Ma’am, get away from us. Did you just say trichy dick? |
I am sure there is much wisdom in your post. But it is high time women stopped putting themselves in financially dependent situations, so they feel trapped like you did. It is a dangerous place to be, and we need to teach our daughters that. I feel like I would not have bit my lip and submitted to unwanted sex because that made the most sense in terms of money or logistics. But maybe for your family it was the best thing. I hope future women maintain more control and have supports outside of their husbands. Also, that the legal system would front women some money to seek legal advice early in the process. I hope that you are in a good place now (and that your ex is alone). |
The fact that many people have a disease doesn’t mean that OP wants it. There are also many different strains of HPV, all of which dramatically increase a woman’s risk of developing cervical cancer and a man’s risk of developing throat cancer. |
This is OP and man this thread has gone in many different directions. I was diagnosed with trichomoniasis, not HPV. Ive had 3 doctors tell me it's highly unlikely to have this transmitted through anything other than sexual contact, but my DH continues to claim he has been 100% faithful. I'm sorry, I just can't believe the toilet seat theory. That's just pathetic. |
We don't believe that and we don't believe your DH. |
Those are transmitted the same way. If there are no obvious risk factors (like sitting in a public hot tub), your DH is lying. |
This is such a helpful note, coming from a person with experience. I was cheated on and left (did not have an STD) but my children were 9 and 14. So, a different world. Good luck OP. It IS nice to not have that negative energy in the home. Let your friends and family be there for you! |
This is easy for you to say and judge when you have never experienced it. Being in an abusive situation is a slow process over time that slowly degrades your sense of reality. Strong and independent women find themselves in these situations as well. Abuse can happen to anyone, so please stop with your condescending posts. |
OP, have you retested? I just watched an Instagram reel yesterday where this young woman told the story of finding herself in the EXACT same situation (8 years in a monogamous relationship, tested positive for trich, thought her relationship was over, partner insisted he’d never cheated). So they went together, got tested, and were both negative. Apparently the incidence of false positives isn’t that low?
Anyway, I have not read all 22 pages so maybe you have already addressed this. |
The NIH says an extensive literature search showed that nonsexual transmission of trichomonas can occur through fomites like towels and toilet seats and from swimming pools.
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You think a study accessible through PubMed means the "NIH" did "an extensive literature search?" You don't even know how this works. PubMed is a search engine. It doesn't mean the NIH is taking a stand, or doing anything with it. |
I’m sorry, OP. If your marriage was already bad and if you were really that unhappy, maybe it doesn’t matter whether or not he really cheated. Maybe this is just the catalyst you need to either recommit and build up your marriage or end things and move on. Good luck. |
Well said. If nothing else, this incident means it is time to evaluate your marriage, OP. Stay or go? |
NP. I don't think that's true. I think it affects a certain personality type. I'm certainly not blaming you for being susceptible to it, nor am I excusing it. But I do not think it can happen to "anyone." |
I disagree with you. |