S/o: is it “trashy” of parents to have their infant daughter’s ears pierced?

[Anonymous]

Whatever (I personally think those big ol’ headband/bow things are trashier).

[Anonymous]

The person should ask to get their ears pierced and that decision should not be made for them. Especially for vanity. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the girl should get to make this decision when she is older but I would not use the word trashy because I understand that there are different cultural norms about this. Latinas and Italians etc are more likely to have their ears pierced as babies than WASPS are, for ex.

I'm Italian and my mom had my ears pierced when I was only a few months old. I think its a terrible idea.

[Anonymous]

Yes slightly trashy but I get that it can be a cultural thing.

We waited until whenever my dd wanted it. She was 4 and it was such a fun trip. She was so excited. I’d never make my DDs wait until they begged like my friends parents did when they were 16. My younger dd is 4 and isn’t interested yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
It’s a form of mutilation and the baby hasn’t consented to this.

Babies don’t consent to a great many things we do to them, so this is a baseless argument to begin with

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MYOB OP and shut up.

While the jury’s still out on baby-ear-piercing, only a truly trashy person would respond as you did.

+1M 🤭

[Anonymous]

I wish I had done my daughter‘s. It didn’t occur to me even though mine are pierced. I had it done as a teenager and re-done as an adult and it was very annoying. DD, 9, wants hers pierced but is afraid of the procedure. If I’d had it done when she was younger we’d have bypassed this phase.

Oh well.

[Anonymous]

It’s cultural. I’m Latina and this is the norm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s cultural. I personally wasn’t allowed to pierce my ears until 18, and my daughters pierced at 16, but my niece was pierced as an infant. My SiL is from a different country and culture.

I think that’s controlling and perhaps abusive to make someone wait until 18 or 16 to pierce their ears. Were you not allowed to wear pants either? Attend high school?

[Anonymous]

Unless unless it’s cultural.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone here on DCUM apparently believes it’s (as she put it) “trashy” of parents to pierce an infant or toddler girls’ ears.

I expressed my view in the original thread (I am deeply offended by this).

But what does the rest of DCUM feel?

It’s our culture to have ears pierced as an infant. IDGAF what randoms on DCUM think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
It’s a form of mutilation and the baby hasn’t consented to this.

Babies don’t consent to a great many things we do to them, so this is a baseless argument to begin with

Exactly. Out of all the things to get upset about, my god. It’s tradition in my mom’s culture, and mine were done as a baby. Honestly never gave a crap about it, and none of my friends who’ve had it done as a baby were in care, either.

[Anonymous]

I had them done as a baby. You just put in tiny baby studs and it doesn’t catch in anything. I think it’s fine.

[Anonymous]

I do not think it is "trashy" but I do believe it is child abuse. I am not sure why putting holes in a baby/child is not considered abuse. Is it a matter of where the hole is? I feel the same for circumcision. How is putting holes in a baby/child and/or cutting off pieces of them okay?

[Anonymous]

I've side-eyed it unless cultural but, honestly, have been struggling to find a time to get my sporty 9 yo's pierced because we don't have 6 weeks when she isn't playing in a game that doesn't allow them. It's been a challenge.