enough education to recognize that the common denominator here is patriarchy and women bashing each other in competition over men instead of working on their own independence, autonomy and empowerment.

I think it's odd to blame all adultery on men and the patriarchy. So weird...and so patently false.

The cheaters I've observed/heard about in the DMV are 50/50 men and women. Anyone can cheat, not just men.

I think it's fine to blame both the cheater and the AP. The AP is often involved in their own marriage or dating others. Lying and cheating are bad. Period. Trashy people do trashy things. Shrug.

Holding onto anger is different though. Holding onto anger only hurts you...the presumed victim. Why hurt yourself? Grieve the lost trust and relationship, get angry, but then move past it. Living well is always the best revenge (although I hate that the saying uses the word revenge).

Trampy women who cheat on their husbands or screw around with other people's husbands make our gender look bad. We shouldn't blame men for the actions of women. Blame the women.

+1

Own your misdeeds. Blaming others, patriarchy, etc. is ridiculous. Delusional

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is no different than teen age girls fighting over some garbage boy who led them both on.

Both sides should get some self-respect and quit fighting. You’re embarrassing our gender..

I think a woman married 25 years with kids and an OW are quite a bit different than teenagers. What is like high school : trashy people cheating, but you would think they would grow up and learn that’s wrong. Sigh

When adult women cheat, it has nothing to do with a lack of maturity. It goes way beyond that: they simply lack the basic morals and values that the rest of us do.

I know women who have cheated rather publicly and when their marriage ended they had the audacity to hate on their ex. Hello! YOU cheated, lady. You blew up your marriage by sleeping with the dad down the street. It's not immaturity; it's a lack of self-control, lack of morals, lack of self-awareness, etc.

[Anonymous]

Women need to grow some ovaries and stand up to cads. If you ever find yourself in the uncomfortable position of having to shoot down a cheating cad, try this:

"I find your character as deficient as your horsemanship. I bid you goodnight."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is no different than teen age girls fighting over some garbage boy who led them both on.

Both sides should get some self-respect and quit fighting. You’re embarrassing our gender..

I think a woman married 25 years with kids and an OW are quite a bit different than teenagers. What is like high school : trashy people cheating, but you would think they would grow up and learn that’s wrong. Sigh

You are missing the point. On this thread you are fighting with anonymous women. It’s ridiculous

[Anonymous]

What were you expecting? She sew an A onto all her lapels? I bet she rides better than you too. You’re jealous.