Test results came back positive
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What I thought was a run of the mill yeast infection turned out positive for an std. I've been monogamous and married for 10 yrs, together for 12. We have been quite detached and I've been unhappy but this has really taken me by surprise. We share a child who is 5. What would you do? My DH is generally dismissive and in denial on most things so I imagine he'll gaslit me and deny it when I broach the topic. It's a nightmare to think of co parenting and sharing my time with my child. Can I ask him to move out? Should I call a divorce lawyer before even bringing it up? There is no chance of reconciliation as far as im concerned.
And to preempt what I know at least one person will say, yes I know and am aware I need to now get a full panel std test. Believe me, I know. |
Anonymous
| I would first consult with a divorce attorney and set everything up before dropping the bomb. Put yourself in the best position possible. |
Anonymous
| What is the std |
Anonymous
Different poster. Why does it matter? |
Anonymous
| I'm embarrassed not to know this -- but I thought this doesn't always mean what we think it means? |
Anonymous
for this reason, I'd put this in the health forum |
Anonymous
| First I think you should talk to your doctor and make sure this means what you think it means. |
Anonymous
| OP here- already talked with my doctor. Talking to another doctor later this week. Only real probability was a recent partner. I don't know why the type of std matters. |
Anonymous
NP here, There are STD's that can be dormant for long periods of time, and others where symptoms show up immediately. There are also STD's that can only be passed through sex, and others that can be transmitted other ways. So, knowing whether this STD means that he definitely had an affair, or that he might have had an affair, would make a difference in OP's response. |
Anonymous
| OP here-:maybe this will suffice. I did a full std panel when I was pregnant 6 yrs ago |
Anonymous
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I'm the one who brought cold sore herpes into the marriage, and I had it before being sexually active. Caught it drinking from someone else's glass at school, I suppose. I assume my husband is now positive for it, but he's never gotten tested.
Do you think there could that sort of explanation? |
Anonymous
This. And, honestly, BV is different from HIV. |
Anonymous
I have been with my husband for over 20 years. When we first got together he had just found out he had genital warts/HPV. I never got them. My OB told me to get the HPV shot because his warts to could dormant for YEARS but could still spread to me at a later time. This is why it matter which STD. |
Anonymous
| OP - which STD is it? It's relevant and kid of silly to not tell this info on the forum |
Anonymous
| It's probably chlamydia. That one is contagius but may present as a yeast infection I think? |