Get checked for herpes. Assess your financial situation: perhaps, it's better to open marriage and both of you dating vs a divorce. Housing is insane, and your child will be torn between 2 households. How old are you OP? |
So sorry, OP. I'm assuming your doctor was able to explain whether the STI is one that incubates or not, you don't need DCUM to do it.
Agree with the people who say you should talk to an attorney. If you want to put the screws to him, my understanding is if you contact the best attorneys in the area and have an initial meeting then he can't use them. |
Exactly. I got it when I was 25 from a fling, way before marriage and before the vaccine. Treated it, then it went into remission. Has returned twice and gone away twice on its own. Has come out of remission when I am under extreme stress. |
Is it possible to spread through public toilets or pools? |
The initial consult with the best attorneys of the area is over $500 an hour. Not sure it's worth it just so he can't use them. Unless it's a high asset divorce... |
lol, when I was a teenager, my friend got pubic crabs from her boyfriend. He told her he got them at the beach. lol, she believed him until us girls educated her. |
I asked that question but the nurse (it wasn't a doc) said the chances of that are just really, really slim. I think that theory is pretty close to just false hope. But appreciate the optimism? |
Can she afford not to for another 15 years of her child's life? How about daughter issues with not having a dad around or the teen years when it's just mom and her? She doesn't need to stay with him as a complete married couple with sex, but losing a husband and dad and having no control over raising your daughter half the time or the money in raising and living is no joke. |
BV is not an STD. |
It can also not be worth it legal fees and what might come out of a settlement if the STD is able to be treated. |
This does not suffice. What the above poster said is true, the actual type infection in question matters. Not all are STDs, not all are spread exclusively through sex, and you can have something that lies dormant for a long time and even test negative for it only to have it recur later on. |
lots of people have this issue. Courts don't necessarily care. |
I found out my now XH had cheated when I got a bacterial infection. I’d had a suspicion and he admitted it once confronted. I’d never ever had a BV before. My doctor indicated that it’s not uncommon for married women to catch their husbands cheating that way. Something about a change that your body can detect.
I’m sorry OP. Start compiling your financial information and talk to a lawyer (talk to several, he won’t be able to use the ones you talk to) before you let on that you know. Hopefully the std can be cleared with antibiotics. |
Would chat with an attorney and then have a chat with DH. If that doesn’t work or go over than it doesn’t matter why or how you got the STD, be done with DH. He doesn’t deserve you. |
Same, I got my first ever UTI and then first BV 6 months later. I'm embarrassed to say it never clicked (I thought something changed after having kids) but a year later I found out he was cheating during that time. It is so disgusting and violating. I'm really sorry OP. |