"Nanny as Parent" phenomenon

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Personally, I've seen lots of accolades on this forum for well-deserving parents. (Check out the "favorite nanny perks" thread, for example.) Lots of parents appreciate and honor the nanny.

No one is painting all parents with a broad brush. There is just as much bad parenting, as there is bad nannying. I think almost anyone would agree with that.

I even know some of these awesome parents.

[Anonymous]

Bump

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Check out the "I love my charge" thread, where the parents almost never see their child, literally. Sometimes 15 minutes a day, some days, not at all. On Saturday and Sunday, there's the weekend shift nanny. The parents pay the bills, but make no time to see who their child is. Almost too outrageous to believe. Except that I to, have seen similar cases.

[Anonymous]

You're resurrecting a two year old thread to reignite a fight on "nannies as parents"?

You need a better hobby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bump

Pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Pathetic, but often true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Check out the "I love my charge" thread, where the parents almost never see their child, literally. Sometimes 15 minutes a day, some days, not at all. On Saturday and Sunday, there's the weekend shift nanny. The parents pay the bills, but make no time to see who their child is. Almost too outrageous to believe. Except that I to, have seen similar cases.

[Anonymous]

When the nanny performs most of the tasks of parenting, the parents can limit their role to "enjoying" the child, as if they were the grandparents.

[Anonymous]

Nannies do not perform most of the tasks of parenting, so your insult is logically flawed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nannies do not perform most of the tasks of parenting, so your insult is logically flawed.

How do you perform your parenting tasks if you're (supposed to) doing office work 40-50+ hours a week?

Oh, I know! You're shopping Hanna's online, at the office.

[Anonymous]

Nannies do not perform most of the tasks of parenting, so your insult is logically flawed.

How do you perform your parenting tasks if you're (supposed to) doing office work 40-50+ hours a week?

Oh, I know! You're shopping Hanna's online, at the office.

You're working hard to troll this thread for a fight, I'll give you that.

Parenting is a 24hr/day, 7 day/week, lifelong adventure. Nannying is a 40hr/week job for a few years.

Nannies are important caregivers, but, like teachers, they are not parents. Those are the facts.

Have a nice day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Nannies do not perform most of the tasks of parenting, so your insult is logically flawed.

How do you perform your parenting tasks if you're (supposed to) doing office work 40-50+ hours a week?

Oh, I know! You're shopping Hanna's online, at the office.

You're working hard to troll this thread for a fight, I'll give you that.

Parenting is a 24hr/day, 7 day/week, lifelong adventure. Nannying is a 40hr/week job for a few years.

Nannies are important caregivers, but, like teachers, they are not parents. Those are the facts.

Have a nice day!

It all depends on the relationship, doesn't it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Nannies do not perform most of the tasks of parenting, so your insult is logically flawed.

How do you perform your parenting tasks if you're (supposed to) doing office work 40-50+ hours a week?

Oh, I know! You're shopping Hanna's online, at the office.

You're working hard to troll this thread for a fight, I'll give you that.

Parenting is a 24hr/day, 7 day/week, lifelong adventure. Nannying is a 40hr/week job for a few years.

Nannies are important caregivers, but, like teachers, they are not parents. Those are the facts.

Have a nice day!

She sure is.

I agree w/ you about the 24/7, lifelong role. When my kids are throwing up at 2 am it's Mommy they call for and Mommy who comes. When the nanny is sick or away on vacation they love the backup caregivers and adjust beautifully.

Not to mention that parents cover the costs of childrearing, including hiring/supervising/and paying a nanny. I hired a nanny who would care for my kids in the way(s) I specify - not however she saw fit. They eat, sleep, wear, do, what I say - because I'm the parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Nannies do not perform most of the tasks of parenting, so your insult is logically flawed.

How do you perform your parenting tasks if you're (supposed to) doing office work 40-50+ hours a week?

Oh, I know! You're shopping Hanna's online, at the office.

You're working hard to troll this thread for a fight, I'll give you that.

Parenting is a 24hr/day, 7 day/week, lifelong adventure. Nannying is a 40hr/week job for a few years.

Nannies are important caregivers, but, like teachers, they are not parents. Those are the facts.

Have a nice day!

She sure is.

I agree w/ you about the 24/7, lifelong role. When my kids are throwing up at 2 am it's Mommy they call for and Mommy who comes. When the nanny is sick or away on vacation they love the backup caregivers and adjust beautifully.

Not to mention that parents cover the costs of childrearing, including hiring/supervising/and paying a nanny. I hired a nanny who would care for my kids in the way(s) I specify - not however she saw fit. They eat, sleep, wear, do, what I say - because I'm the parent.

You could study the nanny vs sitter thread, and learn a few things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Nannies do not perform most of the tasks of parenting, so your insult is logically flawed.

How do you perform your parenting tasks if you're (supposed to) doing office work 40-50+ hours a week?

Oh, I know! You're shopping Hanna's online, at the office.

You're working hard to troll this thread for a fight, I'll give you that.

Parenting is a 24hr/day, 7 day/week, lifelong adventure. Nannying is a 40hr/week job for a few years.

Nannies are important caregivers, but, like teachers, they are not parents. Those are the facts.

Have a nice day!

She sure is.

I agree w/ you about the 24/7, lifelong role. When my kids are throwing up at 2 am it's Mommy they call for and Mommy who comes. When the nanny is sick or away on vacation they love the backup caregivers and adjust beautifully.

Not to mention that parents cover the costs of childrearing, including hiring/supervising/and paying a nanny. I hired a nanny who would care for my kids in the way(s) I specify - not however she saw fit. They eat, sleep, wear, do, what I say - because I'm the parent.

You could study the nanny vs sitter thread, and learn a few things.

The only thing I'm learning here is not to hire any nanny who is aware of DCUM. It's far too nasty and skewed a universe.