what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Male nurses make me moderately queasy in general.

That’s a problem with you. It’s like people who have a problem with female doctors. No different

[Anonymous]

OP you did the right thing to address it with your kid and also with the practice. People push boundaries with kids in joking ways , with parents present, to gauge their reaction before pushing the boundary further. If you had said nothing, your son would have gotten the message that it’s ok for a man he doesn’t know to pat his butt because mom was there and didn’t seem concerned.

I’m not saying this guy was anything other than an awkward dude maybe, but, truly this is how abusers test the waters with kids and families to see who they can push things more with. So even if this guy was harmless, you taught your kid a good lesson

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here What should I say to my son? I don’t want him to feel yucky, but I also want him to think it is not okay for adults to touch him like that.

Nothing unless he brings it up - maybe he’s forgotten? If he brings it up, seems bothered or next time is refusing to go to the dr - can’t you say you saw it, did not like it, and have already reached out to the guys boss?

+1 I would not bring it up.

Disagree- you can say this “do you remember when that nurse patted you on the butt? That was not ok. He shouldn’t have touched you there, even as a joke. Mommy called the doctor and let them know that happened so that they stop that behavior.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here What should I say to my son? I don’t want him to feel yucky, but I also want him to think it is not okay for adults to touch him like that.

Nothing unless he brings it up - maybe he’s forgotten? If he brings it up, seems bothered or next time is refusing to go to the dr - can’t you say you saw it, did not like it, and have already reached out to the guys boss?

Same poster- and I would add “And sorry I didn’t react more in the moment- I was very shocked. Next time what I would have done is say, ‘hey! Hands off!’ And if anyone ever touches you like that again, I want you to say the same thing- hands off weirdo!”

+1 I would not bring it up.

Disagree- you can say this “do you remember when that nurse patted you on the butt? That was not ok. He shouldn’t have touched you there, even as a joke. Mommy called the doctor and let them know that happened so that they stop that behavior.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you report it?

What did you search for to find this thread from 8 years ago?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t like it but it doesn’t seem like a big deal. I mean you were right there.

My BIL tickles my daughter and holds her upside down and thinks it is funny. I don’t like that either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was it like patting on the butt like they do in baseball? I would not have a problem with that. If it was anything else then it would be weird.

Patting on the butt in baseball IS weird.

Agree totally. What is up with all this butt slapping/taping?

[Anonymous]

I would immediately make a formal complaint and report them. That's inappropriate. It's never ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you report it?

Why did you resurrect an EIGHT YEAR OLD thread?

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

I know this is an old thread, but for those reading, this could definitely be read as grooming- starting as small but inappropriate touches in front of the parent, etc. Darkly, a pediatric nurse would be a great access point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this is an old thread, but for those reading, this could definitely be read as grooming- starting as small but inappropriate touches in front of the parent, etc. Darkly, a pediatric nurse would be a great access point.

Yeah, let's pick on a male nurse.

[Anonymous]

I would report it immediately.

Predators often take "helping" jobs to for easy access to children and vulnerable.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, no with all the excuse making in the comments. The “ha ha made you look” game is a tap on the shoulder, not on a child’s butt.

Follow your instincts and report, PP. If the drs/practice manager share the PPs’ opinion that it’s “OMG NO BIG DEAL,” then nothing will happen to the nurse.