No karma for OW

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Anonymous wrote:Some of the betrayed women on this thread are terrifying and I'm not surprised their marriages didn't work out

I guess that’s why people shouldn’t f@@ck another woman’s husband. Yiu have no idea what she’s like or what will happen when she finds out.

Your husband shouldn't f@@ck women he's not married to, it's not that hard.

The husbands aren’t the ones terrified, dummy. The OW responding are the ones terrified. Maybe if the OM were on here saying they were going to kick his @ss it might give him pause, but men usually just dump their cheating wives. Once they do that it’s over.

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I think it’s weird to focus so much on the other woman. She has moved on with her life. In the grand scheme of things, her affair will barely be a footnote in her story. Don’t let it take up any more chapters of yours.

As a former OW who still ruminates on this 10 years later, you could not be more wrong. I think every day about what I did to his wife, how it ruined both of our integrity, and how it has alienated me from deeper relationships bc to this day I have never told anyone, and anyone decent who heard it would be disgusted. I can never express my remorse to his wife bc I was selfish enough to want it at the time. It radically changed my self image. I try to do more things that are better for others now because I don't believe in an afterlife. If anything it is him who has moved on the most -- kept his marriage, assets and reputation and no one was the wiser outside of his marriage, in which he was discovered and has been forgiven. I meanwhile am wandering the earth like Cain. For all the betrayed wives out there, all I can tell you is that it's at best a growth experience and at worst life-ruining for the OW -- as so many novels will tell you.

Stop ruminating, feeling guilty, and punishing yourself. That doesn’t help anyone. Everyone makes mistakes and this was yours. It’s ok for you to be happy now.

+1. You’ve done your time. Who cares if the guy seems like he got off Scott-free. You never know, and in any event it’s out of your control. You only have one life. The time to start living it is now.

The OW is always a used piece of toilet paper that gets flushed when he’s done and she becomes boring/old news and annoying over time. The married dude always just gets on with life. It’s the way of the world which is why women are dumb as sh@t to hook up married men and think he’s a great guy and it is some rare special love. It’s an act. It’s just sex until he decides yiu fave become boring or are getting too needy and becoming a risk.

I'm just going to say you are a troll who gets off on calling women nasty names. Otherwse you need some psychological help.

That poster speaks the truth. Some of these desperados should see that’s what married men really thinking them.

What's true is that these "men" go back to women they know are doormats. It's not because he loved you, or realizes you are a high-value woman or mother, it's not because he's got issues and needs therapy or whatever other lies you have deluded yourself into believing. He's selfish and you are a convenient doormat, he doesn't have to spend money on a divorce or child support, he still gets a maid, cook and babysitter to run his life, and probably sex too and he know he can sleep with anyone he wants on the side and his wife won't say a thing.

What's true is if he really loved you and respected you he wouldn't have stepped out in the first place.

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

+1

Yeah that's been said 1,000 times. Yes, she was just a warm hole and any OW would suffice. She's not that special, it could have been anyone. She's the one that opened her legs easily.

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These OW that repeat this mantra: if it wasn't me, it would have been someone else.

Do they realize how cheap that makes them seem? Do they say this to relieve themselves from any moral decency?

It is weird to categorize yourself this lowly. I didn't matter, it would have just been another woman opening her legs for your husband.

Also, it was YOU. It's like getting hit by a drunk driver and the drunk saying 'well, if it wasn't me that hit you, it would have been another drunk driver'.

They can't see the irony in that statement. I've always thought the same thing.

Omg. I always thought the same thing. They put themselves down when they say that.

But, it was YOU. That’s what makes me shake my head. It’s ok in their mind because they are one of a ling line waiting to blow him. Wtf?!?!

It’s a way to assuage guilt and deny any basic morality.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some of the betrayed women on this thread are terrifying and I'm not surprised their marriages didn't work out

I guess that’s why people shouldn’t f@@ck another woman’s husband. Yiu have no idea what she’s like or what will happen when she finds out.

Your husband shouldn't f@@ck women he's not married to, it's not that hard.

The husbands aren’t the ones terrified, dummy. The OW responding are the ones terrified. Maybe if the OM were on here saying they were going to kick his @ss it might give him pause, but men usually just dump their cheating wives. Once they do that it’s over.

None of the OW here are terrified. Perhaps you should direct your anger at your husband, and stand of spewing it at randoms on the internet. No matter how many people you swear at online it's not going to change the fact that your husband is a cheater

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

+1

Yeah that's been said 1,000 times. Yes, she was just a warm hole and any OW would suffice. She's not that special, it could have been anyone. She's the one that opened her legs easily.

Off-topic ?:

These OW that repeat this mantra: if it wasn't me, it would have been someone else.

Do they realize how cheap that makes them seem? Do they say this to relieve themselves from any moral decency?

It is weird to categorize yourself this lowly. I didn't matter, it would have just been another woman opening her legs for your husband.

Also, it was YOU. It's like getting hit by a drunk driver and the drunk saying 'well, if it wasn't me that hit you, it would have been another drunk driver'.

They can't see the irony in that statement. I've always thought the same thing.

Omg. I always thought the same thing. They put themselves down when they say that.

But, it was YOU. That’s what makes me shake my head. It’s ok in their mind because they are one of a ling line waiting to blow him. Wtf?!?!

It’s a way to assuage guilt and deny any basic morality.

But your husband still slept with her. He did that.

[Anonymous]

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I think it’s weird to focus so much on the other woman. She has moved on with her life. In the grand scheme of things, her affair will barely be a footnote in her story. Don’t let it take up any more chapters of yours.

As a former OW who still ruminates on this 10 years later, you could not be more wrong. I think every day about what I did to his wife, how it ruined both of our integrity, and how it has alienated me from deeper relationships bc to this day I have never told anyone, and anyone decent who heard it would be disgusted. I can never express my remorse to his wife bc I was selfish enough to want it at the time. It radically changed my self image. I try to do more things that are better for others now because I don't believe in an afterlife. If anything it is him who has moved on the most -- kept his marriage, assets and reputation and no one was the wiser outside of his marriage, in which he was discovered and has been forgiven. I meanwhile am wandering the earth like Cain. For all the betrayed wives out there, all I can tell you is that it's at best a growth experience and at worst life-ruining for the OW -- as so many novels will tell you.

Stop ruminating, feeling guilty, and punishing yourself. That doesn’t help anyone. Everyone makes mistakes and this was yours. It’s ok for you to be happy now.

+1. You’ve done your time. Who cares if the guy seems like he got off Scott-free. You never know, and in any event it’s out of your control. You only have one life. The time to start living it is now.

The OW is always a used piece of toilet paper that gets flushed when he’s done and she becomes boring/old news and annoying over time. The married dude always just gets on with life. It’s the way of the world which is why women are dumb as sh@t to hook up married men and think he’s a great guy and it is some rare special love. It’s an act. It’s just sex until he decides yiu fave become boring or are getting too needy and becoming a risk.

I'm just going to say you are a troll who gets off on calling women nasty names. Otherwse you need some psychological help.

That poster speaks the truth. Some of these desperados should see that’s what married men really thinking them.

What's true is that these "men" go back to women they know are doormats. It's not because he loved you, or realizes you are a high-value woman or mother, it's not because he's got issues and needs therapy or whatever other lies you have deluded yourself into believing. He's selfish and you are a convenient doormat, he doesn't have to spend money on a divorce or child support, he still gets a maid, cook and babysitter to run his life, and probably sex too and he know he can sleep with anyone he wants on the side and his wife won't say a thing.

What's true is if he really loved you and respected you he wouldn't have stepped out in the first place.

If he respected you, he would have taken you outside of the bedroom, or at least out in public.

If he loved you, he would have left his wife.

If you were high value, you would be able to get a single guy instead of having to stay in the shadows as a tawdry side piece.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

+1

Yeah that's been said 1,000 times. Yes, she was just a warm hole and any OW would suffice. She's not that special, it could have been anyone. She's the one that opened her legs easily.

Off-topic ?:

These OW that repeat this mantra: if it wasn't me, it would have been someone else.

Do they realize how cheap that makes them seem? Do they say this to relieve themselves from any moral decency?

It is weird to categorize yourself this lowly. I didn't matter, it would have just been another woman opening her legs for your husband.

Also, it was YOU. It's like getting hit by a drunk driver and the drunk saying 'well, if it wasn't me that hit you, it would have been another drunk driver'.

They can't see the irony in that statement. I've always thought the same thing.

Omg. I always thought the same thing. They put themselves down when they say that.

But, it was YOU. That’s what makes me shake my head. It’s ok in their mind because they are one of a ling line waiting to blow him. Wtf?!?!

It’s a way to assuage guilt and deny any basic morality.

But your husband still slept with her. He did that.

Way to miss the point of the entire thread, Sherlock.

Correct it was YOU.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some of the betrayed women on this thread are terrifying and I'm not surprised their marriages didn't work out

I guess that’s why people shouldn’t f@@ck another woman’s husband. Yiu have no idea what she’s like or what will happen when she finds out.

Your husband shouldn't f@@ck women he's not married to, it's not that hard.

The husbands aren’t the ones terrified, dummy. The OW responding are the ones terrified. Maybe if the OM were on here saying they were going to kick his @ss it might give him pause, but men usually just dump their cheating wives. Once they do that it’s over.

None of the OW here are terrified. Perhaps you should direct your anger at your husband, and stand of spewing it at randoms on the internet. No matter how many people you swear at online it's not going to change the fact that your husband is a cheater

I’m not even married FFS.

[Anonymous]

Who are the champions of the cheaters ? You go, girl! It’s really strange to me to cheer on cheaters, OW/OM. What’s the psychology behind that? You can only be a cheater/OW/OM because no decent person would think that was a great thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

+1

Yeah that's been said 1,000 times. Yes, she was just a warm hole and any OW would suffice. She's not that special, it could have been anyone. She's the one that opened her legs easily.

Off-topic ?:

These OW that repeat this mantra: if it wasn't me, it would have been someone else.

Do they realize how cheap that makes them seem? Do they say this to relieve themselves from any moral decency?

It is weird to categorize yourself this lowly. I didn't matter, it would have just been another woman opening her legs for your husband.

Also, it was YOU. It's like getting hit by a drunk driver and the drunk saying 'well, if it wasn't me that hit you, it would have been another drunk driver'.

They can't see the irony in that statement. I've always thought the same thing.

Omg. I always thought the same thing. They put themselves down when they say that.

But, it was YOU. That’s what makes me shake my head. It’s ok in their mind because they are one of a ling line waiting to blow him. Wtf?!?!

It’s a way to assuage guilt and deny any basic morality.

But your husband still slept with her. He did that.

Way to miss the point of the entire thread, Sherlock.

Correct it was YOU.

I'm not nor have I ever been an OW. The point of this thread is a pathetic person who instead of dealing with her cheating husband she's waiting her life hoping the other woman's life sucks.

And they are right if it wasn't her it would be someone else. In fact it probably is someone else, while your on DCUM defending your cheating man's honor.

He made himself available to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who are the champions of the cheaters ? You go, girl! It’s really strange to me to cheer on cheaters, OW/OM. What’s the psychology behind that? You can only be a cheater/OW/OM because no decent person would think that was a great thing.

Not a champion of cheaters. I just watched someone I cared about wasting their life being angry at the woman, doing exactly what pp's are doing having all the smoke for them and none for the cheating husband. Put your energy where it matters ladies.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

+1

Yeah that's been said 1,000 times. Yes, she was just a warm hole and any OW would suffice. She's not that special, it could have been anyone. She's the one that opened her legs easily.

Off-topic ?:

These OW that repeat this mantra: if it wasn't me, it would have been someone else.

Do they realize how cheap that makes them seem? Do they say this to relieve themselves from any moral decency?

It is weird to categorize yourself this lowly. I didn't matter, it would have just been another woman opening her legs for your husband.

Also, it was YOU. It's like getting hit by a drunk driver and the drunk saying 'well, if it wasn't me that hit you, it would have been another drunk driver'.

They can't see the irony in that statement. I've always thought the same thing.

Omg. I always thought the same thing. They put themselves down when they say that.

But, it was YOU. That’s what makes me shake my head. It’s ok in their mind because they are one of a ling line waiting to blow him. Wtf?!?!

It’s a way to assuage guilt and deny any basic morality.

But your husband still slept with her. He did that.

Way to miss the point of the entire thread, Sherlock.

Correct it was YOU.

I'm not nor have I ever been an OW. The point of this thread is a pathetic person who instead of dealing with her cheating husband she's waiting her life hoping the other woman's life sucks.

And they are right if it wasn't her it would be someone else. In fact it probably is someone else, while your on DCUM defending your cheating man's honor.

He made himself available to her.

Yep there are whores everywhere willing to be used by married men. That is certainly true.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

+1

Yeah that's been said 1,000 times. Yes, she was just a warm hole and any OW would suffice. She's not that special, it could have been anyone. She's the one that opened her legs easily.

Off-topic ?:

These OW that repeat this mantra: if it wasn't me, it would have been someone else.

Do they realize how cheap that makes them seem? Do they say this to relieve themselves from any moral decency?

It is weird to categorize yourself this lowly. I didn't matter, it would have just been another woman opening her legs for your husband.

Also, it was YOU. It's like getting hit by a drunk driver and the drunk saying 'well, if it wasn't me that hit you, it would have been another drunk driver'.

They can't see the irony in that statement. I've always thought the same thing.

Omg. I always thought the same thing. They put themselves down when they say that.

But, it was YOU. That’s what makes me shake my head. It’s ok in their mind because they are one of a ling line waiting to blow him. Wtf?!?!

It’s a way to assuage guilt and deny any basic morality.

But your husband still slept with her. He did that.

Way to miss the point of the entire thread, Sherlock.

Correct it was YOU.

I'm not nor have I ever been an OW. The point of this thread is a pathetic person who instead of dealing with her cheating husband she's waiting her life hoping the other woman's life sucks.

And they are right if it wasn't her it would be someone else. In fact it probably is someone else, while your on DCUM defending your cheating man's honor.

He made himself available to her.

Yep there are whores everywhere willing to be used by married men. That is certainly true.

Your husband is still a cheater. He slept with what you call a whore and then slept with you, what does that say about how much he values you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some of the betrayed women on this thread are terrifying and I'm not surprised their marriages didn't work out

+1

Disgusting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who are the champions of the cheaters ? You go, girl! It’s really strange to me to cheer on cheaters, OW/OM. What’s the psychology behind that? You can only be a cheater/OW/OM because no decent person would think that was a great thing.

Not a champion of cheaters. I just watched someone I cared about wasting their life being angry at the woman, doing exactly what pp's are doing having all the smoke for them and none for the cheating husband. Put your energy where it matters ladies.

I am. When my little girl grows up I pray she gets to be the AP of a married man. I have high hopes for her and raised her well.