Men who try to use their feminism to get you to like them
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Anonymous
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Wow this annoys me. Do other women like this? I hate it.
I’m all for men being feminists and I’m not trying to say only women are allowed to talk about feminism. But there’s a new guy in my office who is so obviously trying to ingratiate himself with the women here by really hitting us over the head with his feminist politics. It’s grating. Particularly because he’s also pretty arrogant in general, so a lot of it comes off as him lecturing us about feminism. I hoped it we just smiled and we’re otherwise welcoming he’d stop trying do hard and chill, but he seems to have taken it as encouragement and gotten worse. Sigh. Also, he’s very into being sex positive, which again I support as a general rule, but this is a professional workplace full of lawyers and public policy hacks, and we should probably just not discuss sex in the workplace unless it’s relevant to our work? Like yes, I too support sex workers and the right if any woman to use her body as she wants, but when you talk about that in the workplace you just sound horny, I’m sorry. Anyway, don’t go this. Be a feminist, support feminist causes, vote for feminist politicians, consume books and art and news created by women. But don’t expect a cookie for it. I do those things every day and no one is sitting around paying me on the head and encouraging me for it. Ugh. |
Anonymous
| Bleach, typos, am tired. You get the gist. |
Anonymous
| what are examples of stuff he says? I've never met anyone like this. |
Anonymous
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Beta males do this.
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Anonymous
So unattractive! No one wants a guy like this. |
Anonymous
| Guys like this are probably gay. |
Anonymous
| Yeah a guy proclaiming his feminism is a red flag. And this sounds like that plus an extra dose of just not being socially aware. |
Anonymous
I think that gay guys trying to be one of the girls loudly proclaim they are gay, not feminists. |
Anonymous
Nah, he’s trying to sleep with whatever woman might have him. |
Anonymous
| HR is going to have to have a talk with him. Yuk. |
Anonymous
Yep. Not a great look, especially at work. |
Anonymous
| Watch this SNL skit called Girl in a Bar it’s hilarious and on point: https://youtu.be/kTMow_7H47Q |
Anonymous
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The kids call this pick-me behavior.
The irony is talking about sex in the workplace may very well be sexual harassment. |
Anonymous
Like this guy: https://vm.tiktok.com/ZML1y3yys/ |
Anonymous
This. |