How would you handle a 15 yo talking about getting a matching tattoo with a friend who is dying

[Anonymous]

This girl has been very close to my daughter for a few years but she's had recurring cancer and it recently came back in a very severe form and it's bad enough they aren't going to fight and just try to make her comfortable.

My daughter and her friend recently came to their parents and asked about going to a reputable artist and getting some designs done up, her parents are alright with the idea but I'm hesitant about this it seems insane to allow a tattoo at 15 years old but also the right thing to do.

[Anonymous]

I think that as long as it’s in a discreet location (possible to cover) I would absolutely allow it. And I am really not a tattoo person.

[Anonymous]

I would allow it, and I’m really not a tattoo lover.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would allow it. How devastating, all around.

[Anonymous]

There’s not much of a downside here. This isn’t like tattooing her HS sweetheart’s name on her forehead that she will look at years later and wonder what she was thinking. This is a tattoo of a great friend who will no longer be there and to be honest if anyone looks askance at her in the future for that kind of tattoo, they are not people worth knowing.

And like the PPs, I’m not a tattoo person.

[Anonymous]

No, I would offer something less permanent like matching necklaces.

[Anonymous]

Of course I would allow this. I would push to make it small and in a place that is easy to cover when desired, but yes. Absolutely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I would offer something less permanent like matching necklaces.

Agree with this.

[Anonymous]

I’d allow it with restrictions - small, in a spot that can easily be covered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I would offer something less permanent like matching necklaces.

Did you even think about the message that would send?

[Anonymous]

Would your pediatrician have some wise advice?

[Anonymous]

I think tattoos are generally trashy. But I would definitely allow DD to get a discreet one. I’m thinking hip area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course I would allow this. I would push to make it small and in a place that is easy to cover when desired, but yes. Absolutely.

Yep, just talk her out of wrist, ankles, forearms and I would allow it.

[Anonymous]

I don't believe minor children should make permanent changes to their bodies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I would offer something less permanent like matching necklaces.

“Yeah, I’d prefer my daughter get something easy to remove when she forgets about your daughter after she’s dead.”