what would you do if a nurse patted your child on the butt

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was this a larger private practice? If yes - call and ask the nursing manager to call you back. Then say to her to was your first time seeing x nurse and while he was medically competent (if true), you found his demeanor way too informal - including patting your 7 yr olds butt as a joke and acting like mom did it. If you don’t want to be a stick in the mud you can caveat and say you know nurses play around with kids to put them at ease but you felt it went a bit too far esp since 7 is an age where kids are more self conscious, you’re talking to them about boundaries etc. Then accept her canned apology and hang up. IDK prior posters are so concerned about this dudes job - not your problem.

This.

Either this guy just has a totally inappropriate bedside manner or uses this "game" as a grooming technique. Either way, it should be reported

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd report it. People ignore little things, and they become big things.

Seriously? The nurse will lose her job, and not be able to work again.

His. Does that change anything for you?

PP here. Yeah it actually does. Sorry I didn’t see that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here What should I say to my son? I don’t want him to feel yucky, but I also want him to think it is not okay for adults to touch him like that.

Nothing unless he brings it up - maybe he’s forgotten? If he brings it up, seems bothered or next time is refusing to go to the dr - can’t you say you saw it, did not like it, and have already reached out to the guys boss?

+1 I would not bring it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was this a larger private practice? If yes - call and ask the nursing manager to call you back. Then say to her to was your first time seeing x nurse and while he was medically competent (if true), you found his demeanor way too informal - including patting your 7 yr olds butt as a joke and acting like mom did it. If you don’t want to be a stick in the mud you can caveat and say you know nurses play around with kids to put them at ease but you felt it went a bit too far esp since 7 is an age where kids are more self conscious, you’re talking to them about boundaries etc. Then accept her canned apology and hang up. IDK prior posters are so concerned about this dudes job - not your problem.

I think this is a good response. You should definitely say something.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t say anything to my kid. I would report the nose. If he wanted to play that game then he should have tapped your child’s shoulder. The nurse will not get fired for it unless other inappropriate things have happened.

[Anonymous]

I’m not the type of person who complains every time they feel slighted — I’m not bitching to teachers, soccer coaches, gate agents at airports etc — yet I have no tolerance for being made to feel uncomfortable in a drs office. That’s the one time I will call back later and say something. It’s only happened 2x - once with a male tech for a cardiac ultrasound who made a reference to “giving a free show” — not something you say to a 25 yr old woman who has to expose her breasts; once with a female tech attaching a heart monitor while YELLING at me about why my heart rate was so fast. Um - maybe bc you’re screaming? That one just had no business being in patient care as she seemed to not like people.

[Anonymous]

Predators flirt with children. Its possible it was innocent, or it’s testing limits of what they can get away with. Either way it should be addressed with there supervisor.

Touching a child on his bum is familiar, absolutely inappropriate in a clinical setting as a care technician.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd report it. People ignore little things, and they become big things.

Seriously? The nurse will lose her job, and not be able to work again.

Clearly they’ve gotten too comfortable and could use an ethics check in.

[Anonymous]

It is entirely inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

Very odd. Would tell the doctor it made me uncomfortable

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very odd. Would tell the doctor it made me uncomfortable

+1. Yes, report it to the Dr or nursing manager or whoever. It's not normal or Ok.

[Anonymous]

I would report it to the management. You don't have to make a huge issue of it but should report it. The nurse should not have done that and should have known it was inappropriate. A tap on the shoulder would have been weird but playful. A tap on the butt makes no sense and is offensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very odd. Would tell the doctor it made me uncomfortable

+1. Yes, report it to the Dr or nursing manager or whoever. It's not normal or Ok.

Fine to report it to the Dr. if we're talking a small practice -- i.e. solo or 1-2 equal partners. But for some of the huge pediatric practices here with 20+ drs. (as well as the ones owned by health systems), I would NOT report it to a dr. and assume he/she will do anything about in. In those practices drs. are basically salaried employees and don't have the same feeling of ownership that someone does when they own their own business/hire/fire all staff. I can see a younger MD thinking -- hmm Dr. so-and-so is the senior partner and he hates me, I'm not going into his office to discuss this. I can see an overworked/jaded middle aged type saying -- hmm, well not my problem since they don't pay me enough to worry about their lack of practice mgmt. You just don't know what any Dr. does with that info. I would tell the nurse manager instead -- they are more directly involved in reviewing the nurses work and will do whatever would be done in this situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Very odd. Would tell the doctor it made me uncomfortable

+1. Yes, report it to the Dr or nursing manager or whoever. It's not normal or Ok.

Fine to report it to the Dr. if we're talking a small practice -- i.e. solo or 1-2 equal partners. But for some of the huge pediatric practices here with 20+ drs. (as well as the ones owned by health systems), I would NOT report it to a dr. and assume he/she will do anything about in. In those practices drs. are basically salaried employees and don't have the same feeling of ownership that someone does when they own their own business/hire/fire all staff. I can see a younger MD thinking -- hmm Dr. so-and-so is the senior partner and he hates me, I'm not going into his office to discuss this. I can see an overworked/jaded middle aged type saying -- hmm, well not my problem since they don't pay me enough to worry about their lack of practice mgmt. You just don't know what any Dr. does with that info. I would tell the nurse manager instead -- they are more directly involved in reviewing the nurses work and will do whatever would be done in this situation.

Regardless of practice size, you report it. Regardless of the sex of the nurse, you’d report it.

It may have be a one time lack of judgment, but this is the kind of feedback needs to be given.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd report it. People ignore little things, and they become big things.

THIS. Don't we all KNOW this???