Having a Sibling is Overrated

[Anonymous]

All relationships vary, including those of siblings. We get what we put into it. I can't imagine my life without my siblings. Nor can I imagine my DCs without each other. We all have great relationships. However, I can see that if there is friction for whatever reason, you would not value that relationship.

[Anonymous]

I don't like my sister at all. And, she does not like me. Frankly I think she is a lonely bitch. We tolerate one another because we are related. She loves my child and I foster that relationship, and truth he told, but for my son we probably would
Not communicate us much as we do. I agree, siblings are not all that we both have friends who we are closer with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't like my sister at all. And, she does not like me. Frankly I think she is a lonely bitch. We tolerate one another because we are related. She loves my child and I foster that relationship, and truth he told, but for my son we probably would
Not communicate us much as we do. I agree, siblings are not all that we both have friends who we are closer with.

But on some level you're arguing for the value of a sibling.

If you can't stand your sister, why do you foster the relationship with your son? If friends are the same as a sister, why not just ditch your sister and let someone else fill that role in his life?

Something keeps us connected to our siblings. For better or worse. It's a unique relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have one sibling and we are very close. Even if we weren't though, I feel that there are so many other disadvantages of being an only child. Not only do you not have a sibling, but

1. You don't have anyone in your life who has a shared history with you as a sibling would

2. You don't have anyone to help with the burden of taking care of older parents.

3. You will never be someone's aunt or uncle

4. You will never have nieces or nephews

All of those things are definates. So I am personally going to take a chance and have at least 2 kids. At least there is a decent chance that they will get along and if not, at least they will also have all of the benefits that I listed above.

No. I am an Aunt to my husband's sister's children. I love them deeply. Yes, you can be an aunt or uncle and not have siblings.

Agreed - odd that the "never an aunt or uncle" poster thinks this. I guess that's the downside of having siblings - your parents having so many kids that they don't have time to teach their children how familial relationships work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have one sibling and we are very close. Even if we weren't though, I feel that there are so many other disadvantages of being an only child. Not only do you not have a sibling, but

1. You don't have anyone in your life who has a shared history with you as a sibling would

2. You don't have anyone to help with the burden of taking care of older parents.

3. You will never be someone's aunt or uncle

4. You will never have nieces or nephews

All of those things are definates. So I am personally going to take a chance and have at least 2 kids. At least there is a decent chance that they will get along and if not, at least they will also have all of the benefits that I listed above.

No. I am an Aunt to my husband's sister's children. I love them deeply. Yes, you can be an aunt or uncle and not have siblings.

You divorce your husband, will you still be aunt, or replaced by another?

[Anonymous]

I am kind of surprised at how many people feel the need to contradict OP on this. I wouldn't think it's that hard to recognize that people have different experiences and no one can really predict what their kids will be like, much less what their kids' relationship will be like.

[Anonymous]

Agree. This is OP. Am surprised people are so defensive.

[Anonymous]

This is a discussion forum. Some people have posted in agreement with the OP, others have posted in disagreement.

What was everybody supposed to do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't like my sister at all. And, she does not like me. Frankly I think she is a lonely bitch. We tolerate one another because we are related. She loves my child and I foster that relationship, and truth he told, but for my son we probably would
Not communicate us much as we do. I agree, siblings are not all that we both have friends who we are closer with.

But on some level you're arguing for the value of a sibling.

If you can't stand your sister, why do you foster the relationship with your son? If friends are the same as a sister, why not just ditch your sister and let someone else fill that role in his life?

Something keeps us connected to our siblings. For better or worse. It's a unique relationship.

I am not making that argument at all. I foster the relationship because my son wants it, and she is loving to my son.

As to the second bolded above, that is not a true statement. My husband took care of his terminally I'll mother by himself. He has an older sister and a younger brother, but my husband took care of his mum. I forgive the brother because he has a mental illness, but that selfish spoiled sister had no excuse. He has not spoken to her in more than fifteen years. There was nothing to connect them after the death of their parents.

Don't get me wrong. I have seen loving sibling relationships, but to say that is in every family is a lie. Many people do not like their siblings, but they endure or tolerate them because of blood. Life is too shOrt and there is no reason to keep people in it who add little value and lots of conflict.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have one sibling and we are very close. Even if we weren't though, I feel that there are so many other disadvantages of being an only child. Not only do you not have a sibling, but

1. You don't have anyone in your life who has a shared history with you as a sibling would

2. You don't have anyone to help with the burden of taking care of older parents.

3. You will never be someone's aunt or uncle

4. You will never have nieces or nephews

All of those things are definates. So I am personally going to take a chance and have at least 2 kids. At least there is a decent chance that they will get along and if not, at least they will also have all of the benefits that I listed above.

I have a biological sister. She is childless by choice. My husband's sister has 2 daughters. I am their aunt They are my nieces. Mind blown yet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have one sibling and we are very close. Even if we weren't though, I feel that there are so many other disadvantages of being an only child. Not only do you not have a sibling, but

1. You don't have anyone in your life who has a shared history with you as a sibling would

2. You don't have anyone to help with the burden of taking care of older parents.

3. You will never be someone's aunt or uncle

4. You will never have nieces or nephews

All of those things are definates. So I am personally going to take a chance and have at least 2 kids. At least there is a decent chance that they will get along and if not, at least they will also have all of the benefits that I listed above.

No. I am an Aunt to my husband's sister's children. I love them deeply. Yes, you can be an aunt or uncle and not have siblings.

You divorce your husband, will you still be aunt, or replaced by another?

Of course I would still be their aunt! I am their aunt! I don't plan on getting divorced, but if I did and my husband married another, I suppose the kids would have an extra aunt, not a replacement. Good lord, you must have terrible family dynamics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have one sibling and we are very close. Even if we weren't though, I feel that there are so many other disadvantages of being an only child. Not only do you not have a sibling, but

1. You don't have anyone in your life who has a shared history with you as a sibling would

2. You don't have anyone to help with the burden of taking care of older parents.

3. You will never be someone's aunt or uncle

4. You will never have nieces or nephews

All of those things are definates. So I am personally going to take a chance and have at least 2 kids. At least there is a decent chance that they will get along and if not, at least they will also have all of the benefits that I listed above.

No. I am an Aunt to my husband's sister's children. I love them deeply. Yes, you can be an aunt or uncle and not have siblings.

You divorce your husband, will you still be aunt, or replaced by another?

Of course I would still be their aunt! I am their aunt! I don't plan on getting divorced, but if I did and my husband married another, I suppose the kids would have an extra aunt, not a replacement. Good lord, you must have terrible family dynamics.

/\ Oh, and by the way, I have siblings and 2 nieces from them. I love all my nieces and nephews the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have one sibling and we are very close. Even if we weren't though, I feel that there are so many other disadvantages of being an only child. Not only do you not have a sibling, but

1. You don't have anyone in your life who has a shared history with you as a sibling would

2. You don't have anyone to help with the burden of taking care of older parents.

3. You will never be someone's aunt or uncle

4. You will never have nieces or nephews

All of those things are definates. So I am personally going to take a chance and have at least 2 kids. At least there is a decent chance that they will get along and if not, at least they will also have all of the benefits that I listed above.

No. I am an Aunt to my husband's sister's children. I love them deeply. Yes, you can be an aunt or uncle and not have siblings.

You divorce your husband, will you still be aunt, or replaced by another?

Of course I would still be their aunt! I am their aunt! I don't plan on getting divorced, but if I did and my husband married another, I suppose the kids would have an extra aunt, not a replacement. Good lord, you must have terrible family dynamics.

Well, that's what you think now and hopefully it would be true. But in reality, you don't know until it happens to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am kind of surprised at how many people feel the need to contradict OP on this. I wouldn't think it's that hard to recognize that people have different experiences and no one can really predict what their kids will be like, much less what their kids' relationship will be like.

You must be new to DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have one sibling and we are very close. Even if we weren't though, I feel that there are so many other disadvantages of being an only child. Not only do you not have a sibling, but

1. You don't have anyone in your life who has a shared history with you as a sibling would

2. You don't have anyone to help with the burden of taking care of older parents.

3. You will never be someone's aunt or uncle

4. You will never have nieces or nephews

All of those things are definates. So I am personally going to take a chance and have at least 2 kids. At least there is a decent chance that they will get along and if not, at least they will also have all of the benefits that I listed above.

No. I am an Aunt to my husband's sister's children. I love them deeply. Yes, you can be an aunt or uncle and not have siblings.

You divorce your husband, will you still be aunt, or replaced by another?

Of course I would still be their aunt! I am their aunt! I don't plan on getting divorced, but if I did and my husband married another, I suppose the kids would have an extra aunt, not a replacement. Good lord, you must have terrible family dynamics.

Well, that's what you think now and hopefully it would be true. But in reality, you don't know until it happens to you.

No, I know for a fact that I AM THEIR AUNT. Get over it.