what schools DON'T have female MS grads in white dresses?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here is a thought. Find a place to send your child that works with your values. Traditions mean a great deal to some of us. The white dresses aren't hurting anyone. Why can't people chose if they want to be traditional or not?

The problem is that what some people call “traditions” are actually representing values that are harmful to others. Many white people don’t want to look into how a tradition was started.

There are phrases that I learned growing up that have racist origins. I wasn’t aware of that; when I became aware, I stopped using the phrases.

Maybe listen to people speaking to why it bothers them, rather than being dismissive.

Really? Since you seem to know so much about this, please enlighten us all on how the white dresses for girls at graduations, specifically, represents a value that is harmful to others. Please provide a concrete example.

I attended a high school graduation yesterday at what is thought of as a progressive school. Every single boy wore a dark suit, white shirt and tie of his choosing. Every single girl wore a white dress of some sort, with variations in the length. To think that this "bothers" people like you is pretty hard to take seriously.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If the regular short white dress triggers you OP, you better not look at the all girls' Catholic high school graduation photos on their websites. You might have a heart attack. I will add one school has a coming out ball where the girls dress like brides and wear long white gloves to be presented by their fathers. It doesn't bother me at all, but you might get a grip because this is what people accept/expect.

What school is that? That is some great patriarchal b.s.

StoneRidge

That is a traditional catholic school
No surprise that they have old traditions
If it isn’t for you then don’t send your daughter.

[Anonymous]

My daughter graduated from high school today. It is a private school. White dresses which had to be without 3 inches of the floor or dark blue sports jackets, oxfords, khakis and a school tie. Either outfit for either girl or boy but you have to pick.

As parents, we are happy to have the tradition at graduation. We picked the school and I’m thankful they have decades of such traditions.

It seems like an odd thing to get hung up on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most private schools do this OP. Sounds like you want a public school.

Even public schools will have most girls in white dresses because it is a tradition in the U.S.

White doesn’t mean purity in this context. Think about suffragettes wearing white.

There are also numerous non-western cultures where white has a religious or cultural significance that has nothing to do with weddings or purity. (And where white is very much NOT associated with weddings.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter graduated from high school today. It is a private school. White dresses which had to be without 3 inches of the floor or dark blue sports jackets, oxfords, khakis and a school tie. Either outfit for either girl or boy but you have to pick.

As parents, we are happy to have the tradition at graduation. We picked the school and I’m thankful they have decades of such traditions.

It seems like an odd thing to get hung up on.

Seems like an odd thing for so many people here to be vigorously defending too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter graduated from high school today. It is a private school. White dresses which had to be without 3 inches of the floor or dark blue sports jackets, oxfords, khakis and a school tie. Either outfit for either girl or boy but you have to pick.

As parents, we are happy to have the tradition at graduation. We picked the school and I’m thankful they have decades of such traditions.

It seems like an odd thing to get hung up on.

Seems like an odd thing for so many people here to be vigorously defending too.

Eh, people are vigorously defending the idea of giving very little weight to this widespread tradition in choosing the best school for your kid.

[Anonymous]

This seems like fake outrage. Get a life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter graduated from high school today. It is a private school. White dresses which had to be without 3 inches of the floor or dark blue sports jackets, oxfords, khakis and a school tie. Either outfit for either girl or boy but you have to pick.

As parents, we are happy to have the tradition at graduation. We picked the school and I’m thankful they have decades of such traditions.

It seems like an odd thing to get hung up on.

Seems like an odd thing for so many people here to be vigorously defending too.

People like it. Makes life easy too because you don't have to worry about what to wear. All the kids will be dressed similarly. What's not to like? Call it defending but there are more up side than down.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the regular short white dress triggers you OP, you better not look at the all girls' Catholic high school graduation photos on their websites. You might have a heart attack. I will add one school has a coming out ball where the girls dress like brides and wear long white gloves to be presented by their fathers. It doesn't bother me at all, but you might get a grip because this is what people accept/expect.

What school is that? That is some great patriarchal b.s.

StoneRidge

That is a traditional catholic school
No surprise that they have old traditions
If it isn’t for you then don’t send your daughter.

You can get a look at a typical Tres Bien Ball by just searching that term on Facebook. The fathers present their daughters on stage to the head of school. It is quite the event and the girls love it.

[Anonymous]

White dresses was the main choice for the woman at our son’’s university last and at the university where I work.


It’s easy to find this time of year in a variety of styles and prices.

I agree, how odd you’re repelled but such a nothing burger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Part of what I am reacting to in the Norwood photos is that there isn’t any deviation from “boys in blue jackets girls in white dresses” that I can see. If there was even one girl in a blue jacket or white pant suit I would find it so much less repelling.

You sound extremely judgmental and easily offended. You saw a picture of a group of children on the internet from a school that your own children don’t attend and you don’t approve of the clothes they are wearing based on their gender norms? I thought it was more 21st century to not anonymously judge other people’s kids for their clothes.

[Anonymous]

I’ve yet to see an actual explanation for why people dislike the white dresses.

[Anonymous]

I attended 2 graduations this year: public high school and a private K-8 with no dress code (other than "dress nicely"). At both events, a majority of the girls were wearing white dresses because they chose to.

It's clear that for many kids it's a requirement, and for others, it's a trend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This seems like fake outrage. Get a life.

This. Like if you are buying into the private school power complex this is a weird thing to get upset over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter graduated from high school today. It is a private school. White dresses which had to be without 3 inches of the floor or dark blue sports jackets, oxfords, khakis and a school tie. Either outfit for either girl or boy but you have to pick.

As parents, we are happy to have the tradition at graduation. We picked the school and I’m thankful they have decades of such traditions.

It seems like an odd thing to get hung up on.

There were "boys" wearing white dresses that were three inches from the floor??