Being forgotten as the most important figure in a babies life. How to deal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Perfect.

On schedule and in character.

Thanks for making my point, 20:41.

Done now?
Or is bully your middle name?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone can express whatever opinion they want. You don't need to agree at all.

That's true, but when someone says "there are several academic research studies showing XYZ", that's not an opinion, that's a fact. So it's not uncommon to ask what these studies are, and when one says something like that, one should be prepared to show that these studies do indeed exist, and say what the poster say they say.

You can fight the obvious if you want, but at least try to keep up here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone can express whatever opinion they want. You don't need to agree at all.

That's true, but when someone says "there are several academic research studies showing XYZ", that's not an opinion, that's a fact. So it's not uncommon to ask what these studies are, and when one says something like that, one should be prepared to show that these studies do indeed exist, and say what the poster say they say.

You can fight the obvious if you want, but at least try to keep up here.

What do you mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And sorry I can't link the full paper, it is available in the following publication, should you to read the whole study.


Early Child Development and Care, Vol 180(9), Oct, 2010. pp. 1215-1229.

Did you do your legwork, crazy woman?

[Anonymous]

On schedule and in character.

Obvious troll is obvious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how about considering the impact you're making on the child's life? They may not "remember" you, but surely, the lessons you're teaching the child now will stay with him/her for the rest of his/her life.

I agree. I know that caregivers of babies and young children have a permanent and profound effect if you've been longterm.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, how about considering the impact you're making on the child's life? They may not "remember" you, but surely, the lessons you're teaching the child now will stay with him/her for the rest of his/her life.

I agree. I know that caregivers of babies and young children have a permanent and profound effect if you've been longterm.

I am not sure that's true. I was with the same group of caregivers age 1 through 5, and I don't remember a single thing about them. I love my Mom, though, and we are very close.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how about considering the impact you're making on the child's life? They may not "remember" you, but surely, the lessons you're teaching the child now will stay with him/her for the rest of his/her life.

I agree. I know that caregivers of babies and young children have a permanent and profound effect if you've been longterm.

I am not sure that's true. I was with the same group of caregivers age 1 through 5, and I don't remember a single thing about them. I love my Mom, though, and we are very close.

You seem to have misread. It's not about consciously "remembering". It's much more than that.
It's certainly good that you have a good relationship with your mother. That's always a huge blessing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how about considering the impact you're making on the child's life? They may not "remember" you, but surely, the lessons you're teaching the child now will stay with him/her for the rest of his/her life.

I agree. I know that caregivers of babies and young children have a permanent and profound effect if you've been longterm.

I am not sure that's true. I was with the same group of caregivers age 1 through 5, and I don't remember a single thing about them. I love my Mom, though, and we are very close.

OP here- That is my fear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how about considering the impact you're making on the child's life? They may not "remember" you, but surely, the lessons you're teaching the child now will stay with him/her for the rest of his/her life.

I agree. I know that caregivers of babies and young children have a permanent and profound effect if you've been longterm.

I am not sure that's true. I was with the same group of caregivers age 1 through 5, and I don't remember a single thing about them. I love my Mom, though, and we are very close.

You seem to have misread. It's not about consciously "remembering". It's much more than that.
It's certainly good that you have a good relationship with your mother. That's always a huge blessing.

OP, as someone said, it's not about "remembering" you.
And btw, I don't believe that you wouldn't not remember who cared for you for 4 yrs. That seems like a bit of a fib.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how about considering the impact you're making on the child's life? They may not "remember" you, but surely, the lessons you're teaching the child now will stay with him/her for the rest of his/her life.

I agree. I know that caregivers of babies and young children have a permanent and profound effect if you've been longterm.

I am not sure that's true. I was with the same group of caregivers age 1 through 5, and I don't remember a single thing about them. I love my Mom, though, and we are very close.

OP here- That is my fear.

OP I don't want to sound insensitive here, but it seems-from everything you have said, the FaceTime, your fears of not being remembered, and your unwillingness to realize your true role here- that you have some issues that are bigger than what's being discussed here. You need to come up with some clear boundaries and a way to cope with the fact that this job will, indeed, one day end and you will be eventually forgotten (or unimportant at the very least). This is the nature of the profession and it is perhaps not the best one for you if it's causing you so much anguish. Speak to someone who knows you or to a professional, you need a bit more help then some random, anonymous forum commentary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how about considering the impact you're making on the child's life? They may not "remember" you, but surely, the lessons you're teaching the child now will stay with him/her for the rest of his/her life.

I agree. I know that caregivers of babies and young children have a permanent and profound effect if you've been longterm.

I am not sure that's true. I was with the same group of caregivers age 1 through 5, and I don't remember a single thing about them. I love my Mom, though, and we are very close.

OP here- That is my fear.

OP I don't want to sound insensitive here, but it seems-from everything you have said, the FaceTime, your fears of not being remembered, and your unwillingness to realize your true role here- that you have some issues that are bigger than what's being discussed here. You need to come up with some clear boundaries and a way to cope with the fact that this job will, indeed, one day end and you will be eventually forgotten (or unimportant at the very least). This is the nature of the profession and it is perhaps not the best one for you if it's causing you so much anguish. Speak to someone
who knows you or to a professional, you need a bit more help then some random, anonymous forum commentary.

Do you know who was your primary caregiver during your first 12 months of life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how about considering the impact you're making on the child's life? They may not "remember" you, but surely, the lessons you're teaching the child now will stay with him/her for the rest of his/her life.

I agree. I know that caregivers of babies and young children have a permanent and profound effect if you've been longterm.

I am not sure that's true. I was with the same group of caregivers age 1 through 5, and I don't remember a single thing about them. I love my Mom, though, and we are very close.

OP here- That is my fear.

OP I don't want to sound insensitive here, but it seems-from everything you have said, the FaceTime, your fears of not being remembered, and your unwillingness to realize your true role here- that you have some issues that are bigger than what's being discussed here. You need to come up with some clear boundaries and a way to cope with the fact that this job will, indeed, one day end and you will be eventually forgotten (or unimportant at the very least). This is the nature of the profession and it is perhaps not the best one for you if it's causing you so much anguish. Speak to someone
who knows you or to a professional, you need a bit more help then some random, anonymous forum commentary.

Do you know who was your primary caregiver during your first 12 months of life?

How is this relevant?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, how about considering the impact you're making on the child's life? They may not "remember" you, but surely, the lessons you're teaching the child now will stay with him/her for the rest of his/her life.

I agree. I know that caregivers of babies and young children have a permanent and profound effect if you've been longterm.

I am not sure that's true. I was with the same group of caregivers age 1 through 5, and I don't remember a single thing about them. I love my Mom, though, and we are very close.

OP here- That is my fear.

OP I don't want to sound insensitive here, but it seems-from everything you have said, the FaceTime, your fears of not being remembered, and your unwillingness to realize your true role here- that you have some issues that are bigger than what's being discussed here. You need to come up with some clear boundaries and a way to cope with the fact that this job will, indeed, one day end and you will be eventually forgotten (or unimportant at the very least). This is the nature of the profession and it is perhaps not the best one for you if it's causing you so much anguish. Speak to someone
who knows you or to a professional, you need a bit more help then some random, anonymous forum commentary.

Do you know who was your primary caregiver during your first 12 months of life?

How is this relevant?

Do you even know who took care of you when you were a baby?

[Anonymous]

Didn't mean to stump you, 11:15, with that question....