S/o: is it “trashy” of parents to have their infant daughter’s ears pierced?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I pierced all my girls ears as soon as doctor said it was ok - maybe 12 weeks? I’m Latina and it’s absolutely cultural.

What I find weird is how ear piercing in white culture seems associated with puberty - it’s decoration for your body, not some signal you are entering womanhood.

I think the “trashy” comment is coded language for thinking poor people do it, at least in part because it’s more prevalent in immigrant communities.

It a femininity thing in Latin culture. Why does a baby need to “look” like a girl?

I mean white people put giant bows on their girl babies' heads and dress them in constant pink. Same thing.

You are equating a painful procedure with a bow?

My daughters both said getting their ears pierced was less painful than getting a flu shot. Are you also anti-vax?

Well the flu shot has a benefit. If someone came up to you and said, I’m gonna poke your baby TWICE with a sharp object you’d say that’s crazy but totally cool if it’s earrings!

[Anonymous]

This is a cultural thing. Go away you bigots.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think for white people, yes. In other cultures, it's the norm and I can't see labeling an entire culture of people trashy.

This.

[Anonymous]

I'm not a fan. Babies can't consent and don't need a fashion statement that involves pain.

I recognize that it's cultural for some cultures. Still not a fan. And it's certainly not cultural for Caucasians and it's usually lower class people that do it. So yeah, in those cases, I think it's low class.

[Anonymous]

I was raised to believe it was trashy. But now that I have an 11 year old and cannot find a decent place to get her ears pierced, I’m pretty envious of the parents who got it done and don’t have to deal with it now. And of course DD has an insane sports schedule and we can’t figure out how to time the piercing so she can have some time for it to heal and stay clean. It wouldn’t have been a fuss to add piercing cleaning to the other stuff I was already doing when she was tiny.

Also, unpopular opinion that I’ve developed as an adult: babies with tiny little earrings are really cute.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. It's abuse to mutilate someone's body without their consent.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't give me too much pause, ear lobe piercings don't really hurt that much, just an initial sting and heat. I wouldn't and didn't pierce my kids (they wanted them around age 7 and we did it then), but I don't think much about seeing a few babies with pierced ears. I don't like if its just for parental insecurity about people not knowing their baby is a girl.

Circumcision on the other hand to me is horrid that someone would do that to their baby. The procedure and recovery especially with diapers is hard for me to even think about how many parents put their babies through it.

[Anonymous]

It's trashy when parents let their kids drink alcohol. It's trashy when parents don't spend time with their kids.

Earrings - not trashy. What a bizarre stance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's trashy when parents let their kids drink alcohol. It's trashy when parents don't spend time with their kids.

Earrings - not trashy. What a bizarre stance.

Kids drinking alcohol—illegal
Not spending time with kids—neglectful
Earrings—physical abuse (but not illegal)

[Anonymous]

Yes it’s trashy. You should wait until they’re at least 6 or 7 to consent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was raised to believe it was trashy. But now that I have an 11 year old and cannot find a decent place to get her ears pierced, I’m pretty envious of the parents who got it done and don’t have to deal with it now. And of course DD has an insane sports schedule and we can’t figure out how to time the piercing so she can have some time for it to heal and stay clean. It wouldn’t have been a fuss to add piercing cleaning to the other stuff I was already doing when she was tiny.

Also, unpopular opinion that I’ve developed as an adult: babies with tiny little earrings are really cute.

This was us. We went to Craig pokes u right after my daughter's last soccer game last spring.

[Anonymous]

The weird thing about it to me is just the why. Now you have a wound you have to manage and the baby dgaf about the earrings, and there’s no advantage I can think of to doing it young?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was raised to believe it was trashy. But now that I have an 11 year old and cannot find a decent place to get her ears pierced, I’m pretty envious of the parents who got it done and don’t have to deal with it now. And of course DD has an insane sports schedule and we can’t figure out how to time the piercing so she can have some time for it to heal and stay clean. It wouldn’t have been a fuss to add piercing cleaning to the other stuff I was already doing when she was tiny.

Also, unpopular opinion that I’ve developed as an adult: babies with tiny little earrings are really cute.

Ears pierced as an infant have to be repierced once most of the time. It's because the ear changes too much during childhood and the holes end up looking bad by the time they are in the teens.

Culture be d****d, there's no reason to do it to a non consenting child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was raised to believe it was trashy. But now that I have an 11 year old and cannot find a decent place to get her ears pierced, I’m pretty envious of the parents who got it done and don’t have to deal with it now. And of course DD has an insane sports schedule and we can’t figure out how to time the piercing so she can have some time for it to heal and stay clean. It wouldn’t have been a fuss to add piercing cleaning to the other stuff I was already doing when she was tiny.

Also, unpopular opinion that I’ve developed as an adult: babies with tiny little earrings are really cute.

Ears pierced as an infant have to be repierced once most of the time. It's because the ear changes too much during childhood and the holes end up looking bad by the time they are in the teens.

Culture be d****d, there's no reason to do it to a non consenting child.

I don't think that's true. I know many people who were pierced as an infant. My ears were pierced as an infant. I don't doubt that this could happen, but what makes you think it occurs most of the time and not rarely? Anyone who fixes piercings is going to have a selection bias.

[Anonymous]

No its adorable.