S/o: is it “trashy” of parents to have their infant daughter’s ears pierced?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s cultural and the people calling it trashy are ignorant. My husband is Brazilian and ALL the Brazilians do it. From the wealthiest people with PhDs to the rest. It’s not for me and we did not do it to my girls. We also did not circumcise following the Brazilian tradition.

Tradition just not justify body modifcation of children who are unable to consent to something.

GMAFB

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think the girl should get to make this decision when she is older but I would not use the word trashy because I understand that there are different cultural norms about this. Latinas and Italians etc are more likely to have their ears pierced as babies than WASPS are, for ex.

I'm Italian and my mom had my ears pierced when I was only a few months old. I think its a terrible idea.

That just proves you are American, not a real Italian.

I'm a "real Italian". I think it's humorous that you think you know where I was born or any stranger on the internet for that matter. But that's so American of you!

[Anonymous]

So many of you are hypocrites, you claim to want immigration and different cultures here in the US but in reality you don't. You plant your lawn signs that say WE BELIEVE ... Immigrants are welcome, but call cultural practices trashy. You are either liberal hypocrites or MAGA.

[Anonymous]

It's fine. I truly don't care.

[Anonymous]

It makes me think of Janice from “Friends” or Fran Drescher.
I mean, I really don’t see what’s so bad about being tacky or trashy. Those are some of the best people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I pierced all my girls ears as soon as doctor said it was ok - maybe 12 weeks? I’m Latina and it’s absolutely cultural.

What I find weird is how ear piercing in white culture seems associated with puberty - it’s decoration for your body, not some signal you are entering womanhood.

I think the “trashy” comment is coded language for thinking poor people do it, at least in part because it’s more prevalent in immigrant communities.

It a femininity thing in Latin culture. Why does a baby need to “look” like a girl?

I mean white people put giant bows on their girl babies' heads and dress them in constant pink. Same thing.

You are equating a painful procedure with a bow?

My daughters both said getting their ears pierced was less painful than getting a flu shot. Are you also anti-vax?

Well the flu shot has a benefit. If someone came up to you and said, I’m gonna poke your baby TWICE with a sharp object you’d say that’s crazy but totally cool if it’s earrings!

[Anonymous]

This is a cultural thing. Go away you bigots.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think for white people, yes. In other cultures, it's the norm and I can't see labeling an entire culture of people trashy.

This.

[Anonymous]

I'm not a fan. Babies can't consent and don't need a fashion statement that involves pain.

I recognize that it's cultural for some cultures. Still not a fan. And it's certainly not cultural for Caucasians and it's usually lower class people that do it. So yeah, in those cases, I think it's low class.

[Anonymous]

I was raised to believe it was trashy. But now that I have an 11 year old and cannot find a decent place to get her ears pierced, I’m pretty envious of the parents who got it done and don’t have to deal with it now. And of course DD has an insane sports schedule and we can’t figure out how to time the piercing so she can have some time for it to heal and stay clean. It wouldn’t have been a fuss to add piercing cleaning to the other stuff I was already doing when she was tiny.

Also, unpopular opinion that I’ve developed as an adult: babies with tiny little earrings are really cute.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. It's abuse to mutilate someone's body without their consent.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't give me too much pause, ear lobe piercings don't really hurt that much, just an initial sting and heat. I wouldn't and didn't pierce my kids (they wanted them around age 7 and we did it then), but I don't think much about seeing a few babies with pierced ears. I don't like if its just for parental insecurity about people not knowing their baby is a girl.

Circumcision on the other hand to me is horrid that someone would do that to their baby. The procedure and recovery especially with diapers is hard for me to even think about how many parents put their babies through it.

[Anonymous]

It's trashy when parents let their kids drink alcohol. It's trashy when parents don't spend time with their kids.

Earrings - not trashy. What a bizarre stance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's trashy when parents let their kids drink alcohol. It's trashy when parents don't spend time with their kids.

Earrings - not trashy. What a bizarre stance.

Kids drinking alcohol—illegal
Not spending time with kids—neglectful
Earrings—physical abuse (but not illegal)

[Anonymous]

Yes it’s trashy. You should wait until they’re at least 6 or 7 to consent.