Men who date younger but unable to perform

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe it is you OP. Once your clothes come off, they are no longer excited.

Nah, I'm a former athlete have a model "Pilates" body, flawless skin, nice butt, thin waist and size 3 tits. I workout 15 hrs a week, 20 BMI. If not with me I don't know maybe Jessica Alba would get their Ds move upward?

Ok, honey

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid 40s woman, just sharing my frustration here.Recently tried to make things work with three (!!!) mid 50s to early 60s men. Not ONE was able to perform in bed. Early ejaculation (like, in 2 min in), or the opposite not able to hold it up and cant take viagra because of heart conditions. All three tried to delay sex until they are "mentally ready" and "emotionally connected" to me. I had to tell that I prefer to have sex on date 5-6 as I do need sex and have physical needs that I expect my match to meet.

Why date a 10+ years younger woman if you can't perform? Date your age - a late 50s woman. So frustrating!

All I can say is you pick the wrong older men 😉 My guy is the best I ever had

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Forgot to add, all three didn't know how to properly use condoms, which brand is the best (were buying the CVS cheap stuff which was further complicating things for them), refused to use a warming gel in foreplay before condom to make it work. That also raised sex safety issues for me as I don't sleep without protection when dating.

I would rather not have sex than wear a condom. You can’t feel a thing wearing one.

Sorry women shouldn’t risk catching a decease from your irresponsible behavior or inability to perform in condom. Next one.

I don’t mean this in a snarky way at all, but it’s “disease” not “decease.” Decease means death so it’s a little freaky to see this written a couple of times!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's a very common problem and increasing. It's a side effect from having cardiovascular disease, and a significant amount of men in the US have it - wife of cardiologist here. Date younger.

hahahhaa I love when wives claim their husbands' training and education. You have no credibility here, dear.

Actually, she does. I've heard this from my own doctor.

NP. What the PP said is well known— it’s basically about restriction of blood flow as the arteries age/constrict. The dumb part is citing her spouse’s experience.

/not a cardiologist

[Anonymous]

I would have a hard time dating a guy who didn’t want to get it on by the 3rd date. Late 40s female. Have not dated older though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do your dates know you are not exclusive?

Yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have a hard time dating a guy who didn’t want to get it on by the 3rd date. Late 40s female. Have not dated older though.

Thanks - this is a valuable input, that’s what I suspect as well. Men who need regular sex would at least suggest taking you to their place by date 3.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it is you OP. Once your clothes come off, they are no longer excited.

Nah, I'm a former athlete have a model "Pilates" body, flawless skin, nice butt, thin waist and size 3 tits. I workout 15 hrs a week, 20 BMI. If not with me I don't know maybe Jessica Alba would get their Ds move upward?

You obviously intimidate these men. Just pick some that are more on your level.

Are you saying they would perform flawlessly with an average slightly overweight woman ? If so, why are they so stuck on seeing me ?

[Anonymous]

Here's another suggestion when the guy is older and having trouble performing. Take your time. Tease him. Coax what you need out of him by touching him slowly and patiently in ways he likes.

Some men could perform with none of that when they were young. Seeing a naked woman was all the stimulation necessary. They may need more foreplay when they're older.

This might not help for every older man but it will help some of them. Obviously some women do not enjoy this kind of sex. Some women need it fast or rough. Or they need the instant validation of a hard man and can't get excited if they don't see or feel that right away. Those women need to find a different solution, like the young fireman another woman mentioned in the thread about her daughter walking in on her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's another suggestion when the guy is older and having trouble performing. Take your time. Tease him. Coax what you need out of him by touching him slowly and patiently in ways he likes.

Some men could perform with none of that when they were young. Seeing a naked woman was all the stimulation necessary. They may need more foreplay when they're older.

This might not help for every older man but it will help some of them. Obviously some women do not enjoy this kind of sex. Some women need it fast or rough. Or they need the instant validation of a hard man and can't get excited if they don't see or feel that right away. Those women need to find a different solution, like the young fireman another woman mentioned in the thread about her daughter walking in on her.

I’m very patient and experienced in sex. We tried it multiple times and while sometimes it works it’s a changing success…. The reality is no PIV for extended periods of time, if I stay with the man I’m romantically attached to

[Anonymous]

You don't want a connection or really any relationship, and you aren't patient, really. You aren't exclusive and don't expect your dates to be. This isn't dating, you want an escort for sex. You want just sex, and apparently a lot of it. Just buy it. I really don't get what the problem is here.

Going forward...come back here in about 10 or 13 years. Story will be reversed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't want a connection or really any relationship, and you aren't patient, really. You aren't exclusive and don't expect your dates to be. This isn't dating, you want an escort for sex. You want just sex, and apparently a lot of it. Just buy it. I really don't get what the problem is here.

Going forward...come back here in about 10 or 13 years. Story will be reversed.

How can I commit to one man if he’s not making me entirely happy and satisfied ? I do want a fulfilling relationship which includes the physical part.
In 10-13 years I won’t be dating plain simple

[Anonymous]

I understand where this woman is coming from. She wants emotional and physical satisfaction. Nothing wrong with that. I'm guessing she's also got different sides to her personality, so different men are more compatible for some parts of her life than others. Just a guess.

She probably feels very close to multiple men. That's a lot more common than people realize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I understand where this woman is coming from. She wants emotional and physical satisfaction. Nothing wrong with that. I'm guessing she's also got different sides to her personality, so different men are more compatible for some parts of her life than others. Just a guess.

She probably feels very close to multiple men. That's a lot more common than people realize.

Yes, I’m very attached to both men . We do different things both physically and in day to day life. It would be hard to break it off with either of them and they want to stay. One even said he wouldn’t be dating anyone but I can if I want to

[Anonymous]

"In 10-13 years I won’t be dating plain simple."

Because you think you'll be settled down with a new man by then? Or because you think you won't be interested in men and dating anymore? Or because you think men capable of having sex and fun won't be interested in you anymore?