Not attractive enough for the men I am attracted to

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I got a nose job because I hated my nose and the confidence I gained was amazing.

Totally worth it, would do it again in a heartbeat.

What if your daughter ends up with the same nose? I guess surgery all over again for her too down the line…

https://orangecountycosmeticsurgery.com/nose-surgery/wife-sued-over-delivering-ugly-baby/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really difficult to tell. What exactly is wrong with your appearance? Is your face not cute? Are you fat? Or too thin? There’s not a lot of details here.

Most men will go for anything with a vagina, so that’s why I’m not understanding.

Your statement is so not true!
- a woman who is reasonably good looking but wasn’t always wanted

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really difficult to tell. What exactly is wrong with your appearance? Is your face not cute? Are you fat? Or too thin? There’s not a lot of details here.

Most men will go for anything with a vagina, so that’s why I’m not understanding.

I have an ugly face. Large crooked nose, odd face shape.

My body is thin but not toned.

DP.
Gym and surgery

[Anonymous]

I had a friend in college with thinning hair and a big nose on an unattractive face, but she did have a nice body. Men always pursued her and I remember always being surprised.

Play up what you’ve got. Wear makeup. Dress well. Standup straight. Get some hobbies and fun things to talk about.

A nice figure is 90% of the battle.

[Anonymous]

I would go for the nose job. Otherwise like PP have suggested, definitely start going to the gym because a hot body is enough for lots of guys especially if you do your hair and makeup. Lastly I would consider something that you might be able to let go of when considering men: maybe shorter than average, overweight, etc. I'd 1000% rather settle for something off in the looks department over a bad personality or lack of financial stability.

[Anonymous]

Find a way to love yourself and accept yourself for who you are.

You really need to learn to love yourself before anyone else can love you. You have thin going for you. Thin trumps pretty face. But really just learn to appreciate yourself more and you may attract more attractive men.

You also need to be realistic about your potential partners- stay in your lane. If you’re a 4 you can’t expect to land an 8.

[Anonymous]

Welp, that settles it. I'm never dating men ever again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Really difficult to tell. What exactly is wrong with your appearance? Is your face not cute? Are you fat? Or too thin? There’s not a lot of details here.

Most men will go for anything with a vagina, so that’s why I’m not understanding.

I have an ugly face. Large crooked nose, odd face shape.

My body is thin but not toned.

You can work with this! Thin is the most important part of physical beauty in modern society, besides smile and 'air of confidence'. First dress for your body. If you don't know how, go to Nieman Marcus and tell the ladies you need help. One of my friends straight "off the boat" from a country with completely different fashion standards did this and it was transformational. Secondly know your colors and how to do your make up.

Always smile.
A smile is the MOST IMPORTANT part of your look. If you have the rest on the inside, as you say, the rest will come. The second most important part is confidence. So, if you're still worried about your body incorporate a weight routine 3 days a week and firm up a bit. Finally on the nonphysical side, get some nice girlfriends that have other friends - that's still the best way to meet good people.

Most people won't notice your flaws the way you do, like a crooked nose. It will still be there but the other good attributes will cover them a bit. I have enormous calves, like I'm thin but can barely wear jeans and they rival the circumstance of my thighs - when I mention it to people they always say 'uh, I didn't notice'. I also dress for my body though.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think I am ugly but I’m not super pretty either. Usually men tell me I’m cute and say I’m beautiful while on a date (whatever this means). I think I’m one of those people who you need to get to know in order to appreciate, so creating opportunities to connect is important for a successful dating life.

How’s your personality?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would go for the nose job. Otherwise like PP have suggested, definitely start going to the gym because a hot body is enough for lots of guys especially if you do your hair and makeup. Lastly I would consider something that you might be able to let go of when considering men: maybe shorter than average, overweight, etc. I'd 1000% rather settle for something off in the looks department over a bad personality or lack of financial stability.

Like most entitled women I bet you she wants the attractive men the other women get. I know woman like that. She has a face with unusual features and she would not settle at all. She is 42 today and still single. Even for hookups she was an attractive guy 🤦‍♂️

[Anonymous]

Op if you think your big nose is holding you back would get a nose job ….not to completely transform your face but soften features a bit. A good facial plastic surgeon can help you see possibilities. Get a great haircut and nice clothes that show off your slim figure but also you need to boost self confidence and be fun, kind and well read/interesting. I have a kinda strong nose and thin hair but it never stopped me from dating lots of people and getting married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I want what every woman wants: a good man with a sense of direction and a financially successful. A good heart and good values.

I know when I spot them but they do not even see me. I know why, I am not conventionally attractive. I know the kind of women they want. Feminine, attractive, put together but also down to earth.

I believe i have the character traits but my face and body do not signal my worthiness.

Do I just lower my standards? I can't seem to know how to downgrade!

Personality traits go a long way once a man gets to know you. Face wise just don't look ugly which isn't too difficult if you know how to use a little make up correctly. In terms of body, anyone can get a decent body from working out and eating healthy. You can get a tone body from running and eating well.

[Anonymous]

Any woman can improve her looks significantly with diet, exercise, makeup, hair, clothes and failing all that - plastic surgery. If you can afford these things, try it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I want what every woman wants: a good man with a sense of direction and a financially successful. A good heart and good values.

I know when I spot them but they do not even see me. I know why, I am not conventionally attractive. I know the kind of women they want. Feminine, attractive, put together but also down to earth.

I believe i have the character traits but my face and body do not signal my worthiness.

Do I just lower my standards? I can't seem to know how to downgrade!

How financially successful are we talking here? No, if you’re not pretty, rich guys aren’t interested. You can improve what you have to get an average guy, maybe. Men want the prettiest woman they can get.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure what you mean by you can "spot them when you see them".

How do you spot a guy with a good heart and good values and "sense of direction" unless you've spent considerable time with them? Or you being just a superficial and looking at their appearance and their wallet?

You're ugly and want a rich guy - just admit it. Not gonna happen unless you spend a significant time with a rich guy and he sees past your face. All the other things on your list are attainable.