what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt

[Anonymous]

It was in a joking manner but a male nurse patted my child (age 7) on the butt and then pointed at me like I had done it. Like that joke where you tap someone on the the far shoulder so they look at that shoulder but you are on the other side. I didn't think he meant anything by it but I also found it inappropriate for a medical professional who should be teaching the right boundaries. We spend a lot of time teaching our kind about consent, and I didn't think it was appropriate. I didn't want to freak out my kid by making a big deal about it in front of him. But I am still bothered. What would you do?

[Anonymous]

Ew yeah, that’s totally inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

I would probably ignore the first time but if it happened again, I would say something to their superior and request that we don't see that nurse again. I think the joking nature is fine, but he should be patting the kids' shoulders, not their bottoms.

[Anonymous]

Nothing. It was a joke.

But of course he shouln't have done it because the line is now a hair's breadth away from crazy.

[Anonymous]

I'd report it. People ignore little things, and they become big things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd report it. People ignore little things, and they become big things.

Seriously? The nurse will lose her job, and not be able to work again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd report it. People ignore little things, and they become big things.

Seriously? The nurse will lose her job, and not be able to work again.

OP here. Shouldn’t the clinic train people not to do that? How can they know to train people if they don’t know? Should the child get the priority or the adult?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t be ok with this.

At first I thought the child was a diapered infant. Still not really appropriate, but not a firable offense.

How on earth would this nurse think that’s ok?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd report it. People ignore little things, and they become big things.

Seriously? The nurse will lose her job, and not be able to work again.

His. Does that change anything for you?

[Anonymous]

Wtf? Honestly opened this thinking it’d be a cute 6 month old diapered child. But patting a SEVEN yr old on the butt as a joke? I’d say something - embarrassing as it’ll be to have that conversation or I would go back to that drs office if it’s just a generalist that’d I’m not desperately wild about. Though it’s also possible that if you don’t go back for 6 months, that nurse will be long gone bc if you don’t say anything, others will — assuming this wasn’t some odd one time thing.

[Anonymous]

Can you call the management and discuss it without saying which nurse it was so they can be sure to discuss the issue with their staff?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd report it. People ignore little things, and they become big things.

Seriously? The nurse will lose her job, and not be able to work again.

OP here. Shouldn’t the clinic train people not to do that? How can they know to train people if they don’t know? Should the child get the priority or the adult?

They don’t train people on these things bc they assume normal people won’t do these things . . . .

[Anonymous]

OP here What should I say to my son? I don’t want him to feel yucky, but I also want him to think it is not okay for adults to touch him like that.

[Anonymous]

Was this a larger private practice? If yes - call and ask the nursing manager to call you back. Then say to her to was your first time seeing x nurse and while he was medically competent (if true), you found his demeanor way too informal - including patting your 7 yr olds butt as a joke and acting like mom did it. If you don’t want to be a stick in the mud you can caveat and say you know nurses play around with kids to put them at ease but you felt it went a bit too far esp since 7 is an age where kids are more self conscious, you’re talking to them about boundaries etc. Then accept her canned apology and hang up. IDK prior posters are so concerned about this dudes job - not your problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here What should I say to my son? I don’t want him to feel yucky, but I also want him to think it is not okay for adults to touch him like that.

Nothing unless he brings it up - maybe he’s forgotten? If he brings it up, seems bothered or next time is refusing to go to the dr - can’t you say you saw it, did not like it, and have already reached out to the guys boss?