Neighbors having sex in backyard

[Anonymous]

We love hotel sex and I guarantee the people on the other side of the wall must wonder what is going on. We’ve had backyard sex plenty of times but we have a big yard so it’s unlikely our neighbors hear us.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve tried to talk my husband into this for years. In the hammock. We have a privacy fence and lots of trees. He’s not into it.

SAME

He was afraid the hammock would break. And found other reasons when I created alternatives. Oh wellsies.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve had roommates, neighbors in adjoining apartments and people at nearby campsites have sex within my earshot, is it weird that I kind of like it?

Not weird at all. We love listening.

+1. When DH and I hear hotel sex happening we whisper things to each other that the couple is saying to each other.... each comment more bizarre than the next- "now put your other toe in there" "you are so dry it turns me on" etc... it really gives us the giggles.

That’s hilarious

[Anonymous]

I would contact the HOA. This isn’t acceptable and I would be furious.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, people pay big bucks to go to resorts where they can experience this kind of thing. Clearly it’s not your thing to watch or listen, so just ignore it and move along with your life. They’re adults in their own space.

It wouldn't bother me but this is a consent issue. When you go to a sex resort- everyone there knows and consents to what will happen. When you have sex in public and other people who aren't expecting it and havent consented to it can see or hear you - that's not ethical kink. What if a child or a survivor of SA witnessed it? Not cool.

I agree with you. This also applies to children hearing their parents in the house.

What is the issue with children hearing parents have healthy sex once in awhile???? I don’t like to be seen or heard, but if my kids happened to see/hear us I don’t see why anyone should be ashamed. If anything, children (including adult children) should be glad when their parents are having positive sex.

Accidental exposure is an accident but it is on the parents to limit the possibility of exposure. Not making sure that the door can be opened, white noise machines on, etc. are ridiculous. Children can KNOW about sex, safe sex, be in a sex-positive household without having to be subjected to hearing or seeing their parents have sex. Lock up sex toys, put pics/videos in a vault on your phone or computer, etc.

NO ONE IS GLAD for knowing their parents are having sex. No one is like oh good for mom shes on number #2, she is so lucky Dad has such a great tongue. In the abstract, of course, people are happy that other people have fulfilling sex lives AND it can be talked about in open ways but not family directly.

dad has a great tongue? 👅

I agree, no kid is happy / ecstatic when they see their mom getting railed up the ass by daddy.

Ugh yes as a teen and college student I HATED hearing my parents. It didn't seem fair to me that they could carry on but I wasn't allowed b.c I wasnt married. I was made to feel ashamed and guilty for even having sexual thoughts...which I did all the time.
-Recovering Catholic

So you think you’d be better of with parents who had a sexless marriage??? In which case would your kids be better off if you and your spouse didn’t have sex? Couples can’t have sex in their own home until the kids are out? This country really has taken a nosedive. Sure no kid wants to see or hear their parents but they should recognize that it is healthy, appropriate part of family life and like I said before glad their parents are doing it. Some people really need to grow up.

FYI most psychologists, sexologists, and sex-positive therapists disagree with YOU. No one is saying it cant happen accidently but you cannot just free-for-all and act like everyone else is suppressed. Consent applies to this who will witness it or hear it. If you arent willing to negate possible instances of non-consenting persons witnessing or hearing it then you are just self-absorbed.

So I guess apartment dwellers need to get consent from the surrounding apartments? Parents need to get consent from their children? At what age does this consent need to happen?

you know, it is possible to have sex without making an obscene amount of noise. Don’t be an a$$hole just because you seem to think you can. Think about the world at large, not just yourself.

The PP doesn't indicate that there is any acceptable level because any sound could potentially be overheard without conset.

Keep a pillow around and scream into it. Put your face in your down comforter and bite down on the mattress. Use white noise for your kids and also run a air purifier and also keep the A/C circulating fan on and IDK be creative. You all keep living in this world of have banshee sex or be a prude shrew. There is a gray area, that is QUITE LARGE, in between those two ends of the spectrum.

You should know how your house works. Test it. If your kid is downstairs in the basement watching a movie and you are on the 3rd floor scream really loud and shake the bed. If you cant hear it in the basement you are good! Just keep the door locked.

Y'all are acting like you dont know how to navigate other people. Do your best to limit accidental exposure for non-adults to your, apparently loud and frequent, sex life (I thought this was DCUM where no man ever gets any?)

I am a very private person, but you are absolutely nutty.

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Anonymous wrote:Sooooo… my DH and I sat outside for a nightcap and heard it. Super awkward. Why would anyone do this? We started laughing - not offended but definitely thought it was an odd night to choose for it.

Cheer them on.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes it's illegal even in your own backyard
https://kpic.com/amp/news/local/roseburg-couple-arrested-for-public-sexual-encounter

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2384902/Man-woman-arrested-having-sex-broad-daylight-yard-strangers-home.html

https://www.irishmirror.ie/news/naked-man-81-arrested-having-6164242

That first link is great.

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Anonymous wrote:any person who intentionally exposes themselves indecently in public, or their private parts in the presence of other people, can face charges for indecent exposure.

If a child sees it you can be charged with

Lewd, indecent, or obscene acts; sexual proposal to a minor.
It is unlawful for a person, in public, to make an obscene or indecent exposure of his or her genitalia or anus, to engage in masturbation, or to engage in a sexual act as defined in § 22-3001(8). It is unlawful for a person to make an obscene or indecent sexual proposal to a minor. A person who violates any provision of this section shall be guilty of a misdemeanor and, upon conviction, shall be fined not more than the amount set forth in § 22-3571.01, imprisoned for not more than 90 days, or both

You have reading comprehension issues.

[Anonymous]

It’s only ok if they were hot

[Anonymous]

My husband and I have done this, behind our garage after dark. We tell the kids we are going on a walk, but in reality, we throw a blanket down and go at it in our fenced yard. We are quiet, so I don’t think neighbors hear. Our kids won’t venture that far into the yard after dark. In the summer, it’s the only peace we get with teens in the house. There’s also something fun about knowing it’s sort of forbidden.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I have done this, behind our garage after dark. We tell the kids we are going on a walk, but in reality, we throw a blanket down and go at it in our fenced yard. We are quiet, so I don’t think neighbors hear. Our kids won’t venture that far into the yard after dark. In the summer, it’s the only peace we get with teens in the house. There’s also something fun about knowing it’s sort of forbidden.

That’s offensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I have done this, behind our garage after dark. We tell the kids we are going on a walk, but in reality, we throw a blanket down and go at it in our fenced yard. We are quiet, so I don’t think neighbors hear. Our kids won’t venture that far into the yard after dark. In the summer, it’s the only peace we get with teens in the house. There’s also something fun about knowing it’s sort of forbidden.

Good for you both!
DW and I do something similar a couple times each summer.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband and I have done this, behind our garage after dark. We tell the kids we are going on a walk, but in reality, we throw a blanket down and go at it in our fenced yard. We are quiet, so I don’t think neighbors hear. Our kids won’t venture that far into the yard after dark. In the summer, it’s the only peace we get with teens in the house. There’s also something fun about knowing it’s sort of forbidden.

Good luck with the rabies

[Anonymous]

This post is pretty old - like pandemic era. I can tell you that my wife and I had to get pretty creative during the pandemic in order to have time for us. We were doing it in the garage gym, our bnb since it mostly wasn’t occupied, or pretty much anywhere we could fund some privacy. Looking back, it was kind of a fun change.

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Anonymous wrote:This post is pretty old - like pandemic era. I can tell you that my wife and I had to get pretty creative during the pandemic in order to have time for us. We were doing it in the garage gym, our bnb since it mostly wasn’t occupied, or pretty much anywhere we could fund some privacy. Looking back, it was kind of a fun change.

Yeah, this was a truly weird bumped post.