Aupair wants to buy own car after totaling my car (car wreck was off duty)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like this was a troll post.

Uh, yeah. No host family ever would deal with this or even care this much. Troll.

[Anonymous]

Wow - if this is a real post, that Au Pair is a master manipulator!

[Anonymous]

If anyone is interested how things are going: the insurance company of the other person who was involved in the car accident gave my support 3 thousand dollars in my aupair's name and she had originally said she was going to pay me back the $2000 I paid for her ambulance with that money.

After I had to leave work early so she could get something notarized to get the money, she changed her mind and said she's keeping all the money to herself even though I didn't recover the car's full value from insurance and evemthouvhshe never would have even gotten this money if she hadn't wrecked my car in the first place.

I think she's being very selfish. But I am trying my best to let it go even though I think she is showing a complete lack of respect for me. Am I being overly dramatic?

She already knows I prohibit her getting a new car, I told her she can rematch if she wants to drive that badly and she said she would rather stay with our family than have her own car.

-OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If anyone is interested how things are going: the insurance company of the other person who was involved in the car accident gave my support 3 thousand dollars in my aupair's name and she had originally said she was going to pay me back the $2000 I paid for her ambulance with that money.

After I had to leave work early so she could get something notarized to get the money, she changed her mind and said she's keeping all the money to herself even though I didn't recover the car's full value from insurance and evemthouvhshe never would have even gotten this money if she hadn't wrecked my car in the first place.

I think she's being very selfish. But I am trying my best to let it go even though I think she is showing a complete lack of respect for me. Am I being overly dramatic?

She already knows I prohibit her getting a new car, I told her she can rematch if she wants to drive that badly and she said she would rather stay with our family than have her own car.

-OP

Wow, no.

I would have an immediate sit down with the LCC. She got money, she needs to pay up to that amount to make up the difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If anyone is interested how things are going: the insurance company of the other person who was involved in the car accident gave my support 3 thousand dollars in my aupair's name and she had originally said she was going to pay me back the $2000 I paid for her ambulance with that money.

After I had to leave work early so she could get something notarized to get the money, she changed her mind and said she's keeping all the money to herself even though I didn't recover the car's full value from insurance and evemthouvhshe never would have even gotten this money if she hadn't wrecked my car in the first place.

I think she's being very selfish. But I am trying my best to let it go even though I think she is showing a complete lack of respect for me. Am I being overly dramatic?

She already knows I prohibit her getting a new car, I told her she can rematch if she wants to drive that badly and she said she would rather stay with our family than have her own car.

-OP

Lol this isn’t real, troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If anyone is interested how things are going: the insurance company of the other person who was involved in the car accident gave my support 3 thousand dollars in my aupair's name and she had originally said she was going to pay me back the $2000 I paid for her ambulance with that money.

After I had to leave work early so she could get something notarized to get the money, she changed her mind and said she's keeping all the money to herself even though I didn't recover the car's full value from insurance and evemthouvhshe never would have even gotten this money if she hadn't wrecked my car in the first place.

I think she's being very selfish. But I am trying my best to let it go even though I think she is showing a complete lack of respect for me. Am I being overly dramatic?

She already knows I prohibit her getting a new car, I told her she can rematch if she wants to drive that badly and she said she would rather stay with our family than have her own car.

-OP

Wow, no.

I would have an immediate sit down with the LCC. She got money, she needs to pay up to that amount to make up the difference.

Thank you! I will talk to my LCC about it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If anyone is interested how things are going: the insurance company of the other person who was involved in the car accident gave my support 3 thousand dollars in my aupair's name and she had originally said she was going to pay me back the $2000 I paid for her ambulance with that money.

After I had to leave work early so she could get something notarized to get the money, she changed her mind and said she's keeping all the money to herself even though I didn't recover the car's full value from insurance and evemthouvhshe never would have even gotten this money if she hadn't wrecked my car in the first place.

I think she's being very selfish. But I am trying my best to let it go even though I think she is showing a complete lack of respect for me. Am I being overly dramatic?

She already knows I prohibit her getting a new car, I told her she can rematch if she wants to drive that badly and she said she would rather stay with our family than have her own car.

-OP

Lol this isn’t real, troll.

Unfortunately this is real. My first AP was amazing and I never had any issues with her but this one really has been a nightmare. I never could have imagined this would happen but it has.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If anyone is interested how things are going: the insurance company of the other person who was involved in the car accident gave my support 3 thousand dollars in my aupair's name and she had originally said she was going to pay me back the $2000 I paid for her ambulance with that money.

After I had to leave work early so she could get something notarized to get the money, she changed her mind and said she's keeping all the money to herself even though I didn't recover the car's full value from insurance and evemthouvhshe never would have even gotten this money if she hadn't wrecked my car in the first place.

I think she's being very selfish. But I am trying my best to let it go even though I think she is showing a complete lack of respect for me. Am I being overly dramatic?

She already knows I prohibit her getting a new car, I told her she can rematch if she wants to drive that badly and she said she would rather stay with our family than have her own car.

-OP

Lol this isn’t real, troll.

Unfortunately this is real. My first AP was amazing and I never had any issues with her but this one really has been a nightmare. I never could have imagined this would happen but it has.

Why have you let it continue? Rematch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If anyone is interested how things are going: the insurance company of the other person who was involved in the car accident gave my support 3 thousand dollars in my aupair's name and she had originally said she was going to pay me back the $2000 I paid for her ambulance with that money.

After I had to leave work early so she could get something notarized to get the money, she changed her mind and said she's keeping all the money to herself even though I didn't recover the car's full value from insurance and evemthouvhshe never would have even gotten this money if she hadn't wrecked my car in the first place.

I think she's being very selfish. But I am trying my best to let it go even though I think she is showing a complete lack of respect for me. Am I being overly dramatic?

She already knows I prohibit her getting a new car, I told her she can rematch if she wants to drive that badly and she said she would rather stay with our family than have her own car.

-OP

Why would you pay $3K for the ambulance ride? She should have insurance. You are the problem. Why did she get money as it was your car and insurance. Give her two weeks notice and go into rematch. Tell her you are deducting her pay from the money she owes you. No more driving in your home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If anyone is interested how things are going: the insurance company of the other person who was involved in the car accident gave my support 3 thousand dollars in my aupair's name and she had originally said she was going to pay me back the $2000 I paid for her ambulance with that money.

After I had to leave work early so she could get something notarized to get the money, she changed her mind and said she's keeping all the money to herself even though I didn't recover the car's full value from insurance and evemthouvhshe never would have even gotten this money if she hadn't wrecked my car in the first place.

I think she's being very selfish. But I am trying my best to let it go even though I think she is showing a complete lack of respect for me. Am I being overly dramatic?

She already knows I prohibit her getting a new car, I told her she can rematch if she wants to drive that badly and she said she would rather stay with our family than have her own car.

-OP

Why would you pay $3K for the ambulance ride? She should have insurance. You are the problem. Why did she get money as it was your car and insurance. Give her two weeks notice and go into rematch. Tell her you are deducting her pay from the money she owes you. No more driving in your home.

If you aren't a troll, you are really a doormat. Childcare cannot be worth this drama.
She lies, wrecks your car, somehow gets you to hand over 3,000 and you still let her watch your kids?

Sounds like they are in *great* hands during the day.

[Anonymous]

I got the LCC involved and she agreed to pay me back for the ambulance! I'm so relieved. Hopefully this shows I'm not a doormat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If anyone is interested how things are going: the insurance company of the other person who was involved in the car accident gave my support 3 thousand dollars in my aupair's name and she had originally said she was going to pay me back the $2000 I paid for her ambulance with that money.

After I had to leave work early so she could get something notarized to get the money, she changed her mind and said she's keeping all the money to herself even though I didn't recover the car's full value from insurance and evemthouvhshe never would have even gotten this money if she hadn't wrecked my car in the first place.

I think she's being very selfish. But I am trying my best to let it go even though I think she is showing a complete lack of respect for me. Am I being overly dramatic?

She already knows I prohibit her getting a new car, I told her she can rematch if she wants to drive that badly and she said she would rather stay with our family than have her own car.

-OP

Why would you pay $3K for the ambulance ride? She should have insurance. You are the problem. Why did she get money as it was your car and insurance. Give her two weeks notice and go into rematch. Tell her you are deducting her pay from the money she owes you. No more driving in your home.

If you aren't a troll, you are really a doormat. Childcare cannot be worth this drama.
She lies, wrecks your car, somehow gets you to hand over 3,000 and you still let her watch your kids?

Sounds like they are in *great* hands during the day.

She is great with the kids. She just doesn't like me very much, but she loves them. And ultimately that's what matters right? Since I barely see her, the important thing is she loves and cares about the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If anyone is interested how things are going: the insurance company of the other person who was involved in the car accident gave my support 3 thousand dollars in my aupair's name and she had originally said she was going to pay me back the $2000 I paid for her ambulance with that money.

After I had to leave work early so she could get something notarized to get the money, she changed her mind and said she's keeping all the money to herself even though I didn't recover the car's full value from insurance and evemthouvhshe never would have even gotten this money if she hadn't wrecked my car in the first place.

I think she's being very selfish. But I am trying my best to let it go even though I think she is showing a complete lack of respect for me. Am I being overly dramatic?

She already knows I prohibit her getting a new car, I told her she can rematch if she wants to drive that badly and she said she would rather stay with our family than have her own car.

-OP

I don’t understand. Why would she be involved in the money part of this accident? Our Aupair just wrecked our car. We have Geico insurance and other than giving her story to the insurance, she wasn’t involved at all.
Why would she get a check?
Why didn’t her insurance cover the ambulance?
Why would you even get her medical bills?

All of this makes zero sense. I can 100% guarantee if we called our LCC and said we wanted our Aupair to pay a $2k bill, she would tell us this is a ridiculous amount for an Aupair to owe (10 weeks of pay) and that if we didn’t want to gift it, we shouldn’t have paid it. They can negotiate a lower payment if they don’t have coverage but they company isn’t going to get involved in a personal dispute.

How well do you do your job when you hate your boss?
Unless your kids are telling you she’s an amazing aupair who is super nice to them, I wouldn’t assume she treats them well but is clearly treating everyone else with disrespect.


Why would you pay $3K for the ambulance ride? She should have insurance. You are the problem. Why did she get money as it was your car and insurance. Give her two weeks notice and go into rematch. Tell her you are deducting her pay from the money she owes you. No more driving in your home.

If you aren't a troll, you are really a doormat. Childcare cannot be worth this drama.
She lies, wrecks your car, somehow gets you to hand over 3,000 and you still let her watch your kids?

Sounds like they are in *great* hands during the day.

She is great with the kids. She just doesn't like me very much, but she loves them. And ultimately that's what matters right? Since I barely see her, the important thing is she loves and cares about the kids.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand. Why would she be involved in the money part of this accident? Our Aupair just wrecked our car. We have Geico insurance and other than giving her story to the insurance, she wasn’t involved at all.
Why would she get a check?
Why didn’t her insurance cover the ambulance?
Why would you even get her medical bills?

All of this makes zero sense. I can 100% guarantee if we called our LCC and said we wanted our Aupair to pay a $2k bill, she would tell us this is a ridiculous amount for an Aupair to owe (10 weeks of pay) and that if we didn’t want to gift it, we shouldn’t have paid it. They can negotiate a lower payment if they don’t have coverage but they company isn’t going to get involved in a personal dispute.

How well do you do your job when you hate your boss?
Unless your kids are telling you she’s an amazing aupair who is super nice to them, I wouldn’t assume she treats them well but is clearly treating everyone else with disrespect.


Why would you pay $3K for the ambulance ride? She should have insurance. You are the problem. Why did she get money as it was your car and insurance. Give her two weeks notice and go into rematch. Tell her you are deducting her pay from the money she owes you. No more driving in your home.

I'm not asking her to pay me 2k of her own money, I asked her to pay 2k out of the 3k she received as a settlement from the other person's insurance company. She has already received this money in her account. My insurance covered some of the cost of the car she wrecked, but no insurance covers ambulance rides. I paid her ambulance bill when we received it with agreement that she would pay me back if other person's insurance paid her..

Ambulance rides are an out of pocket expense generally but in this case, the person's insurance who was involved in the accident provided her with a settlement fee in her name so that she could use that to cover the ambulance expense, along with a fee for pain and sufferingso she doesn't sue the person who hit the car. Hope that clarifies things.

I have cameras at home (I disclose this always in interview process) and I know she does a good job caring for the kids even if she doesn't like me.

Fortunately this has now been resolved, thanks to LCC, though I do think she's mad I brought LCC into it. Sometimes it takes a third party to mediate though and I found it helpful in this case.

[Anonymous]

This au pair sounds like a bratty teenager, plus she is irresponsible and dangerous. You and your husband are becoming responsible for helping her grow-up and mature but she wants to remain a bratty kid. She is "mainly" focused on her relationship. You should rematch before she does something more irresponsible. You MUST rematch quickly, be strong and rematch.