S/o: is it “trashy” of parents to have their infant daughter’s ears pierced?

[Anonymous]

Jewelry on very young children is for the parents, not the child. The gold bracelets and necklaces on young children are even worse. What is the parent trying to convey? It's not like play jewelry the child chose.
Trying to see the positives, but I can't.

[Anonymous]

If you circumcised your son, you don’t get to have an opinion on this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I pierced all my girls ears as soon as doctor said it was ok - maybe 12 weeks? I’m Latina and it’s absolutely cultural.

What I find weird is how ear piercing in white culture seems associated with puberty - it’s decoration for your body, not some signal you are entering womanhood.

I think the “trashy” comment is coded language for thinking poor people do it, at least in part because it’s more prevalent in immigrant communities.

It a femininity thing in Latin culture. Why does a baby need to “look” like a girl?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jewelry on very young children is for the parents, not the child. The gold bracelets and necklaces on young children are even worse. What is the parent trying to convey? It's not like play jewelry the child chose.
Trying to see the positives, but I can't.

Most things are "for the parents" at that age. Did you ever put your kid in a cute outfit? Gmafb.

[Anonymous]

Not this again....so boring. Yawn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes it is trashy and in poor taste. People will judge you for poking a hole in your kids ear before they even start kindergarten. IMO, kids should not get ears pierced until they are in middle school.

I consider this controlling and very ass-sticky.

[Anonymous]

The best age range is 4-6 before they start playing sports. I'm so glad we got my kids' ears pierced in Kindergarten because they have played year round sports since 1st grade and almost all of them require kids to be free of jewelry (swimming is the only one that allows earrings - but considering you have to go 8 weeks without swimming, that's also a good reason to get it done early). I always feel bad for the middle schoolers who are told they have to take out freshly pierced earrings for sports or they can't play.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I pierced all my girls ears as soon as doctor said it was ok - maybe 12 weeks? I’m Latina and it’s absolutely cultural.

What I find weird is how ear piercing in white culture seems associated with puberty - it’s decoration for your body, not some signal you are entering womanhood.

I think the “trashy” comment is coded language for thinking poor people do it, at least in part because it’s more prevalent in immigrant communities.

It a femininity thing in Latin culture. Why does a baby need to “look” like a girl?

I mean white people put giant bows on their girl babies' heads and dress them in constant pink. Same thing.

[Anonymous]

Yep it's trashy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I pierced all my girls ears as soon as doctor said it was ok - maybe 12 weeks? I’m Latina and it’s absolutely cultural.

What I find weird is how ear piercing in white culture seems associated with puberty - it’s decoration for your body, not some signal you are entering womanhood.

I think the “trashy” comment is coded language for thinking poor people do it, at least in part because it’s more prevalent in immigrant communities.

It a femininity thing in Latin culture. Why does a baby need to “look” like a girl?

I mean white people put giant bows on their girl babies' heads and dress them in constant pink. Same thing.

You are equating a painful procedure with a bow?

[Anonymous]

This is such a weird thread. Wow, never knew some people were so uptight! So many moms clutching their pearls, I see. Chillax folks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think for white people, yes. In other cultures, it's the norm and I can't see labeling an entire culture of people trashy.

Wow, what a classist, gross comment. "White people" aren't a monolith. You are labeling entire subcultures within the broad category of white people trashy while acting all high and mighty about how you wouldn't label other race's cultures trashy.

[Anonymous]

What a dumb thread.

MYOB

The US has way more problems than this OP like your DD's losing all their rights and becoming breeders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is such a weird thread. Wow, never knew some people were so uptight! So many moms clutching their pearls, I see. Chillax folks.

It’s white people entirely ignorant of other cultures and proud of their ignorance.

[Anonymous]

It’s cultural and the people calling it trashy are ignorant. My husband is Brazilian and ALL the Brazilians do it. From the wealthiest people with PhDs to the rest. It’s not for me and we did not do it to my girls. We also did not circumcise following the Brazilian tradition.