what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt

[Anonymous]

It was a joke. Men are stupid. Karma will get him. You don't have to do anything unless you are super weirded out by it.

[Anonymous]

What is wrong with some of you people? You want to protect a nurse who is clearly old enough/has had enough training to know better vs. protecting your child?

YOU are part of the problem. You people who would rather say nothing and not rock the boat are PART OF THE PROBLEM.

If ONE of Nassar's parents had spoken out, HUNDREDS of girls could have been protected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Report back.

Spoke with the manager. She sounded glad I called and said that it was not approporate of the nurse. She was going to counsel the nurse and the nurse’s supervisor on boundaries around touch. And how to provide friendly welcoming care while still respecting aproporiate boundaries. No one is losing their job! And lessons are being learned. Glad I reported it.

Thanks for your feedback.

Thank you, OP, for finally doing the right and responsible thing.

[Anonymous]

What’s truly disturbing is the amount of people interpreting this as remotely sexual. Weird perverts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with some of you people? You want to protect a nurse who is clearly old enough/has had enough training to know better vs. protecting your child?

YOU are part of the problem. You people who would rather say nothing and not rock the boat are PART OF THE PROBLEM.

If ONE of Nassar's parents had spoken out, HUNDREDS of girls could have been protected.

No one is saying that what the nurse did was appropriate. There's a Grand Canyon-sized difference between what this guy did and what Nassar was doing. It sounds like the company handled the complaint appropriately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, do you guys over react to everything?

This
OMG people you don't have to over react about everything!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Report back.

Spoke with the manager. She sounded glad I called and said that it was not approporate of the nurse. She was going to counsel the nurse and the nurse’s supervisor on boundaries around touch. And how to provide friendly welcoming care while still respecting aproporiate boundaries. No one is losing their job! And lessons are being learned. Glad I reported it.

Thanks for your feedback.

You are psycho. Hope you feel awkward when you see this nurse again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another angle for those who think it is no problem or a joke or like baseball pats, would you have been okay with the nurse patting you on the butt? After getting examined for an ear ache?

If you are okay with a kid getting patted, but you would not be okay getting patted yourself, what age is the cut off between okay and unwelcome?

I agree with this.

Glad OP came back with an update.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Report back.

Spoke with the manager. She sounded glad I called and said that it was not approporate of the nurse. She was going to counsel the nurse and the nurse’s supervisor on boundaries around touch. And how to provide friendly welcoming care while still respecting aproporiate boundaries. No one is losing their job! And lessons are being learned. Glad I reported it.

Thanks for your feedback.

You are psycho. Hope you feel awkward when you see this nurse again.

What?!?

[Anonymous]

Shocked at people calling the OP out.

The nurse was out of line. I’m not an reactionary in the slightest but I 100% would have spoken to someone. Not appropriate. It’s nkt my job to keep this male nurse employed, it’s my job to protect my child.

I often think DCUM has a sock puppet constantly commenting on any thread that has to do with potential sexual abuse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Report back.

Spoke with the manager. She sounded glad I called and said that it was not approporate of the nurse. She was going to counsel the nurse and the nurse’s supervisor on boundaries around touch. And how to provide friendly welcoming care while still respecting aproporiate boundaries. No one is losing their job! And lessons are being learned. Glad I reported it.

Thanks for your feedback.

You are psycho. Hope you feel awkward when you see this nurse again.

Agree. Always wondered what became of that annoying first grader who tattles to the teacher for every. little. thing. Now I know. She grows up to be you, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shocked at people calling the OP out.

The nurse was out of line. I’m not an reactionary in the slightest but I 100% would have spoken to someone. Not appropriate. It’s nkt my job to keep this male nurse employed, it’s my job to protect my child.

I often think DCUM has a sock puppet constantly commenting on any thread that has to do with potential sexual abuse.

Protect your child?!? She was RIGHT THERE and said nothing to the actual nurse! Probably just laughed awkwardly. Coward. If it were really a sexual abuse issue she would have sprung to her get, pushed him away and said "get the hell away from my kid!" But it wasn't. It was just a male jokester camp counselor-type gesture that she blew waaaay out of proportion.

[Anonymous]

Not OP but you weren't there! None of us were.
The OP was there and she's the mom! As a parent you go with your gut. If she got home and she was still bothered by it after replaying the situation then she did the right thing by notifying someone. What happens to his career trajectory will be determined by his future actions. Not OPs

[Anonymous]

OP here. The nurse touched my child’s butt then left the room immediately afterward. I did not want to make my child more uncomfortable than he already was by chasing the nurse out of the room and leaving my child alone.

In reporting the concern, I was thinking mostly of other people. If I were the clinic, would I want to know about the situation so that I could provide training to the nurse? If I were the next family, would I want this to happen to them? What if it were a pattern - I hope it wouldn’t be- but what if it were?

I was matter of fact in reporting. Saying I didn’t think it was a big deal but did think it was not appropriate and they might want to know to give some training. Again, my concerns were well received. The clinic said it was not appropriate for a nurse to jokingly pat on the butt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Shocked at people calling the OP out.

The nurse was out of line. I’m not an reactionary in the slightest but I 100% would have spoken to someone. Not appropriate. It’s nkt my job to keep this male nurse employed, it’s my job to protect my child.

I often think DCUM has a sock puppet constantly commenting on any thread that has to do with potential sexual abuse.

Protect your child?!? She was RIGHT THERE and said nothing to the actual nurse! Probably just laughed awkwardly. Coward. If it were really a sexual abuse issue she would have sprung to her get, pushed him away and said "get the hell away from my kid!" But it wasn't. It was just a male jokester camp counselor-type gesture that she blew waaaay out of proportion.

OP here. I did not laugh. It wasn’t funny. I told my child that it is not appropriate for someone to touch his butt without consent. Why am I being called a coward? The nurse left the room w/i one second of touching my child’s butt. I did not see him again. I also didn’t want to confront him in front of my child. I didn’t want to make my child even more uncomfortable to see that. But didn’t want to leave my children alone.