Test results came back positive

[Anonymous]

This is OP and in retrospect, perhaps we should have done things differently. My OB sent in a prescription for him alongside mine and he took the meds. We both got tested after we finished our meds course and both tested negative. I suppose he should've tested first to confirm because now one of his storylines is that he never had it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP and in retrospect, perhaps we should have done things differently. My OB sent in a prescription for him alongside mine and he took the meds. We both got tested after we finished our meds course and both tested negative. I suppose he should've tested first to confirm because now one of his storylines is that he never had it.

Listen: did you have sexual contact with anyone other than dh? If the answer is no, he has been passing his dick around to a skank(s). Next time, it could be syphilus or hiv.

[Anonymous]

True story here. My on-again off-again girlfriend and I were together for months. Neither of us had any symptoms. We broke up. I got tested before dating again. Negative results.

Then I had sex with other women.

A few months later I got back together with ex gf. A week later, she had symptoms (very painful). She got tested. She was positive for gonorrhea. She said she had no sex of any kind with anyone while we were broken up. I believe her.

We both assumed assumed I gave it to her. Then I tested negative.

So either she was a false positive (with a bad UTI) or I was a false negative (with no symptoms).

False results really happen!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP and in retrospect, perhaps we should have done things differently. My OB sent in a prescription for him alongside mine and he took the meds. We both got tested after we finished our meds course and both tested negative. I suppose he should've tested first to confirm because now one of his storylines is that he never had it.

This is illegal for your OB to do, so I hope you’re a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP and in retrospect, perhaps we should have done things differently. My OB sent in a prescription for him alongside mine and he took the meds. We both got tested after we finished our meds course and both tested negative. I suppose he should've tested first to confirm because now one of his storylines is that he never had it.

This is illegal for your OB to do, so I hope you’re a troll.

What is illegal??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP and in retrospect, perhaps we should have done things differently. My OB sent in a prescription for him alongside mine and he took the meds. We both got tested after we finished our meds course and both tested negative. I suppose he should've tested first to confirm because now one of his storylines is that he never had it.

This is illegal for your OB to do, so I hope you’re a troll.

What is illegal??

NP. Prescribing to someone who's not your patient, presumably.

OP, my ex-H gave me trich and also said all the same things your H is saying. But of course he was lying, which came out later. I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, have you retested? I just watched an Instagram reel yesterday where this young woman told the story of finding herself in the EXACT same situation (8 years in a monogamous relationship, tested positive for trich, thought her relationship was over, partner insisted he’d never cheated). So they went together, got tested, and were both negative. Apparently the incidence of false positives isn’t that low?

Anyway, I have not read all 22 pages so maybe you have already addressed this.

This is OP. I had very clear symptoms and one OB I spoke to said the chances of a false positive are incredibly low. I'm not sure why I keep seeking validation but my DH is so adamant he didn't do anything and his story is now that I'm the one who gave it him. He also says I must've gotten it in a pool months ago. Or the test was wrong. Its been so confusing. Does anyone know how contracting an STD plays into separation or divorce proceedings? Im guessing it ends up becoming a he said/she said scenario but wondering if it can feed into as an at fault divorce.

F that. The gall. In all the arrogant, gaslighting rudeness. I’m pissed for you OP. Divorce is divorce. In MD there is only an absolute divorce. No one legally cares about fault! File asap. He’s horrible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've always been fascinated by the theoretical risk of pregnancy via sperm surviving in warm water. Is tv similar

No, it lives on a surface (like a towel) then you have sex, he wipes with the towel, go for round 2 and viola, it gets inside you.

It doesn’t live that long in a towel (5-10 min) and one wipe if his stick isn’t passing it. My god.

And who put it on the towel ??? The affair partner that showered there ?

Is he taking other peoples towels at the gym and rubbing it on his D for a good 5 minutes, and even then.

Lmaof as a microbiologist/parasitologist who has done tons of shelf life experiments with bugs.

Omg, I am cracking up 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is OP and in retrospect, perhaps we should have done things differently. My OB sent in a prescription for him alongside mine and he took the meds. We both got tested after we finished our meds course and both tested negative. I suppose he should've tested first to confirm because now one of his storylines is that he never had it.

This is illegal for your OB to do, so I hope you’re a troll.

What is illegal??

NP. Prescribing to someone who's not your patient, presumably.

OP, my ex-H gave me trich and also said all the same things your H is saying. But of course he was lying, which came out later. I'm sorry.

If that's what PP meant, then PP is completely wrong. Partner treatment is standard of care.

Here is the CDC on "expedited partner treatment" for gonorrhea and chlamydia. It has become standard treatment for all treatable STIs:

https://www.cdc.gov/std/ept/default.htm
Expedited Partner Therapy

Expedited Partner Therapy (EPT) is the clinical practice of treating the sex partners of patients diagnosed with chlamydia or gonorrhea by providing prescriptions or medications to the patient to take to his/her partner without the health care provider first examining the partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here- already talked with my doctor. Talking to another doctor later this week. Only real probability was a recent partner. I don't know why the type of std matters.

Because some STDs (like HPV) can remain dormant in your system for years and then reactivate in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:True story here. My on-again off-again girlfriend and I were together for months. Neither of us had any symptoms. We broke up. I got tested before dating again. Negative results.

Then I had sex with other women.

A few months later I got back together with ex gf. A week later, she had symptoms (very painful). She got tested. She was positive for gonorrhea. She said she had no sex of any kind with anyone while we were broken up. I believe her.

We both assumed assumed I gave it to her. Then I tested negative.

So either she was a false positive (with a bad UTI) or I was a false negative (with no symptoms).

False results really happen!

You gave it to her. You cleared it first. This happens. Vaginal tissue is a better incubator for bacteria. Why you guys don't wear condoms is baffling. You know STDs run in groups/pairs. That includes HIV.

[Anonymous]

Just for everyone to know- it is common practice and legally allowed in many states for providers to prescribe prescriptions to a patient’s partner who had an STD. This is because STDs are a public health issue. It is common for example for a pediatrician to write a prescription to a sexual partner for chymadia and gonorrhea otherwise they will keep passing the disease back and forth. It is called expedited partner therapy.

[Anonymous]

https://www.cdc.gov/std/ept/default.htm

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here- already talked with my doctor. Talking to another doctor later this week. Only real probability was a recent partner. I don't know why the type of std matters.

It matters because HPV can be in your system for years and then reactivate.

Not really. Usually your body completely clears an hpv infection or you will continue to test positive for it. By “laying dormant,” it means the hpv infection isn’t causing any precancerous cells, not that it’s undetectable. If someone tests negative for hpv and then tests positive, it almost always means they have a new infection.

You’re wrong. I’m single and haven’t had sex or any sexual contact or even dated since 2018. Never had an abnormal Pap test or positive STD panel, then in 2022 suddenly had a Pap showing HPV. I asked the doctor how this happens, and she said the virus can be dormant for a long while then emerge. I had no symptoms either.

So yes, a woman can test positive for HPV but not have it from a recent sexual interaction.

[Anonymous]

HPV is everywhere. Can't avoid it. That's why women get Pap smears and why the HPV vaccine exists. One can be exposed to HPV if one has 1 sexual partner or if one has hundreds. Lots of HPV strains are just in the environment, and not necessarily spread via sexual contact. Geez. Can't live in a bubble.